- Jun 27, 2021
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I feel lost. I am currently concluding 6 years of bad relationships with Gomers. 3 Gomers over 6 years. The last Gomer was 3 years on and off. Funny, but the last break up was 3 years to the day of when we first got romantic. Hmm...a lot of 3's...
**Immediately preceding the first "Gomer", God spoke through a spiritual elder who said, "For you to have the relationship that you want to have, some things have to be dealt with. Some things have to be changed." Prior to this, I had healthy romantic partners. It was I who was in need of major work.
Before this last Gomer, I was led to the book of Hosea for the first time in my 36 years. 20-something years spent going to a Pentacostal church inspired (drug along) by my parents. I thought God was saying he was going to do a Hosea and Gomez thing with me and Gomer number 2. Apparently, I was wrong and he must have been referring to Gomer number 3. If only I would have known.
God nudged me towards this woman that did not fit my definition of beauty repeatedly. I even consulted a spiritual elder who said, "I think that by learning to love this young lady, you might end up meeting the woman who is to be your wife." I relented and put it in God's hands and gave it a try.
I learned to love her and then saw her as the most beautiful woman in the world. She had the best combination of good characteristics and qualities that I have ever experienced in a gf EXCEPT for a couple things. She had issues that prevented her from having healthy romantic relationships. She exhibited symptoms of having her power traumatically taken/boundaries disregarded in addition to being the child of an addict mother and an abusive father.
During the 3 years on and off with the 3rd and hopefully final Gomer, there were multiple instances that hinted at her being deceitful. I prayed and asked God for clarity, but received nothing until this 3rd time. I received dreams that speak of me doing a good job with my task; unclean, separation, division & sexual sin associated with her & her feminine body; new beginnings, God's creation/creative ability, completion, finality with her again being associated with 3 different shades of red sinfulness & sexual infidelity. The last couple dreams spoke of a beautiful woman that I've never met and a woman who had similar features to this last Gomer and I meeting while I was working in the field of my calling. Finally, I dreamt of new beginnings and division/separation of a union.
Wow. That's a lot. That also only the past few chapters and not the entire book.
Has anyone here ever been told by God to date someone who turned out to be a Gomer? What happened with your situation? Why would God put me with cheaters for the past 6 years? Punishment for my previous infidelity? But why do it when I finally have the emotional awareness to break away from my family's unhealthy cycles? Also, my Gomer never changed her ways so why would God essentially waste my time/pain/love?
Thank you.
**Immediately preceding the first "Gomer", God spoke through a spiritual elder who said, "For you to have the relationship that you want to have, some things have to be dealt with. Some things have to be changed." Prior to this, I had healthy romantic partners. It was I who was in need of major work.
Before this last Gomer, I was led to the book of Hosea for the first time in my 36 years. 20-something years spent going to a Pentacostal church inspired (drug along) by my parents. I thought God was saying he was going to do a Hosea and Gomez thing with me and Gomer number 2. Apparently, I was wrong and he must have been referring to Gomer number 3. If only I would have known.
God nudged me towards this woman that did not fit my definition of beauty repeatedly. I even consulted a spiritual elder who said, "I think that by learning to love this young lady, you might end up meeting the woman who is to be your wife." I relented and put it in God's hands and gave it a try.
I learned to love her and then saw her as the most beautiful woman in the world. She had the best combination of good characteristics and qualities that I have ever experienced in a gf EXCEPT for a couple things. She had issues that prevented her from having healthy romantic relationships. She exhibited symptoms of having her power traumatically taken/boundaries disregarded in addition to being the child of an addict mother and an abusive father.
During the 3 years on and off with the 3rd and hopefully final Gomer, there were multiple instances that hinted at her being deceitful. I prayed and asked God for clarity, but received nothing until this 3rd time. I received dreams that speak of me doing a good job with my task; unclean, separation, division & sexual sin associated with her & her feminine body; new beginnings, God's creation/creative ability, completion, finality with her again being associated with 3 different shades of red sinfulness & sexual infidelity. The last couple dreams spoke of a beautiful woman that I've never met and a woman who had similar features to this last Gomer and I meeting while I was working in the field of my calling. Finally, I dreamt of new beginnings and division/separation of a union.
Wow. That's a lot. That also only the past few chapters and not the entire book.
Has anyone here ever been told by God to date someone who turned out to be a Gomer? What happened with your situation? Why would God put me with cheaters for the past 6 years? Punishment for my previous infidelity? But why do it when I finally have the emotional awareness to break away from my family's unhealthy cycles? Also, my Gomer never changed her ways so why would God essentially waste my time/pain/love?
Thank you.
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