another ox and donkey

[kbean]

Yes that's us, unequally yolked.
I'm the wife, the Christian, he's the unbeliever. He's very macho and brainwashed by the culture that he was raised in. A real rugby head. Sports, sports, sports and having a nice house...those are his idols. Yikes. We have two boys. I will do ANYthing to keep our marriage together for these kids...I refuse to teach them that marriage has an easy-access exit door and you can leave when the going gets tough. Plus the bible states clearly that you don't just abandon yuor marriage to the unbeliever for as long as there is a believer in the house it will be sanctified....(I know that doesn't mean everyone is saved) but that believer is me and so that's my duty and my purpose...I want my kids to love the Lord...and my DH too but that's why i'm writing this.
So here I am....
I need help! I am a new Christian and full of the fire for Christ. I am striving and learning about our Lord everday... he thinks I'm nuts! How do we teach without preaching? How do we open the door in our spouses heart that is sealed tight and dead bolted? In what way do we approach the God subject?
Yes...I know....with a calm quiet spirit. Be an example, be a witness. THis has been my approach so far but honestly, my husband couldn't care less about being saved. He just doesn't GET IT. ooops have more to say but I gotta run, thanks for reading! Back soon.....

 

[WashedClean]

Yes that's us, unequally yolked.
I'm the wife, the Christian, he's the unbeliever. He's very macho and brainwashed by the culture that he was raised in. A real rugby head. Sports, sports, sports and having a nice house...those are his idols. Yikes. We have two boys. I will do ANYthing to keep our marriage together for these kids...I refuse to teach them that marriage has an easy-access exit door and you can leave when the going gets tough. Plus the bible states clearly that you don't just abandon yuor marriage to the unbeliever for as long as there is a believer in the house it will be sanctified....(I know that doesn't mean everyone is saved) but that believer is me and so that's my duty and my purpose...I want my kids to love the Lord...and my DH too but that's why i'm writing this.
So here I am....
I need help! I am a new Christian and full of the fire for Christ. I am striving and learning about our Lord everday... he thinks I'm nuts! How do we teach without preaching? How do we open the door in our spouses heart that is sealed tight and dead bolted? In what way do we approach the God subject?
Yes...I know....with a calm quiet spirit. Be an example, be a witness. THis has been my approach so far but honestly, my husband couldn't care less about being saved. He just doesn't GET IT. ooops have more to say but I gotta run, thanks for reading! Back soon.....

Hi Kbean ,

Welcome to this forum!

I can certainly relate to a lot of what you said. Praise God that He saved you and you are on fire for Christ!

It's really difficult to not be able to share the most important person (Jesus) in your life with your husband. I'm blessed to have a very supportive husband who understands a lot of what I'm going through in my walk with the Lord. However, I still go to church alone and can only share so much with him.

I encourage you to get the book "The Power of a Praying Wife" by Stormie Omartian. It's not long and it has a chapter for every aspect of your husband's life. It's full of God's Word and prayers you can say for your husband.

Another great book is "Surviving a Spiritual Mismatch" by Lee and Leslie Strobel. Very uplifting and encouraging.

Just stay on your knees and don't ever stop praying for your husband's salvation. I don't know how old your children are, but many times they are instrumental in getting the non-believing spouse to church. Get your kids involved in church activities. It may pique your husband's interest.

Remember, "the prayers of a righteous woman availeth much". Don't give up on your husband. He may have a miraculous breakthrough one day. That's how I was saved!

Feel free to come here for support any time you want.

Love in Christ,

WashedClean