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Another one bites the dust...

desi

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My stepbrother and his estranged wife are getting a divorce. They were having problems getting along. No fornication from what I've heard. She moved out with the two kids a few months back to live with her parents. Her father is a minister.
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A month or so after she moved back home her parents bought a bigger house! Now a few months later its official they're throwing in the towel and my bro is getting reamed like his brother, other stepbrother, did a few years back $$$$$$. I'm convinced men have to be passionate about their marriages to the point of insanity, even if part of it is an act. Women need to fear their husbands, NOT be afraid of, to respect them. I mean fear in the sense of 'Uh how's he gonna handle this?' instead of 'Oh he's puss he'll do what I say because I know best.' It's like men have gotten all the feminine emotions and responses down pat but the anger, and fury have been forfeited somewhere along the line except for wife beaters who lack intelligence to channel their emotions responsibly and tactfully. I must be a relic of bygone years, the last of a dying breed. When I am gone that will be it. Just though I'd share the thought and news.
 

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blitzn said:
Satan is prowling...looking for marriages, families and lives he can destroy - especially Christian marriages. When we look around is there any doubt about what he's attempting to do? We need to get on our knees and fight...

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- blitzn

maybe not fighting, but more love could be the answer
 
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wonder111 said:
maybe not fighting, but more love could be the answer
Fighting in the context I used means to walk and pray in the Spirit, not physically fight! :D

This is the way in which our marriages will be fought for and won in Jesus name!

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blitzn said:
Fighting in the context I used means to walk and pray in the Spirit, not physically fight! :D

This is the way in which our marriages will be fought for and won in Jesus name!

- blitzn

I knew what you meant, I agree totally! I was just using your quote to tie in with my point
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desi said:
I'm convinced men have to be passionate about their marriages to the point of insanity, even if part of it is an act. Women need to fear their husbands, NOT be afraid of, to respect them. I mean fear in the sense of 'Uh how's he gonna handle this?' instead of 'Oh he's puss he'll do what I say because I know best.' It's like men have gotten all the feminine emotions and responses down pat but the anger, and fury have been forfeited somewhere along the line except for wife beaters who lack intelligence to channel their emotions responsibly and tactfully. I must be a relic of bygone years, the last of a dying breed. When I am gone that will be it. Just though I'd share the thought and news.
First of all, I'm sorry that your stepbrother is having to deal with this. I hope that their relationship can be healed, especially for the children involved.

I disagree with what you say though--I don't think that men should be passionate about their marriages, if part of it is an act. People should be committed to their spouses--through thick and thin. It's a mutual thing--but it has to be sincere.

I do agree that wives should respect their husbands, and that husbands should respect their wives. I don't think that means that women should be apprehensive about what they are doing or their decisions, worried that their husband will dislike it. If my husband dislikes my decision, he tells me. If he makes a good point then I change my behavior in the future, because he has convinced me to do otherwise.

I also wonder what are feminine emotions and responses? I also believe that anger and fury are something that is better left out of personal relationships. Part of that is personal self control--and part of that is acting in respect to other people's feelings. If my husband thought he could influence me through being angry rather than by stating the facts as he saw it, I would be able to easily recognize him as a weak, emotional person who can only influence by intimidation.

A marriage should be between two people who respect and honor each other as individuals.

--tibac
 
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