i have read it in context before, and i just read it again on the link. but it seems like all the pastors i've heard, have always basically said that they're the head. me and me last pastor had a bad "discussion" about this. i told him Christ was the Head and he didn't like that too much...
but he was way outta line in what he did. and the whole church knew it, but nobody would say anything. he was basically practicing pulpit witchcraft with all the manipulating he did. and nobody would say a word about anything he did.
and then when i read that about rebuking elders later on, i felt kinda bad about it. so now i guess i dont know when it's necessary and if it is how are you supposed to go about doing it. i see what the scriptures say, but i have never seen it done before. that's why i just decided to pray for them if i feel offended by them or something like that.
Hi, in my finding that scripture I only glanced, but did not see not to rebuke an elder in 1 timothy 5.
Regardless of any mans position; as applies to all, the thing to do is to pray much, and take much time in thinking about what was said, and also how to reply. It took me 3 months of such to approach a pastor, same as I would any person, not just cause he was a pastor, to then say what I felt I needed to say. Reason took me so long, as I had no clue on how to approach and what to say; and did not feel right until that period of time passed.
It went well.
We all fail, and do not always pray and give time to matters and respond quickly out of our frustration, hurt, pain or anger etc. at times. I know I recently did such.
A pastor is like a leader. Leaders fail and fall. Many have power problems, and fall prey to heavy contributors to the church carrying out the contributors whims to keep the big money coming. They also fall prey to those who stroke the ego. They are human and just as we can get messed up by someone doing same to us, they get messed up if they weren't to begin with.
Of course, not true of all pastors, but is difficult when the congregation naturally looks at pastors and their family as differnt people altogether and actually help the pastor in doing wrong, by what they say to the pastor (encouraging power), or failing to bring a pastors failings to the pastor and then a 2nd, 3rd witness, and then the church.
People tend to put pastors on the pedestal, and if not a humble man, he also puts himself there.
It takes pastors much prayer and humility to keep in check.
Billy Graham is an example of healthy humility; who knows he is only a man, a servant of Christ and of all and merely a messenger of the gospel.
Everything a pastor says should be checked in the bible, just as anything we hear or read should be checked to see if clicks with scripture.
I only looked briefly up that chapter for you and it does not say not to rebuke an elder.
I dont' want to search now, for other references, but if you find where it says such please post where it does say that.
Do not rebuke an older man harshly, but exhort him as if he were your father. Treat younger men as brothers, 2older women as mothers, and younger women as sisters, with absolute purity
Above is verse 1 and does not say do not rebuke an elder, it says older man in niv, but may say elder in other versions.
It says Do not rebuke harshly. This should be so with any person, but again we do fail.
But more is in regards to those older, they tend to be our leaders, example; women teach the younger women, etc.
In Jewish circles (non Christians) it is common that the older members speak first, and round it goes down to the youngest as in discussion of religon and other topics. This is a very good example of how we should try to be in a sense, speaking last, and with humility.
I commend you for wanting to know how to go about things, as I myself would not bother, and would leave the church.
my first church, very fortunate, one of first things I recall being taught, is pastor saying, I am just a man, and am no different than you. He was teaching us not to put him on a pedestal (again, it's natural for us to do so, as we tend to love our pastors, and hold them in higher esteem than we ought.) It's okay to esteem one highly but in doing so always remembering we are but men and are fallible.
Many fall away when a pastor falls, and this is because their faith was in the man and not in Christ. Not that they aren't Christians (some aren't), but instead of knowing God for themselves or relying on God, they leaned on all the pastor said and have no solid or strong foundation of their own.
The foundation is Christ.
This pastor never said, you must do this, or should do this, but would say, I need to do this in my life and from such we would learn. As he struggles with same things we struggle with.
Also fortunate church was congregation ruled, not ruled by elders or pastors, who only had one vote like all others.
Christ should be central in all sermons whether on old or new, and pastor should not be central at all, always Christ. These are key things to look for. There are ways for every sermon if not about Christ, such as something in ot or even nt, to show how the sermon points to Christ or if not relative; always ending with Christ; the gospel.
That is a Christ centered church.
A church is or should be like a hospital, where we go every week crippled and weak by the walking in the world (the land of the shadow of death), and for the pastor to edify and never tear any man down. And for the Holy Spirit to do the work in the man, not man commanding man, but teaching, and the Holy Spirit doing the work.
Otherwise only outward change occurs and does not last, unless God changes us inside with our cooperation by His Spirit through Christ. Jesus said clean the inside of the cup and the outside will be clean also.
Many teach just the opposite and are in error.
Sorry, way off topic, but hope was okay.
bless you and I'm sorry for the difficulties you are facing. You may be in a region where such is common that you've run into it before as well. There are denominations that are geared to the pastor havng power, and may be need another denominatoin to go to or a non denominational church if you keep seeing same over and over in one denomination.
As we all know no church is perfect; so we find a place that's okay or good and deal with the problems.
To me though, what the pastor says is indicative of what he believes, and if what he says does not line up with the word of God, then all he teaches is messed up, and as I'm not here to change a pastor, I go elsewhere.
I applaud those who do try to help a wayward pastor but I am not the type to do so.
I don't try to change my friends; God does the work. I encourage them in what is good and help them if they fall and remind them God loves them.
They already know their sin and don't need to be told, at least my friends but many times, people don't recognize their sin, we ourselves don't many times, but others do.
I have one friend has temper tantrums in public, and almost ran over another friend when she was angry, while backing up her car, as was so angry she wasn't thinking. And angry over nothing, as nothing untoward occured. But she has a temper. There is nothing I can say to her about it, she knows she has it and all I can do is pray for her and forgive her when it rears it's head, just as she would do for me with whatever crazy traits I have. God does the work.
blessings,
tapero