angry...

[cherrie]

my housemate has been really frustrating to live with and to be close with as a friend. I was very generous to him over the past year that i knew him, when a lot of people were intolerent of his critical, selfish and annoying habits, such that now he does not have a lot of friends. Yet, recently I have discovered that over the holidays he has been saying a lot of terrible things about me, he says i talk to much (when i actually don't), and he says i am stingy (when he tried to get me to pay for something I don't use, so i refused to pay) and he says that i am not a good christian because i smoke (a habit i know it's bad, which i am not proud of, but i was very offended for being called a bad christian after i have definitely become closer to God over the past few months). Now i don't want to cook with him, i want to move out, i want to stop talking to him, and its now i understand why people don't like him the way he is. After I have done so much for him the past year, and he backstabs me and gives me such a bad reputation to people who haven't even met me!

I don't know how to handle this properly. I don't know whether to confront him or yell at him or just ignore him. I don't want to forgive him for all the things that he has said about me, I feel like leaving him so he has no-one. I feel i was the only person he had, but now it's a shame to know he doesn't have my respect anymore.

It hurts to think of the things that he says about me....
a little advice would be greatly appreciated.. i feel so lost right now...

 

[Godsgirl481]

Well, as a young person that has had a lot of roommates...don't yell at him. This makes it worse...and being that you have to live there right now, you have to keep the peace. What I would do...if you think talking to him would make it worse, I personally wouldn't say anything. Work more and save money and move. I am not sure how hard it would be to move out where you are...but here...it is pretty simply. Just need to save money to do so. I have had some of the worst rommates ever. I mean...the last ones was using and selling crack, cocaine, and herione and they were using my money I was giving them for the rent and the bills for drugs...so we all got the utlities shut off...which I footed the money to get back on...and then we got evicted. It was a terrible situation. Anyways...since I have had bad experiences with bad roommates, I personally would just move....

 

[goldenviolet]

pray, make your plans and do the best you can.

*prayers for you*

 

[goliwog]

I have some christian friends that I canyt barely talk to let a lone live with. However part of being a christian is to live by example. Remember that a person can not properly love until they have been loved. They cannot put out kindness if they dont know how. Some sins are easy to give up and some virtues are easy to learn but many are like glitter... once you spill it it is impossible to pick up.

Remember that no-one is perfect and that jesus died even for the most annoying people. Paul even said in romans ... "i am in debt even to the barbarians " in romans 1 or 2 I think. If you think you would be a better question out then move but try not to hurt him. If you move tell him you feal you can be better friends and grow in christ better that way. If not try pasting bibleverses on the door or walls .... A gentle hint he he he

 

[chuck010342]

my housemate has been really frustrating to live with and to be close with as a friend. I was very generous to him over the past year that i knew him, when a lot of people were intolerent of his critical, selfish and annoying habits, such that now he does not have a lot of friends. Yet, recently I have discovered that over the holidays he has been saying a lot of terrible things about me, he says i talk to much (when i actually don't), and he says i am stingy (when he tried to get me to pay for something I don't use, so i refused to pay) and he says that i am not a good christian because i smoke (a habit i know it's bad, which i am not proud of, but i was very offended for being called a bad christian after i have definitely become closer to God over the past few months). Now i don't want to cook with him, i want to move out, i want to stop talking to him, and its now i understand why people don't like him the way he is. After I have done so much for him the past year, and he backstabs me and gives me such a bad reputation to people who haven't even met me!

I don't know how to handle this properly. I don't know whether to confront him or yell at him or just ignore him. I don't want to forgive him for all the things that he has said about me, I feel like leaving him so he has no-one. I feel i was the only person he had, but now it's a shame to know he doesn't have my respect anymore.

It hurts to think of the things that he says about me....
a little advice would be greatly appreciated.. i feel so lost right now...

kiss him. lol seriously I would just talk to him and move out if he keeps it up

 

[Mr.Cheese]

my housemate has been really frustrating to live with and to be close with as a friend. I was very generous to him over the past year that i knew him, when a lot of people were intolerent of his critical, selfish and annoying habits, such that now he does not have a lot of friends. Yet, recently I have discovered that over the holidays he has been saying a lot of terrible things about me, he says i talk to much (when i actually don't), and he says i am stingy (when he tried to get me to pay for something I don't use, so i refused to pay) and he says that i am not a good christian because i smoke (a habit i know it's bad, which i am not proud of, but i was very offended for being called a bad christian after i have definitely become closer to God over the past few months). Now i don't want to cook with him, i want to move out, i want to stop talking to him, and its now i understand why people don't like him the way he is. After I have done so much for him the past year, and he backstabs me and gives me such a bad reputation to people who haven't even met me!

I don't know how to handle this properly. I don't know whether to confront him or yell at him or just ignore him. I don't want to forgive him for all the things that he has said about me, I feel like leaving him so he has no-one. I feel i was the only person he had, but now it's a shame to know he doesn't have my respect anymore.

It hurts to think of the things that he says about me....
a little advice would be greatly appreciated.. i feel so lost right now...

Move out. Just move out. There is no reason to put up with this or endure it. You may begin to get along again if you are not living in the same place, and it will also save your sanity.
Really. Move out.