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it's in the male dna. it dates back to the caveman. anger produces adrenaline needed to survive. if man were passive, he'd've been extinct long ago.
Needed time for what?
I agree. I don’t think anger is healthy for the individual or the people they engage with. Peace is always best.
Most of the men I've seen this in have been older and struggling to deal with a world that has changed profoundly since they were young. Perhaps there is something about the need to foster resilience and openness to change, in all sorts of ways.
If people are out to be treated as heroes while doing nothing extraordinary, they're out of touch with reality.
If they expect to be treated as having a valuable contribution to make, despite diversity of gifts, strengths, and personalities in the room, then that's a healthy approach.
Devaluing people who aren't Ellen Ripley but have other things to bring to the table is really, in the end, pretty degrading of your fellow human beings.
Is women prioritising men's wealth due to evolution or due to socialisation? I'd argue the latter, given that women know very well that our society too often pushes us into economic dependence; if you know you're going to have to rely on someone else for economic security, then of course economic means are going to factor into your choice of that someone.
I did as well.
You mean like dads beating the tar out of them for every minor slip up?think there are some real deficits in the ways boys are being raised,
It is true of everyone (not just men) that the older you get, the harder it is to change.Most of the men I've seen this in have been older and struggling to deal with a world that has changed profoundly since they were young. Perhaps there is something about the need to foster resilience and openness to change, in all sorts of ways.
Not sure we have really "passed that point." At any moment a natural disaster or a war could plunge us all back to the stone age.Now that we’ve passed that point where do you direct it?
It can certainly be a useful reaction to carelessness or injustice.Why is being angry a problem?
Despite what I said earlier about anger being acceptable, it was not in my faith upbringing. It was considered a vile sin. So instead of allowing it to be expressed in a non-violent manner, it gets suppressed. Which means that it builds up and up until it reaches a critical mass and explodes in a most destructive way.
Alternatively, some turn it on themselves which then it becomes depression or self hatred.
that was explained as "righteous indignation," which they said was fundamentally different that the anger of fallen man.So if Jesus never sinned and he became angry,I propose this is not sinful or morally reprehensible.
It can certainly be a useful reaction to carelessness or injustice.
But as an enduring state of mind, its really unhealthy - both for the angry and the people around them.
Its a huge cause of stress in ones mind and body, which can lead to the degradation of mental function as well as physical illness. And it produces stress in those around you as well, sometimes leading others to shun you for the sake of their own well being. Its analogous to second hand smoke in that regard.Challenging your view here-How is enduring anger really unhealthy?
What are the root causes of male disenfranchisement? How do we help them manage their anger in a healthy way? How have you tackled this within yourself or with others?
Please share your thoughts.
I am not sure that I subscribe to the "caveman DNA" argument, but if my anger is piqued by a perceived injustice, INow that we’ve passed that point where do you direct it?
All the characteristics I tend to see as appropriate for me as a man, are also appropriate for a woman.
So, abilities that one might think are "manly" were accessible and employable by her, as a woman. Impressive, but not necessarily surprising.
I can't think of one. Nonetheless, when I think of what it means for me to be a man, character traits are a priority. Honestly, I'm not sure what to make of that.
Why is being angry a problem?
Not sure we have really "passed that point." At any moment a natural disaster or a war could plunge us all back to the stone age.
Men and women benefit equally from the presence and practice of virtues. But it is my consensus that masculinity isn’t effeminate and femininity isn’t masculine. The embodiment of each is housed in our divine makeup.
Some expressions are more or less extreme than others. But they would still fall within the parameters of our gender.
Skills are not the same as spirit. I’m taking a woodworking class. Most of the participants are men. They don’t treat me like one of the boys. They’re more akin to brothers. We joke and tease. But they’re the first to step forward for heavy lifting. And I praise their work and encourage their creativity. You see our respective spirits in that example. That’s why we get along.
Men and women may share the same characteristics. But their display may differ. My ability to lead doesn’t negate a man’s. Nor does my strength render his unneeded.
Where we’ve erred is in failing to see how the two work together and serve both. His desire to protect may inspire him to take up arms. That isn’t my natural response unless you cross the threshold. Then all bets are off. ;-)
My way of protecting him would involve prayer and strategy. I can endure immense warfare for long periods. I will take up arms in prayer the way he would in the natural. And together we’re a powerful duo.
I dated someone briefly before I met my husband and he was great and funny online but angry and miserable in real life.
He had his reasons, but I was like "nope, bye".
Because at that point, I would rather had been alone than with someone that was mad at the world and women for everything or when he had a bad day.
One minute he was funny and charming and the next he wasn't. He got mad at me for not wanting to continue to date him and I was called names, made fun of my looks to me and to other people, told me he was my last chance to find anyone b/c of how I look and because I was in my late 20's, yelled at me over the phone (I hung up). It was like I owed him a relationship (to him).
I'd rather be single and alone that be with a man that was angry all the time or blamed me for being a woman.
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