Plenty of men -- this one included -- need to be more active. You look at someone like Elliot Rodgers the murderer or these other "incel" losers and think to yourself: Yes, fine, you are mad at women (at the world, at whatever; women are just a convenient scapegoat, usually), but what are you doing to change things? And you can really only change yourself, as cliche as that sounds. So, y'know...if you can't get a date, or can't get a promotion, or whatever the goal is, you need to do what you can do to put those odds in your favor. Simply whining about it won't work, and certainly reacting with violence won't work. You can't punch your boss into giving you a raise or a promotion.
It's a silly example, but I hate folding laundry after its done (just a pet peeve of mine), but I know that yelling at the pile and being mad at it and throwing it around isn't going to get it folded up and put away.
Quite simply, if you're a man, you need to
do what you need to do. I dare say that's what being a man
is, but I don't really want to make this into a philosophical argument that might attract 'gender' talk.
And if you're a lady...heck, I dunno what you should do. Haha. Never been one. I suppose if you're dealing with one of these kinds of men in your own life, being supportive of their goals (assuming they're good goals) would be good. Don't tear them down or treat them like kids who can't do anything. (And if there really is something they can't do and you do know how to do it, maybe teach them how, if they're the type that'll take direction well and you're the type that can actually teach without being a jerk; a friend of mine has this pretty much constant mild criticism of her boyfriend, i.e., "He can't cook, so it's more nerve-wracking watching him try than to just do it myself so as to avoid an argument over how he's doing it wrong"...well, congratulations, you both sound miserable, but at least in the end you get some good food out of it.
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