Anger issue?

[cloudstrife007]

I've found that I can snap at people when I get annoyed by what they say or do. Tonight at our leader's meeting, the guys and girls were going to split off and I was telling one of our guy leaders to go with the guys. One of the girls just jokingly said "Bob is a girl, he can stay with us". I just clicked it and raised my voice going "Can you not say that!?" because I felt that it wasn't very loving or helpful even if it was a joke.

I found that I also snapped at her before when I was annoyed that she wasn't bringing people with her to help out with getting stuff for a young adults retreat. I was angry because it felt like she was hogging all the work and not allowing others to serve and care for people.


I'm usually a very soft spoken type of guy who apologises for a lot of things I don't need to apologise for. This may or may not have affected me but I was raised by a non Christian dad who always yelled and screamed at the rest of the family with or without reasons. I'm scared that I have an anger issue that I may need to address

 

[WilliamB]

You're not alone. My only advice is try to think before you speak. I know, easier said than done.

 

[LilLamb219]

When I first read how you said, "Can you not say that?" to me it came across that you were setting a boundary...but then I wonder how harshly you actually said it. I guess what I'm saying is that your wording in itself is harmless, but the tone could be lowered a notch if it was threatening. That's probably something you'll need to work on by maybe stopping as WilliamB said and thinking before you speak...count even if you have to.

If this is something that is happening frequently just recently, you should consider getting your health checked. Having high blood pressure can cause someone to lash out at people too.

 

[WilliamB]

If this is something that is happening frequently just recently, you should consider getting your health checked. Having high blood pressure can cause someone to lash out at people too.

Really? Maybe I have high blood pressure. I could only hope it would be that easy because its really a hard thing to deal with. I feel you OP! Thanks LilLamb!

 

[tannicv2]

I've found that I can snap at people when I get annoyed by what they say or do. Tonight at our leader's meeting, the guys and girls were going to split off and I was telling one of our guy leaders to go with the guys. One of the girls just jokingly said "Bob is a girl, he can stay with us". I just clicked it and raised my voice going "Can you not say that!?" because I felt that it wasn't very loving or helpful even if it was a joke.

I found that I also snapped at her before when I was annoyed that she wasn't bringing people with her to help out with getting stuff for a young adults retreat. I was angry because it felt like she was hogging all the work and not allowing others to serve and care for people.


I'm usually a very soft spoken type of guy who apologises for a lot of things I don't need to apologise for. This may or may not have affected me but I was raised by a non Christian dad who always yelled and screamed at the rest of the family with or without reasons. I'm scared that I have an anger issue that I may need to address

First: love the user name.

Second: Breath and just think before you do it. And learn to control that issue. I know how you feel though. Another way is to learn how to play it off.

 

[Ark100]

I've found that I can snap at people when I get annoyed by what they say or do. Tonight at our leader's meeting, the guys and girls were going to split off and I was telling one of our guy leaders to go with the guys. One of the girls just jokingly said "Bob is a girl, he can stay with us". I just clicked it and raised my voice going "Can you not say that!?" because I felt that it wasn't very loving or helpful even if it was a joke.

I found that I also snapped at her before when I was annoyed that she wasn't bringing people with her to help out with getting stuff for a young adults retreat. I was angry because it felt like she was hogging all the work and not allowing others to serve and care for people.


I'm usually a very soft spoken type of guy who apologises for a lot of things I don't need to apologise for. This may or may not have affected me but I was raised by a non Christian dad who always yelled and screamed at the rest of the family with or without reasons. I'm scared that I have an anger issue that I may need to address

Pray to God to control your 'tongue'

Isaiah 6:5-7
Then said I, Woe is me! for I am undone; because I am a man of unclean lips, and I dwell in the midst of a people of unclean lips: for mine eyes have seen the King, the LORD of hosts.
Then flew one of the seraphims unto me, having a live coal in his hand, which he had taken with the tongs from off the altar:
And he laid it upon my mouth, and said, Lo, this hath touched thy lips; and thine iniquity is taken away, and thy sin purged.

Pray to God to let you think more, and talk less...and when you talk, let the Holy Spirit take control.