Am I wrong for this?

[Juslisen]

Lately, a young lady that I know has been going through some problems.  That young lady just happens to by my ex.  Even thought we broke up 2 months ago, she's been going through some things in her life.  She's been having family problems and all sorts of things.  When she needed somebody there for her, she called me and I was there.  I was the person to motivate her to do the things that she always thought was impossible because her family never supported her.  I was there to give her advice on God, life, and anything else she asked for.   I was her best friend and she told me so.  I gave her my friendship from my heart.  Now that she's ready to get on her feet, she wants me out of her life again.  She says that we can't be friends anymore just because we were once together and that could be a problem.  She never said these things when I was the only one there for her.  All of a sudden, she wants me to get out of her life because she's ready to move on.  As a Saved Christian, I know that I did the right thing to help her in her time of need.  I know that I did all of those things from my heart.  Am I wrong for getting mad because I feel like I was being used?  Did I do the right thing or should I have just left her alone in her time of need?

 

[Mr.Cheese]

Dude, that sucks, and you did the right thing.

 

[jko]

your right, she was using you... unfortunatly... ive been through it too, a lot of girls are like that. if it hurts you in the end, its probably best to just leave her be, and not try to help her...

 

[Sharky]

You've done the right thing. If you get angry, you gotta ask yourself, are you angry because you want something back from her after all you did? It's cool though. You can always be friends and i'm sure she'll be hitting another bump before she needs you then. God probably has someone more interesting for you so keep your head high .

 

[Juslisen]

I forgot to menting that my ex still has a current boyfriend.  Instead of talking to her current b/f, she chose to confide in me.  Now I REALLY feel used the more I think about it.  The good thing is that I have prayed about it and I feel better.  I guess I was expecting my blessing to come from the girl instead of God.  Thanks to all of the friendly people on this board for making me feel better.  I'm praying for you all.

 

[Gerry]

Sometimes it comes down to this. You have to be HER friend, but you must do it in an unconditional way. You cannot expect anything in return.

Yes she was using you. But that it not your problem. It is hers. Remember love and friendship must be Unconditional, Non-Judgemental, and Sacrificial.

All you can do is give this and pray you receive something like it in return.

I don't dare ask her name. Sounds like someone I met a long time ago.

 

[Crazy4Christ]

that really sux... its right to be angry, but as a christian, even though its hard, you should probably forgive her. As it says in the bible... If you don't forgive others, I cannot forgive you...

                         keep the faith ^_-

 

[Gerry]

Originally posted by Juslisen
I forgot to menting that my ex still has a current boyfriend.  Instead of talking to her current b/f, she chose to confide in me.  Now I REALLY feel used the more I think about it.  The good thing is that I have prayed about it and I feel better.  I guess I was expecting my blessing to come from the girl instead of God.  Thanks to all of the friendly people on this board for making me feel better.  I'm praying for you all.

Amen! You are exactly right! EXACTLY right. And if she is your sister (in Christ) you are required to love and forgive her no matter how many times she uses you.

From what you have written it would seem you love her, because only when we love do we get hurt. You may also pray that God will heal your love or deliver you from it.

Either way you are the real winner!

 

[fieldmouse3]

I'm like you....I always want to be there for people, even if I know they won't return the favor. It hurts, but it's definitely not a bad way to be. It means you're a good friend!

 

[DeleseRose]

I think u did the right thing and your blessing does come from GOD. U have every right 2 b angry, so go ahead and b angry but don't let it fester and change your sweet heart. It's important 2 give ourselves time 2 grieve, GOD said b angry and sin not. Keep the faith brethren.

 

[Blessed-one]

think of it this way, would God has done if He was in your place? He most definitely would! and what you did was pleasing in God's eye!

 

[wvmtnkid]

I also think you did the right thing. As Christians, our response should be different from the world's response. It was a situation that you really had to put WWJD in action. However, it does appear that this young lady was using you. She will be the one to have to answer for her actions.

 

[ZiSunka]

Did you help her so she would fall in love with you again, or did you help her because of your relationship with Jesus?

If you helped her because you wanted to jump-start the relationship again, then things didn't work out so well for you.

If you helped her because that's what Christ would do, then, though you don't "feel" rewarded right now, you will be rewarded by God someday in His time.

 

[Smilin]

Keep your chin up and your spirits high.
Put your total trust in God for he will
guide you. It's obvious you weren't
meant to be with this girl. God does
have better things in store for you
if you will trust in him.

 

[mld3three]

Sometimes doing the right thing on does not get rewarded on earth except for the peace of mind that comes with doing the right thing. No matter what happens in you life you do have a comforter. I will pray for you.