Am I weird?

[Tink]

The man who sexually abused several people in my family died yesterday.

Is it weird that I'm not happy, as the rest of my family is?

Instead, I feel very sad that he never asked Jesus to be the Lord of his life. At least, not as far as I know. I really wish he had known God. :shrug: I feel out of place in my family right now because of this.

Prayers are requested.

In His love,
Tink

PS I posted this here because I'm most active in the Singles forum. If it needs to be moved, please do so.

 

[Sketcher]

I'd say that's probably the Holy Spirit at work, since you forgave him and all.

 

[london boy]

It seems to me that your compassion heart was on display and what's wrong with that? The hardest thing to do is to forgive someone (no matter what they've done) and from what I can tell, you didn't hold his actions against him, which is the right way to go about this. It is, of course, not an easy topic - I am very close to some victims of abuse and sexual abuse and have seen the enormous psychological consequences of that, but they did the same - they forgave and I'm sure that God did too, since we as humans can never be totally in control of our actions. I'll pray for you and your family

 

[Tink]

I'd say that's probably the Holy Spirit at work, since you forgave him and all.

Thanks for this.

In His love,
Tink

 

[Tink]

It seems to me that your compassion heart was on display and what's wrong with that? The hardest thing to do is to forgive someone (no matter what they've done) and from what I can tell, you didn't hold his actions against him, which is the right way to go about this. It is, of course, not an easy topic - I am very close to some victims of abuse and sexual abuse and have seen the enormous psychological consequences of that, but they did the same - they forgave and I'm sure that God did too, since we as humans can never be totally in control of our actions. I'll pray for you and your family

Thank you for the prayers.

Forgiving him was hard and a long process, but hating someone uses too much energy. When the Lord saved me, I couldn't hate him anymore. I just couldn't. I praise God that He lifted the burden from my heart.

In His love,
Tink

 

[Carri20]

The man who sexually abused several people in my family died yesterday.

Is it weird that I'm not happy, as the rest of my family is?

Instead, I feel very sad that he never asked Jesus to be the Lord of his life. At least, not as far as I know. I really wish he had known God. :shrug: I feel out of place in my family right now because of this.

I think you already know that's not weird for a Christian. If Christ could plead for the forgiveness of his murderers while hanging on the cross, then I can certainly understand why you would mourn the death of this person who caused your family pain. It's compassion. It's rare, but for a Christian definitely not weird.

 

[wildthing]

I think you are the right track. I think forgiving him is the 1st step in recover, This is something that each of us needs to come to grip with.

 

[JPPT1974]

Thank you for the prayers.

Forgiving him was hard and a long process, but hating someone uses too much energy. When the Lord saved me, I couldn't hate him anymore. I just couldn't. I praise God that He lifted the burden from my heart.

In His love,
Tink

Yeah but in the end, the Lord wants us to forgive and feel peace and mercy in our hearts.

 

[lady_of_god]

I'd have to agree with london boy & Twisted... you've just got a wonderfully compassionate heart and the Holy Spirit running through you. That's a good thing and don't you let anyone tell you different Praying for you

-Lady.

 

[Tenorvoice]

Tink I am praying for you, it sounds like that you have avery caring heart and there is no problem with that at all.

And as long as you or someone else presented that gospel to him at one time or another, then you did you job. It was up to the Holy Spirit then. For it is He that convicts and converts, we just plant the seeds.

Keep the Faith

Tenor

 

[BlackRain]

it's not weird. i've felt the same way.

if you're blaming yourself: please save yourself the beating and accept that God's in control. we all know he is, but it's a matter of accepting it. he knows what he's doing. we ultimately don't have control over people's salvation. i know it's hard to take in...believe me. it hurts. i know all too much. i'm so sorry! truly i am!!! if you need anyone to talk to, i'm here for you.

 

[beetlequeendiva]

Tink, it's great that you were able to forgive, so many people don't forgive or rather can't forgive....... I will pray for you xxx

 

[Tink]

Tink I am praying for you, it sounds like that you have avery caring heart and there is no problem with that at all.

And as long as you or someone else presented that gospel to him at one time or another, then you did you job. It was up to the Holy Spirit then. For it is He that convicts and converts, we just plant the seeds.

Keep the Faith

Tenor

Tenor, I wasn't a Christian back then. And I haven't seen nor talked to him since I became one. I think maybe I feel bad because I never told him that I forgave him.

Thanks for the prayers.

In His love,
Tink

 

[Tink]

it's not weird. i've felt the same way.

if you're blaming yourself: please save yourself the beating and accept that God's in control. we all know he is, but it's a matter of accepting it. he knows what he's doing. we ultimately don't have control over people's salvation. i know it's hard to take in...believe me. it hurts. i know all too much. i'm so sorry! truly i am!!! if you need anyone to talk to, i'm here for you.

Black Rain,
Thanks! I'm not blaming myself. I know without a doubt that God is in control!

Thanks for the offer. It's pointed right back at you, too.

In His love,
Tink

 

[Sketcher]

Either way, it is out of your hands. I will be praying.

 

[MrDude]

I'd say that's probably the Holy Spirit at work, since you forgave him and all.

That or you're fishing for compliments/praises.

 

[JPPT1974]

Black Rain,
Thanks! I'm not blaming myself. I know without a doubt that God is in control!

Thanks for the offer. It's pointed right back at you, too.

In His love,
Tink

Glad that you are not blaming yourself as God is indeed in control!

 

[Tink]

That or you're fishing for compliments/praises.

Why would you say that?

Unless you're trying to spark some sort of bad response from me? I don't know, but...thanks for replying.

In His love,
Tink

 

[MrDude]

Just throwing it out as a possibility.

 

[johnnystaycool]

Do you think it is weird? It is certainly not something commonly expected of people. Your compassion for this man's soul is evidence of the holy spirit working in you. I hope your not just saying this so that people will praise you though, that isn't right as I'm sure you know, but like MrDude said, it is a possibility (some people do it even if they aren't conciously aware of it)