am i sinning?

[gypsy-rose]

i was broswing in this forum and i notice a couple of topics talking about fanasties.im a big romance fanatic and love romantic movies and books etc. and somtimes i like to day dream or fanastasize about my own little passinate romance sexual scenes but is that sinful? would that quilify as lust even if im not really fantasizing about a real person but some imaginary guy i created?

 

[Evee]

i was broswing in this forum and i notice a couple of topics talking about fanasties.im a big romance fanatic and love romantic movies and books etc. and somtimes i like to day dream or fanastasize about my own little passinate romance sexual scenes but is that sinful? would that quilify as lust even if im not really fantasizing about a real person but some imaginary guy i created?

I don't know if it is a sin, but when I was your age I had a fantasy.
I made up this boyfriend that was certainly too good to be true.
I was thinking and almost believing he was real.
I thought of him constantly.
He was almost real to me.

 

[Rosa Mystica]

i was broswing in this forum and i notice a couple of topics talking about fanasties.im a big romance fanatic and love romantic movies and books etc. and somtimes i like to day dream or fanastasize about my own little passinate romance sexual scenes but is that sinful? would that quilify as lust even if im not really fantasizing about a real person but some imaginary guy i created?

I hate to tell you this, but yes, that is sinful. It doesn't matter if you're thinking about a real person or not. I think that to wilfully indulge in sexual fantasy IS lust no matter what.

 

[Evee]

I hate to tell you this, but yes, that is sinful. It doesn't matter if you're thinking about a real person or not. I think that to wilfully indulge in sexual fantasy IS lust no matter what.

I should have known it was but was not sure to be honest.

 

[janny108]

I hate to tell you this, but yes, that is sinful. It doesn't matter if you're thinking about a real person or not. I think that to wilfully indulge in sexual fantasy IS lust no matter what.

I agree. I think even if you do imagine someone who is not "real", you still need to have a "model" to pick and choose from.

Jan

 

[janny108]

Don't feel bad, a lot of us have felt that way at some time or another.

Jan

 

[gypsy-rose]

okay so does that mean if i am reading a sex scene in romance book that im committing a sin?

 

[Hope_0004]

Hmmm...

Well, if you are, then most of us are guilty of that one!

Actually, I really don't know the answer. I would never tell someone that I know for a fact that they are sinning, because only God can truly determine what is in your heart and your mind. However, I know that we are to devote ourselves to what is good and pure and right - and I would venture to say that there are a lot of better things that you could be doing with your time. Often I judge myself this way - if I question whether I am sinning or not, my heart is probably not in the right place and I try not to do whatever it is that makes me feel as though I am questioning my morals in the first place. Basically, better safe than sorry.

Romance novels are, just in my opinion, a total waste of time. Not one plot line ever seems to make any kind of sense, and you really gain no knowledge or insight from them. Wasting your time, in a way, could be considered a sin, when there are better things you could be doing. Of course, there are much better things that I could do than sit around and watch Maury Povich, so I am definitely not trying to judge you! But when you question yourself, it's usually a sign that something's not right. Be proud of yourself for recognizing that, but the next step is, how do I improve myself now that I have recognized it?

That all said, sex is a beautiful thing, one that creates life and makes people feel blissful, and also one that's written about in the Bible. It's all about context. Next time, I suggest you put down the Harlequin and check out Song of Solomon. Talk about sensuality!

 

[Johnnz]

Bad literature is bad literature - most romance novels come into this category.

However, much good literature does contain sexual material - even Shakespeare, if you can understand his English enough. Then it is a matter of deciding what you can handle safely.

We cannot grow up as a teenager and not think about sex, or without getting some good factual material about sex, or have exposure to sexual material from many sources- TV, magazines, bilboards, conversations etc.

Some christian teaching seems to imply that we should be pretty much asexual until we are married. That is crazy. We don't work that way, and all normal teenagers will have sexual thoughts, feelings and desires of some kind, all largely hormone induced. Sexual maturity and moral health does not negate our sexuality. It just means that we deal with it within a healthy, informed and biblical framework.

John
NZ

 

[janny108]

I gave up reading romance novels some time ago, and I haven't watched any movies that are primarily romance either.
Jan

 

[janny108]

Bad literature is bad literature - most romance novels come into this category.

However, much good literature does contain sexual material - even Shakespeare, if you can understand his English enough. Then it is a matter of deciding what you can handle safely.

We cannot grow up as a teenager and not think about sex, or without getting some good factual material about sex, or have exposure to sexual material from many sources- TV, magazines, bilboards, conversations etc.

Some christian teaching seems to imply that we should be pretty much asexual until we are married. That is crazy. We don't work that way, and all normal teenagers will have sexual thoughts, feelings and desires of some kind, all largely hormone induced. Sexual maturity and moral health does not negate our sexuality. It just means that we deal with it within a healthy, informed and biblical framework.

John
NZ

I agree John. Even books with intense romance is going to imply sex at one time or another.
Jan

 

[janny108]

Yes it's what we do with those thoughts. It's not sin to be aroused (in fact it's normal)but it can quickly turn to lust if we deliberately concentrate on them or make more provision to do it. It does lead to other things.
Jan

 

[gypsy-rose]

thanks for the replies im now trying to focus on re-programming my mind and life so im not always thinking about sex but giving up my romance novels are going to be hard