Am I naive?

[hygienemom]

Am I naive or should a Christian man not watch a naked woman in a movie? She walked across the floor while the camera watched. Shouldn't he divert his eyes?

 

[Yitzchak]

You are not naive. However, it is a choice that he has to make for himself. Your taking on the job of being his conscience is a full time and exhausting job at best and a recipe for new problems in the relationship if he gets defensive and withdraws because he feels smothered , at worst.

I am not saying that you cannot discuss the issue. But ultimately he will have to be fully persuaded in his mind about the issue. I am sure that it is a common issue that many men struggle with. Perhaps there are some men at church who could develop a relationship with hima nd be a help to him.

 

[TheDag]

I think its a individual thing. If it is causing problems then it is something that needs to be discussed. I don't think its a problem for me (and with Gods strength will continue to not be a problem) so I don't tend to think much of it. However men do tend to be more visual and therfore more likely to be a problem. Some friends of mine have a rule that if something like that comes on they change the channel and then turn back several minutes later when the scene will have finished.

 

[goat37]

I'm not married now, but I used to be... but:


I can look at a naked woman without having sexually explicit thoughts... there comes a point where I think people can be too prude, and it can really affect other areas of life.

If you want to have a discussion about porn, that is different... however, just a nude body... get over it.

 

[Southern Cross]

Unless there is a woman sitting next to me to elbow me in the ribs for NOT diverting my eyes, it would be hard for me to NOT look .

 

[Redguard]

Am I naive or should a Christian man not watch a naked woman in a movie? She walked across the floor while the camera watched. Shouldn't he divert his eyes?

Were you watching this movie with him?

 

[hygienemom]

yes i was. Why?

 

[hygienemom]

I'm not married now, but I used to be... but:


I can look at a naked woman without having sexually explicit thoughts... there comes a point where I think people can be too prude, and it can really affect other areas of life.

If you want to have a discussion about porn, that is different... however, just a nude body... get over it.

In your opinion of course.
What would Jesus say about this one?

 

[Redguard]

yes i was. Why?

Just wondering if this was a scandalous movie he was trying to watch on his own, or something the two of you had agreed to watch together.

Tis all.

 

[hygienemom]

i read the book Every Man's Battle and can see the battle it can be.
My dh has started reading the book and says he is trying to train his eyes to bounce.
But please, when they deny EVER looking...i'm not that stupid. Just be truthful and give it an honest effort.

 

[hygienemom]

I think its a individual thing. If it is causing problems then it is something that needs to be discussed. I don't think its a problem for me (and with Gods strength will continue to not be a problem) so I don't tend to think much of it. However men do tend to be more visual and therfore more likely to be a problem. Some friends of mine have a rule that if something like that comes on they change the channel and then turn back several minutes later when the scene will have finished.

There is no discussing it with him...he denies he does anything wrong.
Case closed.

 

[okiemommy26]

There is no discussing it with him...he denies he does anything wrong.
Case closed.

Than since he doesn't want to discuss it and doesn't think he is wrong then I would pray for him. Sometimes that is all you can do. Huggs.

 

[Zoomer]

Honestly, I don't find it a big deal in my marriage. Nudity is not an issue to me as I think that the human body is beautifully made. Nudity can also been done tastefully in an artistic way. It doesn't bother me either when he looks at other women. I think most men look, but not all fanatize. I sometimes, look at strikingly handsome man and think he is gorgeous but it doesn't mean I want to jump in the sack with him. I draw the line at sexually expilict material, porn, pictures etc.

 

[gracefaith]

I think we all have our own sensitivities and they change and waver over time.

I draw and paint from nude models but can't bear watching people in a movie or on TV kiss excessively, let alone get naked and make love. This a new development for me. I remember a time when I was less comfortable with models but was completely mesmerized by love scenes.

My hubby on the other hand seems mostly unfazed by nudity on screen (at least I think, I flinging my hands in front of my face and turning away, after all) but he gets down right mad when a scantily clad woman crosses our path in the real world.

I usually have a great moral point with my posts but I'm not really sure if there is a universal line in the sand to be drawn on this one.

 

[GirlieGirl]

Am I naive or should a Christian man not watch a naked woman in a movie? She walked across the floor while the camera watched. Shouldn't he divert his eyes?

No you're not naive. But you do have high standards that many Christian men squirm out of following. It's hard to fight lust. It's enjoyable to partake in it. For some men and women that's all the excuse they need to justify looking at hot naked bodies. (I love the "art" excuse. It's takes all of 0.03 seconds for enjoying "art" to become lust).

Did you avert your eyes? If the standard applies to him, and I believe it should, it should also apply to you.

 

[Emma!]

Am I naive or should a Christian man not watch a naked woman in a movie? She walked across the floor while the camera watched. Shouldn't he divert his eyes?

I think he should look away!

My husband knows that i HATE that stuff on TV and he always looks away...it is nearly always women naked on TV. I remember ONCE there was a naked man on the movie we were watching and my husband was so mad and offended when it came on, and i think it was only then that he realised how it hurt me when women are naked on the TV.

He is very respectful and always turns the TV over or looks away, which i am so thankful for.

 

[desi]

Am I naive or should a Christian man not watch a naked woman in a movie? She walked across the floor while the camera watched. Shouldn't he divert his eyes?

Almost everyone at the men's forum would agree with you.

 

[Emma!]

Almost everyone at the men's forum would agree with you.

Thats so encouraging to hear! Nice one Men!!

 

[Southern Cross]

No you're not naive. But you do have high standards that many Christian men squirm out of following. It's hard to fight lust. It's enjoyable to partake in it. For some men and women that's all the excuse they need to justify looking at hot naked bodies. (I love the "art" excuse. It's takes all of 0.03 seconds for enjoying "art" to become lust).

Did you avert your eyes? If the standard applies to him, and I believe it should, it should also apply to you.

Well said, GirlieGirl.

Most guys will look, honestly, they can't help it. But it's what they do once it registers in their brain, "Hey, there's a very naked girl onthe screen!" that counts. It takes a few seconds to process what's going on. Lust is not instantaneous, but it can hit very hard and very quickly. As long as a guy is guarding his heart and his mind, he'll be okay. OP, don't get upset with him too quickly!

I've had the opportunity to pursue the "art" side of nudity twice, for pretty darn good pay. But I know where my mind would eventually wander, so I turned the work down. I won't shoot images of a woman who is showing way too much flesh. I don't want or need the temptation, and I don't want other guys looking at my work/her pictures and getting dragged down. God's really done a number on my heart in this area - and if He helped me to successfully avoid temptaion, he can certainly help a hubby who sees nude girls on the screen do the same .

 

[Mr.Cheese]

I try to avoid movies with naked people in general. Most scenes are gratuitous and the nudity is there to make up for the fact that the movie sucks to begin with.
But every now and then naked people show up in a good movie.
Holly Hunter's scene in "Thirteen" I believe was relevant.

Tricky subject.