am i doing wrong?

[garyhazel]

well to cut my life story short.well my parents split about near two years ago.well through them two years my relationship with my father isnt the best.my father aint a christian.

i only live a few miles from him but i have no desire to keep in touch with him and if i do phone him or see him its just for other reasons.for example today i drove past his place of business but didnt care to blast the horn.am i wrong in doing this?

when i got my first job i used to hate coming home just incase my father would be cross but now when i come home i havent got that fear.i have so much anger built up towards him for the way he treated the rest of the family and me.

thanks

 

[restore]

It is v difficult to deal with family members, it is normal and all right to feel anger...
but learn to find more wisdom later.I will be praying for u for God guidance in this matter.

 

[UnitynLove]

I would suggest calling him and forgiving him. Im not saying you have to have a close relationship with him but just call him and make sure everything is ok with him once and a while and pray for him and forgive him. By you holding a grudge this will only remind you of your past. I can send a sermon on how to get free from hurt if you would like.

 

[lavenderskies]

I would suggest counseling for you to deal with this anger. Keeping anger inside only harms you, it does not harm your father. Also God wants us to forgive, I realize this is not always easy and its something I myself struggle with too,

 

[UnitynLove]

I understand how you feel it can be very hard at times to forgive. But we have realize that forgiveness is not a feeling but a decision and you have to make a decision from your that you will forgive the offense.

 

[Netbug009]

First off, forgive him. You have to. I know it my be hard, but you have to.

Or are you not as angry as you are worried and letting it become anger? Maybe you feel like because he doesn't have a spot in heaven that you don't want to get hurt when he's gone do you just want to separate yourself from him? If that's it, you are doing the opposite of what you should be doing! Talking to my father about God and being close to him and telling him I wanted him in heaven with me was what he needed to let God touch his heart!