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Married women, generally, treat me better, and are friendlier to me than single women are to me. I know there is such a thing called a woman's intuition. What I would like to know is what do married women see in me, that single women cannot see in me?I feel for you. I'm about your age, and have been single my whole life. It was about 10 years ago that I finally gave up hope of getting a woman. Well, since I've never been married, I lack the experience of it. Maybe it is like the one who doesn't know alcoholism because he's never been drunk. But I have lost all desire to have a woman in my life (finally), so I have been satisfied with what God has me doing.
About 15 years ago I heard a singles pastor say "stop the hunt." It was in context of "how to fall into the arms of God's right man or woman for you." What was being conveyed is that if we continue in a dire need for romantic companionship, then our "needy" attitude will defeat the very thing we're trying to obtain. In order to have godly relationships, we must have our satisfaction in God, then we can give unconditionally to others. Unconditional giving is godly love, and this is the very thing women are looking for. When we no longer need a woman to satisfy our "manly needs," then we're ready to love unconditionally. As long as we are "hunting," we're not allowing God to surprise us with His best gift.
TD
It might not be what they see in you, but rather what they see in themselves. Married women in general may feel safe with you because they have a commitment to love their husband (no chance of adultery, in their minds). Whereas, single women may feel unsafe because of their own desires to marry. But if single women are looking for a "look" of desire in a man, then they may also see a desire in you that they don't want (for whatever reason), maybe because they want that look of desire only in one they feel desire toward - sort of a "love at first sight" fantasy.Married women, generally, treat me better, and are friendlier to me than single women are to me. I know there is such a thing called a woman's intuition. What I would like to know is what do married women see in me, that single women cannot see in me?
The fantasy may mean. Becuase, I am not over six feet tall,I do not meet their physical requirements. I can understand that .Because,I am an actor. And,as everyone knows,actors face plenty of rejections.In an audition class,I was told,"If,out of 10 auditions,you get 1 acting job,then consider yourself lucky.The reason, that you did not get picked,was not that you are a bad actor.You did not get picked,because you were not the type the Casting Director(the one who hires the actors and actresses) was looking for.It might not be what they see in you, but rather what they see in themselves. Married women in general may feel safe with you because they have a commitment to love their husband (no chance of adultery, in their minds). Whereas, single women may feel unsafe because of their own desires to marry. But if single women are looking for a "look" of desire in a man, then they may also see a desire in you that they don't want (for whatever reason), maybe because they want that look of desire only in one they feel desire toward - sort of a "love at first sight" fantasy.
TD
If there is anything in your actions even if ever so subtle that women see you as pursuing a woman , it can have the opposite effect you desire . Confidence has a better effect , you don't want to be seen as someone who is needy .
You may be setting yourself up for failure by having too high of expectations . Women who make a decision on who they want to be with based on how well they like dancing is not a good indicator of good character .
There are many good women that don't go out on cruises or singles scenes as they are likely to stay home with their pets and books . There are many women who will spend their time in a volunteer group helping people and they know a friend or a friend of a friend or a co-worker that would like to meet a good man and if you were friends with them , they would introduce you , and they would be local
reading stuff like this depresses me..... doesn't make my future look bright lol
Well,Sir Robbins,here is some encouraging news. On today, Sunday, March 3,2019,at 8:18 PM( PST),I received this email from the same woman.reading stuff like this depresses me..... doesn't make my future look bright lol
^ I have primary progressive multiple sclerosis. Makes life hard sometimes and I am no longer suitable to be with someone because of it. It would bring humiliation and disappointment to certain activities and I just don't want that. I went celibate at 25 because of it and though I'm fine, I'm not thrilled. I feel cheated to a degree. I am also in the drug free, alcohol free, never touched a girl, ect… category but heck, it just stinks for some of us. Makes Heaven more appealing and with my disease being somewhat terminal, I won't have to wait as long...
I just hate seeing others go through it and especially those who have been faithful and often medically free of significant issues
Intellectually, I know the answer is "no". But, emotionally, I feel that the answer is "yes".Yes ,we men do have feelings.Therapists mention that we men are to validate a woman's feelings. However,I never hear of anyone validating a man's feelings. Sometimes,I feel that it is not the most important thing,to GOD,that we single Christians find a
'helpmate" Yet,he made our bodies to have these great desires to have someone in our lives.
Well,I have been "doing the right thing" by pursuing only single Christian women ,in order to be "equally yoked", Instead of going on a regular singles cruise, Last May, I went on a Christian singles' cruise. While dancing, this lady kept bumping into me. I danced with her .On the last night of the cruise, she gave me her number. Even though I did not ask for her number. She lives in the same state that I do. On many occasions, I always meet someone on a cruise that lives across the country from me. Therefore, I thought that maybe GOD sent her into my life.She is a single Christian woman.
Well, we made plans to see each other in July. She texted me saying, "I just cannot wait to see you!" She accepted my invitation to take her out to dinner and dancing. I told her of the dates that I was to visit her. She even offered to pick me up from the Amtrak Train Station.I have already bought the round trip train tickets.
Today,I received a text from her. But, this text was meant for her sister J. The text read, "J..I want u 2 know that I made this decision about S....(me).After we went dancing last week, and that guy dance so beautifully with me. I couldn't stop thinking about him. And ,I feel more that I could see myself more with him, than with S.(me) I texted him(me)and told him that I'm not
meeting with him."(me)
Therefore,since I am so much into music, I texted this back to her.
"Shot through the heart
And you're to blame
You give love a bad name (bad name)
I play my part and you play your game
You give love a bad name (bad name)"
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