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am i being mean?
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memoriesbymichelle
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I agree with this suggestion. I don't think it's right for you to go on a date with him, let him spend his money on you, and then what? Remember you still have to see him after this at work. I think you should tell him, that he caught you off guard asking you in front of others and that you don't want to hurt his feelings, but you are not really attracted to him in that way, but you would like to be friends. That way there won't be any hard feelings hopefully.
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gottabemore2life
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Yes, it was. I am realizing more and more that you have to say what you feel, and it is much easier and will save a lot of feelings in the end if you are honest with yourself and the other person from the beginning.
We date to find the person we are going to marry... If you know that there's not chance of that happening you are leading him on and you are wasting your time.
I almost did the same thing... A guy asked me out, and I accepted, cuz he is a really nice guy and a lot of people are pushing for us to get together, but I had to be honest with myself and say, "Ya know, I don't want to lead you on. I can't see this working out." He may be angry now, but it will save him frustration/hurt/anger in the end.
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Keri
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I've went out on a few pity dates with some guys I knew I'd never want to be in a relationship. If they really want to waste their money on you, let em. But make it clear the next time you talk to them that you're not interested again.
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TexasSky
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Actually,He asked me in front of my other coworkers... and I still had to work with him for another 2 hours. That was one of the three times I've worked with him. I was put on the spot.If he asks me again I'll have to explain that I can't date him. I'm not going to take a sledgehammer to his ego and I'd rather it not have an audience.
If he asks again, I think you can say something really nice, like, "Thank you so much. I did have a good time, but I didn't feel that we had a lot in common, and my faith means so much too me, that I think pursuing this would only cause both of us to be hurt." That will be a lot less "sledgehammer" than shooting him down in front of all your coworkers would have been.
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frenzy
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Personally, I would have said no right away. I don't think it's fair to lead him on.
Naw, it was a prank that one of the basketball teams set up. It wasn't real.
Am I evil for laughing at that?
She didn't even get to "Runaway Bride" status.
Naw, it was a prank that one of the basketball teams set up. It wasn't real.
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Thomas1984
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Really?! Well, thank goodness for that! I'd HATE to be in that guy's position.
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:o . Thanks for clearing that up.
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frenzy
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Really?! Well, thank goodness for that! I'd HATE to be in that guy's position.
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Haha, well now you know not to propose on national television!
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SonicBOOM
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oh my goodness hahah! Thats..... ok there's a not a word to describe how horrable that is.
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Thomas1984
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TBH, I'd never actually considered that, but you're right, I've learned a valuable lesson!
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SonicBOOM
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TBH, I'd never actually considered that, but you're right, I've learned a valuable lesson!
proposing on national TV is kind of a set up anyways. what if you don't wanna get married? Instead of letting the guy [or girl] down in privite, you have to let them down in on national TV and look like a complete jerk for doing it. I'll never propose on national TV, or on a stage, or what not. It seems romantic but it's really just a trap. I wanna do it in privite where she can say "no" in privite if she honestly doesn't wanna get married.
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