Am I being guided....or misled?

[Kehaar]

Hello all

I was hoping to gain some advice over an issue that's begun to re-appear over the last couple of days.

I need to give a little bit of backgroud first though, so.... I'd split up with my boyfriend almost a month ago and, to be honest, I was devestated. I was crying all the time, couldn't work, couldn't think, had no appetite and when I did force myself to eat something I was sick. I know this may sound melodramatic, but it was one of the lowest points of my life to date. I couldn't get rid of the feeling that the split was wrong and all I wanted was for the pain to go away, I just wanted all of it to stop.

I prayed for peace a few days later, still miserable, still in the same state when I had this sense of being loved and comforted. Again, I'm going to sound melodramatic, but the pain quite literally vanished overnight. I'd been so overwhelmed by this feeling that had come over me, so engrossed in going over it again and again to make sure I hadn't just imagined it that I caught myself several days later and thought 'Hang on, I haven't cried for days, in fact, I've hadly even thought about him'.

Now, the more skeptical amoung you are probably going to tell me "Well done, you got over him fast, didn't you?!"

I assure you, I loved this man and I still do, even moreso but I believe I was given peace when I prayed for it.

The trouble I'm now having is that I'm finding myself upset over it again. Nowhere near as bad as before but the niggly feeling that the split was wrong is still with me. It never went away, but over the last few weeks I've accepted that whats done is done and even though I pray for guidance over this issue all I seem to get is this building feeling that it was a mistake.

Perhaps I've just been having a bad few days, I don't know. He wants to see me again but I struggle with whether this is a good idea or not. I don't wish to re-open wounds but then the feeling that the split was a mistake won't go - am I being guided here or is it just my own feelings playing havoc with me?



Astral

 

[jay1_z]

I'm currenly in a similar situation. I have a child with a woman and now that I'm dedicating my life to Jesus I've been re-thinking whether our relationship will last. If you put God before all other things then He will help you get through these hard times. This may be hard to hear but there are numerous reasons as to why you are going through what you're going through. I don't know how dedicated you are to God but I will say that as long as you continue to pray you will receive the answers and the strength for your pains. God has brought me through so many trials, and I believe it was so that I could help someone in my family when he started going through the same thing. Have faith that things will work out for the better. Maybe God is making your separation temporary just so you can turn to God more. I strayed from God for a long time and I came to the realization that I need him more than anything else. I had to pray to get the motivation, the courage and the strength to get that relationship back with him. And He doesn't want a five, ten ,or even fifteen minute prayer. Sometimes we need to sacrifice our "precious, much needed" time. He wants a big (1-2 hours) sacrifice. I realized that I had to get down on my knees and REALLY pray. I hope you continue to pray and I will say a prayer for you now. God Bless!

 

[Suzannah]

Hi there.
Jay1z advice and thoughts are spot on!
Also, I just want to say that when we are holding onto something, it is quite easy for us to "feel" one thing or another. We must give the whole situation to God entirely and then completely "forget it". The ultimate outcome will be His answer. Going by your "feelings" in a matter such as this is simply too open for us to exploit ourselves. Prayer, and fasting is always in order when it comes to difficulties, repentence, and so on. keep praying..when you think you've prayed enough, please try to pray some more! I will pray for you...

 

[Beauty4Ashes]

mmm...

been exactly where you are.

Don't know what to say because I'm still trying to figure it out myself and for me its been almost a year now.

 

[Yitzchak]

I don't know. I would say until you are certain take small steps. Maybe it will become clearer as you go along.

 

[Rage4Christ]

astral-- life is tough. God isn't there to do the hard work for you. You aren't going to be guided. You need to do the heavy lifting here. The path to Christ is a struggle. You need to do some deep introspection. Understand your emotions and your spiritual response. The work is for you to either -- create the boundary that you don't need this relationship, or realize, that you do what the relationship. The Choice is yours-- not Christs-- so don't look to him to make that choice for you.

Christ wants to you to think, learn, make choices, make mistakes and enjoy sucesses.

If you look for "revelation" what you're asking for is a "gimmme" or a "freebie." Stop. Don't do it.

Learn your emotional state, and then choose what you want-- and then go out and get it.

 

[DawnMarie]

I think one of the best suggestions I've ever received was to study that Bible. The Lord speaks to you on a personal level when you seek His word. There are so many people who give advice that really aren't qualified to...including me. If you seek your wisdom from the Bible, you'll be getting the words from The Big Guy.

I've seen some pretty awful advice in this Christian column. Even some very critical comments. If you're at an impasse, look to the Lord for the answer. If this man was a loving follower of Christ, I can't imagine that you would've broken up with him at all in the first place, though. Your Father in Heaven has great things in store for you. Does this man fit in? Seek and ye shall find.

Good luck. I'll remember you in my prayers.

 

[Rafael]

Not knowing all the particulars, I can only point to the help we have with burdens in Jesus and the Holy Spirit. Our feelings are often powerful, being closely tied to the flesh, but the Lord is faithful to help us through each trial of our faith. Continue in prayer and be steadfast in the faith and His truth. If tempted to go back to something you know is wrong don't do it, and if your not sure, wait until you can do everything with faith. The Lord will work the things out, in time, that you can't.

Romans 8:25 But if we hope for that we see not, then do we with patience wait for it.