Am I being drawn to end my relationship?

[SnickeringFox]

I've been dating this girl for the past six months ans it's been wonderful, we get along perfectly, take care of each other, and truly love each other, but I feel like I'm being drawn to break up with her. I can't shake the feeling of something not feeling right, though everything is wonderful between us. I've had this feeling since we've started dating and I feel like it's God pulling on my heart to let go.

I'm 17 and she's 16, she grew up around Christians until she was around eight or so when her parents wandered away from Christianity and took her out of her private school. She hasn't really been around any Christians until recently with her being together with me and another Christian friend she has, but that's it. Through our relationship she's changed a lot, she's grown as a person and spiritually as well. She believes in God and Christ, she prays, and she's aware of whenever she sins and knows whenever she needs to seek forgiveness and prays for it, she's clearly concerned about her sin, two months into our relationship she told me about her past and how much it bothered her now because of it being really sinful and she was unsure if she could be forgiven for it, she had a change of heart. She still isn't saved and she doesn't consider herself a Christian and I've asked a close Christian friend of mine for advice and he told me that clearly God is using me to lead her to Him.

But this feeling I have bothers me so much, and if I broke up with her I don't know how I would explain to her that it's because I think God doesn't want me in this relationship. All I seek is to do what God wants me to do, I don't want her to blame God for us separating though, I feel like that would cause her to possibly turn away from Christianity, and that's the last thing I want to happen. So what could I tell her the reason being if we broke up without her ending up blaming God for it? She always tells me how blessed she is to have me and how I'm her gift from God and that she feels we're made for each other, and I feel the same. I just want to do what God wants me to do.

 

[Southernscotty]

I am praying for you to make the right decision. I do not believe anyone here can really tell you the "correct" thing to do in this case because this is your and her relationship and only you can decide what is right.
You do need to pray and ask God to lead and guide you in this friend.
Make sure everything that you do aligns with the scriptures.
Blessings

 

[Albion]

Hi, Fox. I doubt that it is God intervening in this matter and causing your hesitation. However, love is a mysterious bond and cannot be just boiled down to a list of the other person's characteristics, etc. I am not saying that this is what you have done, but I do feel that the connection can be almost impossible to define.

With many couples, they just click. They cannot actually identify what it is that causes them to feel as they do. For example, with some couples, they seem attracted to each other because they fit so well together or are so much alike. But others who seem to the outside world to have nothing in common have equally strong relationships.

This is not to minimize your feelings, but I would encourage you to focus very closely on what it is that is getting in the way, when you feel most strongly about something when the two of you are together, and so on, NOT being diverted by the idea that God is trying to tell you something.

Doing the latter will most likely only keep you from figuring out what actually is holding you back. And it may be that you will not ever be able to identify whatever it is but just that you two are not meant for each other. Hopefully, though, you will finally see what it is and then make a correction.

 

[maintenance man]

I've been dating this girl for the past six months ans it's been wonderful, we get along perfectly, take care of each other, and truly love each other, but I feel like I'm being drawn to break up with her. I can't shake the feeling of something not feeling right, though everything is wonderful between us. I've had this feeling since we've started dating and I feel like it's God pulling on my heart to let go.

If "everything is wonderful" why would you want to break up?

If you "truly love" this girl why would you want to hurt her?

You'll have to decide where your feelings are coming from. I think you should start by answering those questions.

 

[Heavenhome]

I agree with Scotty, no one here can tell you what to do here, but do pray about it .
The fact you are asking leads me to believe that you have some reservations.

God will direct you with your concerns if you are open to Him.
My prayers for you and God bless you.

 

[Joined2krist]

Is there intimacy involved in your relationship?

 

[Andrew77]

I've been dating this girl for the past six months ans it's been wonderful, we get along perfectly, take care of each other, and truly love each other, but I feel like I'm being drawn to break up with her. I can't shake the feeling of something not feeling right, though everything is wonderful between us. I've had this feeling since we've started dating and I feel like it's God pulling on my heart to let go.

I'm 17 and she's 16, she grew up around Christians until she was around eight or so when her parents wandered away from Christianity and took her out of her private school. She hasn't really been around any Christians until recently with her being together with me and another Christian friend she has, but that's it. Through our relationship she's changed a lot, she's grown as a person and spiritually as well. She believes in God and Christ, she prays, and she's aware of whenever she sins and knows whenever she needs to seek forgiveness and prays for it, she's clearly concerned about her sin, two months into our relationship she told me about her past and how much it bothered her now because of it being really sinful and she was unsure if she could be forgiven for it, she had a change of heart. She still isn't saved and she doesn't consider herself a Christian and I've asked a close Christian friend of mine for advice and he told me that clearly God is using me to lead her to Him.

But this feeling I have bothers me so much, and if I broke up with her I don't know how I would explain to her that it's because I think God doesn't want me in this relationship. All I seek is to do what God wants me to do, I don't want her to blame God for us separating though, I feel like that would cause her to possibly turn away from Christianity, and that's the last thing I want to happen. So what could I tell her the reason being if we broke up without her ending up blaming God for it? She always tells me how blessed she is to have me and how I'm her gift from God and that she feels we're made for each other, and I feel the same. I just want to do what God wants me to do.

First, if you do break up with someone, better to not have this grand explanation of how G-d this, or that, and how it was just not meant to be.

Just stop going out on dates, and stop talking to her. Just say you are no longer interested.

Whatever you are going to do is going to hurt. But to say "I feel like G-d told me to dump you" is beyond cruel. And i know you would say it more politely than that, but the reality is, that is what you would be saying to her. Don't. Don't do that.

Second, I am not sure why you are dating a 16 year old. You can't marry for 2 full years. That assumes you are going to marry when you are old enough to.

Why are you dating, when you can't progress in the relationship? That is just going to put stress on you and her, and you already feel it don't you?

Lastly, I don't like this "I am here to bless you" idea. Granted you are to bless everyone, but I don't like this idea that you are divinely put here to make one other person happy. That makes you take the place of Jesus Christ the Lord. You are not her savior.

I don't see any reason to break up at this point. I do not see why you 'feel' this way.

About the only thing that comes to mind is, this relationship is moving to be more serious, and you are indicating that you are not ready for something serious.

Maybe this feeling that you should break up, is really you just getting uncomfortable with the natural progression of a relationship, and you are not ready for it?

It's an idea.

If you think maybe that is the case, then you shouldn't be dating anyone. You should not date until you are ready to marry.