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Have Courage to Trust God!
- May 11, 2005
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Yes, we went through your typically church Christian counseling. Scriptures, lessons on handling issues, going to elder couples for council, the man's role, the woman's role, etc. However, after marriage happened she decided that was too much to handle and she would not be being herself if she was not a strong willed woman.
In light of what you mentioned about your father and parallels to your wife's behavior, is it possible you may be looking at things in a very complementarian domain?
If your wife leans more to the egalitarian side, (ie ...she would not be herself if she was not a strong willed woman) the difference in marriage views might be contributory to the difficulties you are running up against.
Ideally, this should have been addressed in pre-marital counseling... but many engaged folks think they can work through just about anything once they are married. Sadly, this often doesn't work out so great... and it takes a lot more work to address after marriage than before. Such is often compounded as one spouse will think things are fine, and all the while the other is freaking out.
Both views have scriptural support, but churches will often emphasize one more so than the other, in some cultures, churches may exclude one to the exception of the other. Such can lead credence to an upthread comment where you stated she feels counseling on her end is not needed. In a highly patriarchal society and/or a church that leans that way, this is a case where a counselor not associated with your church or even a non-religious counselor can be very beneficial... they see it a great deal, and have things that YOU can work on even if she is not initially willing.
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