Alright, I feel I just HAVE TO ask this question...

[PetraFan007]

Why does it seem like women don't care/think/desire sex as much as men? It seems like women are quick to say, "NO SEX!" in their personal ads. That's true, we should wait till marriage for sex, but they put it so BLUNTLY that it drives me nuts. It should be almost implied. You don't see guys putting up ads that say, "I want a girl, but NO SEX!" so blatantly blunt in their personal ads (but then again, I don't see many of them because I'm not looking for them, but sometimes I look at them to see what they put for ideas ). So yeah, why do women seem to be more against sex than men? For a girl---it seems like if they had to go through life without sex...it won't bother them so much. If I had to go through life without sex, I think I'd be devasted! Anyways, what's your thoughts people? *here come the flames!*

 

[Kestra]

They probably do it because the expectation nowadays is that there WILL be premarital sex... so they just want to be up front about it and say it's not going to happen!

 

[KristiXP]

Maybe they want to make sure that they avoid leading a guy on by mistake and that he knows from the bat that she's not in a relationship for sex.

 

[mina]

They want to make it clear that they don't want a relationship for the sole purpose of sex. Like they don't want a guy contacting them just for that reason. I don't think it means that she never wants sex ever. She just doesn't want a guy contacting her for a sex only type of relationship.

 

[jenptcfan]

Why does it seem like women don't care/think/desire sex as much as men? It seems like women are quick to say, "NO SEX!" in their personal ads. That's true, we should wait till marriage for sex, but they put it so BLUNTLY that it drives me nuts. It should be almost implied. You don't see guys putting up ads that say, "I want a girl, but NO SEX!" so blatantly blunt in their personal ads (but then again, I don't see many of them because I'm not looking for them, but sometimes I look at them to see what they put for ideas ). So yeah, why do women seem to be more against sex than men? For a girl---it seems like if they had to go through life without sex...it won't bother them so much. If I had to go through life without sex, I think I'd be devasted! Anyways, what's your thoughts people? *here come the flames!*

I don't think it's necessarily accurate that women don't desire sex. I think maybe the ads you saw had "NO SEX!" on them to weed out creeps who are only looking for sex. That would be my guess.

 

[Talie]

maybe it's got something to do with the hundreds of thousands of guys online who want cybersex...............just a thought - but I for one find that very offputting - i used to random chat on icq and if a guy (and even sometimes a girl *shudder*) messaged you 99% of the time that's all he wanted

 

[PetraFan007]

Thanks for the replies, but I'm talking about Christians ads too.

 

[jenptcfan]

Thanks for the replies, but I'm talking about Christians ads too.

Christians can be creeps too.

 

[JPPT1974]

First the secular world and Hollywood think that it is all right to have sex without marriage nor to live together not married but the one person who minds of course, is that being of the Lord who wants us to give our spouses the gift of virginity on you wedding night and to be virgins until we get married that is if we ever do.

 

[Living4Him03]

Well, I know that I would probably want to deter non-Christian guys who are ONLY looking for sex and don't want a real realtionship by making it CLEAR that there is going to be no sex unless we were to get married. Even some supposedly "Christian" guys don't get that a girl doesn't just want to get hooked up. So if a girl puts that in her personal ad it doesn't mean she doesn't desire sex.

I think it's bad to generalize about what men and women want, etc. It varies from woman to woman. I personally struggle with lust and desiring sex. When I get married I will want to make love to my husband often. I can't wait to be able to do that and to not have to worry about it...to just have as much sex as we both desire So women do desire sex, but we are all different and have different levels of desire.

A reason some women don't desire sex is 1. They could be depressed, which often leads to a lower sex drive, or 2. They've been hurt by someone they had sex with in the past, and maybe their first experience with sex or other experiences were not good ones, so they don't desire something that was never good for them. Does that make sense?

There can be a lot of factors involved in why someone doesn't desire sex, but the girls you are referring to, it's probably the fact that they want someone who is interested in a relationship, not cybersex or just hooking up or whatever.

 

[remy]

Whenever I say "no sex", people (typically non-Christians) think I'm gay or a retard. Well I say "haw!", since I can live free from disease, kids, and emotional bonds.

I think it's the times we live in, since more people are having premarital sex, some want save themselves for their future spouse.

 

[PetraFan007]

haw! LOL :-D Sweet. Thanks for the responses. :-D

 

[Lbiagm]

exactly what everyone else said.

 

[Mr.Cheese]

As far as desire, I don't know where the idea came from that they don't desire it as much as we do.

Good grief.

As far as personal ads, girls probably put that up so they don't get replies from someone who simply wants to get laid, as in, "Hey I saw your ad. Let's hook up and go a few rounds in the sack." I can't blame them for not wanting to deal with that.

But girls want it as much as we do. That's what I've learned.

 

[Quiet Storm]

I've got to admit that it kind of irritates me when I just see it put out there bluntly like that. Granted, I haven't been in the female's shoes, so her motvies could be, and probably are, pure. However when I, someone who has pure intentions and motives, see something like that it gives off a vibe that tells me she may be bitter and that pushes me away very quickly. Not meant to cause any conflict. Just stating one single man's opinion.

haw! LOL

I noticed the same thing. "Haw!!" LOL

 

[Quiet Storm]

double post. sorry

 

[Veritas]

As a 44 year old female who's twice many of your ages....meaning I've been your age, but you haven't been mine, here's a couple of things to keep in mind. First, females are capable of greater and more frequent sexual pleasure than men and yet they can take it or leave it. This bugs men. To them, sex is as important as sleeping and eating. In reality, it's not. You can actually live a long, healthy life without it. Secondly, most males are the sexual aggressors. This means that given the opportunity, a male will take advantage of a female. So......in order to protect herself, a female will set the tone right up front. This helps manage a guys expectations, let's him know the rules. My advice: be thankful you know where she stands on the issue and that she's trying to do the right thing. If you're a Christian, than this shouldn't bother you. If you're a predator, it won't make you happy but at least you know to look elsewhere.

 

[jay_swift]

Many guys get into relationships just to "get some". The women that note that you won't get any before the relationship starts filters out these types of guys. A good strategy! It probably saves them a lot of time, and keeps them safer in the process.

 

[Phrasedefina]

I don't know where you see ALL these ads.

I know plenty of women that desire sex. I don't care what anyone says, once a girl is with a guy she really likes and they have good chemistry (i.e. she...you know) in the bedroom, she will have a for desire sex.

I believe that a sexually active female (who has been pleasured in the past) thinks about sex at least 2/3rds of the amount of time spent that sexually active males think about sex.

Also, I understand why many ladies will say that in a add to set a tone. Veritas is right, us men are sexual aggresors. Some more than others. We can be very demanding even when we don't think we are. I have caught myself in the act of "seducing" a female before, and even though she wanted to do things with me also, I still saw myself doing it.

 

[PetraFan007]

Quiet Storm---you were the only one that saw from my persepective the situation! lol, but yeah I guess it's a good thing if you say so, girls.