almost a year

[HerCrazierHalf]

Day 360: It's been almost a year since I got married. To be honest with a few exceptions I'm not really sure what really changes when one marries other than finances and opening up the possibility of children. Well that and the difficulties of living together after living alone for several years.

But other than that it's been great with many years to come. I guess the great question is ...

What changed when you got married?

 

[Dave-W]

What are you doing for that first anniversary?

A LOT could change depending on how well that goes.

 

[All4Christ]

We just reached 8 months...time passes quickly!

On the practical side...Less date nights (we have to be intentional about that), working on housework together, hanging out without many responsibilities to handle at that time vs dealing with responsibilities most of the time we are together.

On the good side, having each other home each night, a companion to share everything with or just quiet support without words needed, eating together daily, love making , someone to help with work and take care of you when you are sick, and increasing companionship, friendship and love even beyond where it was when we were engaged.

 

[HerCrazierHalf]

What are you doing for that first anniversary?

A LOT could change depending on how well that goes.

We are going to spend a few nights in a cabin the woods. Should be fun.

Coyotes, bears, and a marginal risk of Lyme disease and Bubonic Plague. Woohoo!

 

[annafullofgrace]

My husband and I will be celebrating 12 years next month. Other than the usual of getting used to living with another person, we've become closer.

 

[Mayzoo]

25 years this October

Going to sleep together. Waking up together. Combined money, and bills. Amount of time available to spend together. Learning each others nuances of living together. Worrying about him if he did not get home on time. Having enough time together to actually be bored together LOL.

 

[Angeldove97]

4 years in about a month for me and hubby. We were living together for about 2 years prior to getting married - I preferred that because I don't do well with change and I didn't want to get married and then realize I couldn't actually live with this guy As for financial, it actually hurt us badly when we got married - our taxes went way up, but we live in an expensive state, so our salaries don't make us upper middle class at all.

I would say what has changed is quiet companionship. We were hanging out with a unmarried couple yesterday and they're still all over each other and they don't get why we're not. We love each other, we just don't have to be physical so much.

We're actually talking about buying the condo that we're living in - our landlord is kind of pushing us into it since we don't want to move out of here - and while I know that's a HUGE change (we have always just rented), I think it shows that we are fully committed to each other. As I look around, I see less of my stuff and more of our stuff as each day passes.

We may or may not have kids - I want kids and he wants kids, but I'm not sure how that will work out. I'm a teacher so I kind of get my "fill" during my work day and our 3 cats are keeping us busy enough. But I know at least with us being married, that's more of a possibility than if we were just dating.

 

[HerCrazierHalf]

Oddly, the downsides ask circle around loss of freedoms/independence. I miss the times when decisions only affected me. Asking the same line, I'm no longer allowed to die stupidly. By that I mean I must use care when engaging in potentially lethal activities like kayaking in open water and I have to actively deal with health issues instead of waiting to see if it tries to kill me.

On the upside, a bunch of stuff I can't really quantify.

 

[NothingIsImpossible]

For me being married 2 years now (together in person for the last year), changes are pretty obvious. Your "single" lifestyle goes away for the most part since its not about you anymore. Less tv, less movies, less games...etc. But its worth it because you have someone with you always. You also have more responsibilities. For example when my wife comes home from work I can choose to continue watching something on tv OR I can give her a massage to help with her pain. Obviously I choose massage. Money changes have occurred too such as wanting to save, learning a budget...etc. Also your friends tent to change, you find yourself hanging out with married couples more then singles.

They say the first year or two is when you may have alot of disagreements as you get used to each other and how you live and interact together. If you can make it past that year or two then things will be fine.