all alone

[forever_faithful_7]

they say that chrisitan people should be the happiest people in the world. im not saying that im never happy, but at may age there is always so much going on! i have people surronding me all the time, but somehow i always feel alone. none of my friends are christians and very few family members are chrisitans. sometimes i wish i had a christian boyfriend or at least a christian best friend that could understand me. i feel like none of my friends understand me at all. im only 17 and i know that were young, but half of the stuff they want to talk about, just doesnt intrest me, at all. any suggestions?

 

[goldenviolet]

hang out with Jesus and us .....
do you go to church? if you don't you could find one with a good youth group. ok... Mandy ... you need to know the truth about joy. christians do LEARN to feel great joy... ... and at the same time: God created our feelings and emotions. everyone is different and feels differently.
i know people who feel great joy all of the time (it's a spiritual gift)... and i know people who feel alot of sarrow. and for most of us it is part of our spiritual walk to maintain our lifes and moods to be on a healthy path.
being a "good christian" doesn't make feelings change so much that that is our light...
our light is the Truth and Life mirrored of our Faith: GOD IS REAL...
and by the truth that God chooses to reaveal to people, (our testemonies)... you are just the seed, Christ is the Savior.
so don't let anyone push you into the perfect looking life.
Just let people see that you are not in it alone. ...
and surround youself with fellowship we all are made to lift eachother up!

 

[Mr.Cheese]

The bible doesn't guarantee us to be the happiest people in the world. It depicts life as a fight, battle, a journey requiring great perseverance.

*hug*

But it's a good journey.

 

[EuphonicDissonance]

Know what, we should have all the people that are feeling lonely right now get together and talk stuff out, like on MSN or something. That's for technology is for

 

[plainswolf]

Forever_faithful

Christ Himself was also known as "The Man of Sorrows"... When you feel alone and most abandoned by God, that is when He is so very close to you, and by this He drawing you into a more intimate union with Himself. Even when a child feels most alone and frightened, all the more does he grasp unto his parent, ever holding him closer and clinging more firmly. So in like manner does Christ desire this from us, that by allowing us to feel this, we may cling to Him all the more, ever drawing Him closer and holding Him more firmly...

J.M.J.
Mark

 

[Waylon]

that can be rough to not have anyone close to talk to about Christian stuff. I am in the same boat right now because I am sorta church shopping and I am also pretty anti-social. When I feel the strong need to really have someone to talk to I am going to join some bible studies at this church I kinda like. I suggest you do the same thing, get involved in some volunteer work at a church or start going to bible studies. You get to meet some cool people and share the same experiences.

 

[perfection]

God knows whats truelly happening in your heart, and you can add Christian friends to your MSN or other messenger to talk to you How is that for an idea? Also you can try finding your Christian boyfriend while going to church Just don't forget to listen to what the pastor says also ,lol.

 

[soyness]

What about a local church?? that will help you with your loneliness.

 

[Mebby01]

l know what your feeling none of my friends are christians either
either is my boyfriend. My parents and my sis believe in God and l do
too but none of us go to church. l know excually what you mean
if you want to have christian friends or christian best friend l would
suggest you get involved and start going to youth groups. Go by
yourself your bound to meet people there l know your like l don't want
to go alone people will laugh at me. They won't just try going there
it will be fun and that how you meet people. And start going to church
and you will meet lots of people it might take a while I know you
can do it
Good Luck!

 

[PolskiKrol]

I often fall into the trap expecting God from people. But people like St Francis, who spent time in a hermitage away from all human contact, show us through example that we dont need other peoples attention to be loved; but we do need God's attention. Thats why I often turn loneliness into prayer.

Being lonely is part of being human; even the most beloved of all humans, Jesus, upon taking up humanity, had to bear loneliness when he was rejected by all of his friends at the hour of his greatest sorrow (even peter, james and john!). When we experience loneliness, we experience part of the Passion of Christ, and take place in God's plan for the salvation of mankind. So that even when we feel alone and dont matter, we can bear it in love as Jesus did, and unite ourselves with Christ.

A lot of people will give you cliches like "Jesus is your best friend!" and while true, only a few find comfort in that. Prayer can be really hard sometimes when you feel like God isnt listening. Some of the greatest saints have gone through times in which they felt separated from God, the dark night of the soul. A reporter once asked Blessed Teresea of Calcutta when the last time she felt the love of Jesus, and she answered, "Not for thirty years!" But Blessed Teresea had that faith which rdee was talking about to continue in prayer and works to serve Christ. Our emotions and physical feelings are not the gauge of the state of our soul. As St John of the cross says, "Love consists not in feeling great things but in having great detachment* and in suffering for the Beloved." Many times our attention is held by the people around us, but "If a man wishes to be sure of the road he treads on, he must close his eyes and walk in the dark.” Sometimes God puts us in this darkness and loneliness, not to alienate us, but because in darkness and separation from others, we find the current state of our own soul, so that we may conform it to His will.

*great detachment- meaning detachment from the things of this world. It is possible to be so attatched to other people that we depend on them emotionally, rather then depending on God. "The soul that is attached to anything however much good there may be in it, will not arrive at the liberty of divine union." Rather than looking at loneliness and isolation intrinsically bad, we can use it to empty ourselves of attatchment to this earth, and allow God to bring our souls closer to Him.

So don't be sad! "Desolation is a file (as in a polishing file), and the endurance of darkness is preparation for great light!"

 

[PolskiKrol]

^^ Wow. Even when you already know somthing, its great to go over it again. I was forgetting about this side of our faith, and i dont know about you guys but just going over it again helps me be less confused. great thread ff7.