Alcoholics and Addicts Discussion/Support Thread

[SOTK]

just peekin my head in the room and seeins if anyones around.

 

[justanobserver]

Happy Mothers Day to all you moms.

I know people who are clean and sober today because of the love of a mom.

 

[cajunlady]

 

[justanobserver]

6th day of no smoking. And yes, I did ask God to help with urges and nicotine withdrawels. so far, it aint been tooooo bad. had a couple guys at work today having a ball trying to offer me a smoke. they finally stopped after my suggestion to them about getting fitted for dentures if they kept bugging me......

 

[justanobserver]

anybody home?????? just stickin my head in the room and saying howdies.

 

[helmsj]

I got to this forum thru a Google search, because I was wanting to connect with people who have family members who use crack and alcohol and perhaps read what their (hopefully) Biblical perspectives are on how to relate to them. Of course the pat answer to that is to "love" them. I need to see how that works out Biblically. I want to know if I am being a harm to my adult son by allowing him to live with me, etc. I know I haven't given a lot of detail yet, but I can give more if someone desires to reply to my post and either give me their Biblical perspective about something I've already said or point me to another thread or website where I can get engaged in discussion about how to Biblically be loving addictive family members. Thanks

 

[justanobserver]

Hey helmsj vbmenu_register("postmenu_24314979", true); ! weclome to CF and the recovery threads. I am not a christian but I can at least say that regardless of christian status, love, understanding and patience sias a lot in dealing with the addict/alcoholic. Have you attended or looked into AL ANON or other support grooups for the dependants of alcoholics/addicts? You can ggogle AlAnon adn check out their web site. Theres several christian based AA type programs, one being Celebrate Recovery (they have a web site as well) where you can go to a meeting and learn how to deal and to undertsand based on the scriptures.

again, welcome to CF.

 

[ArmouredSaint]

i feel so sick..bad last few days for me.

 

[justanobserver]

i feel so sick..bad last few days for me.

hope you are feeling better. have you gone to a meeting or called your sponsor (assuming you might have one). you didnt give much info - maybe you ought to go to the hospital? wish I could give better advise but all I can do is wish the best for you and that it gets better.

 

[cajunlady]

Hey ya'll, WHAT'S UP? Just checking in, I hope you are all doing great....God bless.........

 

[cajunlady]

I got to this forum thru a Google search, because I was wanting to connect with people who have family members who use crack and alcohol and perhaps read what their (hopefully) Biblical perspectives are on how to relate to them. Of course the pat answer to that is to "love" them. I need to see how that works out Biblically. I want to know if I am being a harm to my adult son by allowing him to live with me, etc. I know I haven't given a lot of detail yet, but I can give more if someone desires to reply to my post and either give me their Biblical perspective about something I've already said or point me to another thread or website where I can get engaged in discussion about how to Biblically be loving addictive family members. Thanks

Hi helms,
I am a recovering crack addict and the only thing that worked from my parents was tough love. If you are enabling your son that can be a harm, but I understand that you love him. If you need to talk you could pm me anytime...God bless.... I will be praying for your family...

 

[Christian79]

This seems like a site that could be very helpful, so thank you for posting it. I am currently struggling with opiate and benzo addiction. I get clean and fall over and over. I got clean after Christmas and went through withdrawels on my own. I allowed school to keep me busy and prayed all the time. I am a senior in college by the way. Nevertheless, I started using after spring break and am now ready to get clean again, but how do I do it for good. I called a christian based rehabilitiation but she wouldn't let be get in because she said my past years of anti-anxiety and deppression medications needs dual diagnosis and they aren't a facility that can give other meds. I told her I want to get off everything and begged her to let me get in but she wouldn't. My boyfriend is about to graduate a 3 mo. christian based program for a crack addiction. We have been together for 3 yrs. now. I got clean after Christmas with expectations of staying clean so my boyfriend and I could be clean together and live the life God intended for us, why did I mess up again because I desperately want a sober and successeful life with the one that I love? I have summer school starting in one week and I am tappering myself down so I can get clean. I hate withdrawels so why do I do it to myself?

 

[justanobserver]

Howdies. Just peekin in the room to say hi and wishing all a continual clean and sober life.

 

[LoG]

Howdy back. Hope all is well with you Justan.

How are things with you Christian79? Is the tapering down working out for you?

 

[AngelDove1]

This seems like a site that could be very helpful, so thank you for posting it. I am currently struggling with opiate and benzo addiction. I get clean and fall over and over. I got clean after Christmas and went through withdrawels on my own. I allowed school to keep me busy and prayed all the time. I am a senior in college by the way. Nevertheless, I started using after spring break and am now ready to get clean again, but how do I do it for good. I called a christian based rehabilitiation but she wouldn't let be get in because she said my past years of anti-anxiety and deppression medications needs dual diagnosis and they aren't a facility that can give other meds. I told her I want to get off everything and begged her to let me get in but she wouldn't. My boyfriend is about to graduate a 3 mo. christian based program for a crack addiction. We have been together for 3 yrs. now. I got clean after Christmas with expectations of staying clean so my boyfriend and I could be clean together and live the life God intended for us, why did I mess up again because I desperately want a sober and successeful life with the one that I love? I have summer school starting in one week and I am tappering myself down so I can get clean. I hate withdrawels so why do I do it to myself?

Wow!
One of the first steps is to get honest with ourselves,sincerly honest.
How bad do you want sobrity?
I had to ask myself the same question when I slipt.
Hey kiddo..its not easy,but it can be done.
Your not alone.Others have fallen of the wagon for you and came back to tell of how hard it was to get back into the program.

Literally take the words "One Day At Time"
"One Step At A Time" even if your "Trudging"
If I did it you can do it.

Remember do it for yourself 1st....
Not anybody else or for this or that reason.
Buuuut for yourself.

Yes God can do for us ....what we could not do for ourselves.

Your in my prayer....

 

[AngelDove1]

Howdies. Just peekin in the room to say hi and wishing all a continual clean and sober life.

Hey justanobserver.....
Thx you to bud God bless you.

 

[Christian79]

Wow!
One of the first steps is to get honest with ourselves,sincerly honest.
How bad do you want sobrity?
I had to ask myself the same question when I slipt.
Hey kiddo..its not easy,but it can be done.
Your not alone.Others have fallen of the wagon for you and came back to tell of how hard it was to get back into the program.

Literally take the words "One Day At Time"
"One Step At A Time" even if your "Trudging"
If I did it you can do it.

Remember do it for yourself 1st....
Not anybody else or for this or that reason.
Buuuut for yourself.

Yes God can do for us ....what we could not do for ourselves.

Your in my prayer....

Thank you so much. I have tapered down with two days left of medication left, hopefully I have given my body enough time to adjust, although this is probably going to be the hardest week. Someone told me about a new treatment called suboxone, but it is so expensive. I pray for the sake of my boyfried who gets to come stay at my on campus apartment on the weekends since he has graduated his christian rehab. All I can do is be honest. I love him so much that I don't want to be toxic to him, yet I want to be sober with him, when can we finally be good for one another and be blessed? School keeps me so busy it is easy to not have "idle" time to think about using, but my biggest prayer is that no matter what circumstance, I will not turn to self medication anymore. I want a better life: marriage, children, a balanced career after graduating....all of which needs to be blessed by God!
........BY THE WAY......do you guys have problems with fear whether it be waking up in fear or throuought the day? When will this pass?
One more thing........"I pray for everyone who struggles with anything holding them down and anyone who has taken the time to listen to what I have to say."

 

[Christian79]

Howdy back. Hope all is well with you Justan.

How are things with you Christian79? Is the tapering down working out for you?

Thank you for asking: the tappering down hasn't been hard I believe it will be the upcomming week when I am fully off everything. How are You?

 

[justanobserver]

Thank you so much. I have tapered down with two days left of medication left, hopefully I have given my body enough time to adjust, although this is probably going to be the hardest week. Someone told me about a new treatment called suboxone, but it is so expensive. I pray for the sake of my boyfried who gets to come stay at my on campus apartment on the weekends since he has graduated his christian rehab. All I can do is be honest. I love him so much that I don't want to be toxic to him, yet I want to be sober with him, when can we finally be good for one another and be blessed? School keeps me so busy it is easy to not have "idle" time to think about using, but my biggest prayer is that no matter what circumstance, I will not turn to self medication anymore. I want a better life: marriage, children, a balanced career after graduating....all of which needs to be blessed by God!
........BY THE WAY......do you guys have problems with fear whether it be waking up in fear or throuought the day? When will this pass?
One more thing........"I pray for everyone who struggles with anything holding them down and anyone who has taken the time to listen to what I have to say."

you and your boyfriend will be in my thoughts. I cant really give spiritual advise but I can say go to meetings, involve yourself in recovery programs, be it AA or Celebrate Recovery, hook yoursel up with folks that are strong in sobriety and knowledgeable and will help you. Get a sponsor if you dont have one.

I wish you two the best of thoughts.

 

[LoG]

Thank you for asking: the tappering down hasn't been hard I believe it will be the upcomming week when I am fully off everything. How are You?

It could be hard for a while until one deals with the potential triggers for a relapse. Once we step over that line into addictive behaviour, there is a predisposition to handle the challenges of life with some type of mood altering drug. For me it caused some very powerful cravings. I'm not trying to scare you but am hoping you realize that it is very difficult to quit on one's own for an extended period of time without help and support. Putting that need on our spouses or significant others can put a real strain on a relationship in my experience.

Hope you will consider AA/NA meetings. God, through those meetings saved my life.