Ahhhh Mindgames!!!!

[MrsGnomeCrusher]

I don't think it makes you a wimp. Some people can go ahead, ask someone out, be rejected, shrug it off and move on. Other people, like me, tend to wear my heart on my sleeve. If I were to ask someone out it is because I really, really, really like that person and the thought of rejection eats away at you. It's not that you're a wimp. No matter what, rejection hurts. Some people are able to let it roll off their backs. Others let it go straight to the heart.

Sometimes we don't know for sure about many things, but we have to do them. It sounds like you have a pretty good chance of things working out the way you want them. But you always have to remember that they may not. She may be sitting there waiting for you to ask her out on a date, thinking, "duh, doesn't this guy get it??" or the idea may surprise her and she may say no. But how will you know unless you take that chance?

 

[songz777]

Yes I agree with you Carrie, it would take me a lot courage to finally ask someone for a date, or just "would she like to this on saturday etc" rejection does hurt me, and
Iv e been there many times, its only the strength of the Lord that helps one through.
I also think that if she really loves the Lord, then she will be wise about how much she shows an intrest in you, not leading you astray and giving false hopes.
Bless u john:o)

 

[Talie]

I'd start off by taking her out on that dinner you owe her! then if all goes well, arrange to do it again some time

 

[desi]

I plan on asking her out, but a manner of when and how is yet to be decided, and seeing as how im a wuss (I get really shy around females im interested in) this won't be easy. If its not done right it will deffinately seem awkward for sure. And yeah it is worth the risk, but it is that "what if" side taking control right now.... I need courage, and prayer. The last time I asked a girl out (the only other time) I knew FOR SURE that she wanted to go out, so this is scaring the heck outa me. I'm such a wimp, and im 20, go figure......

You may want to go to a mall and practice on various women for a few hours.

 

[TheDatelessLoserX2]

Heh, at my mall I'd get thrown out for stalking, or get utterly embarassed (i know a lot of folks that work there) <--------I have no "game" laff!

 

[en|gma]

BTW why is it that guys have a hard time deciding if a girl is interested? That irritates me greatly. Why cant they just wear a tag or something? (that would make things so much easier, but things are never that simple). Maybe I am just setting myself up to get burned again, oh well........ What do you all think? I am a relationship novice, so I have no backround to work with.

*sits on soapbox to ponder*

Uhmm...first of all...why do guys have to decide if a girl is interested before asking her out? Why can't guys just gather up the courage to ask the girl he likes without a guarantee of acceptance? That is what separates a man from a boy....me thinks

 

[TheDatelessLoserX2]

Because sometimes guys (such as myself) get sick of putting themselves out there to be constantly humiliated/shot down, and put at the mercy of a girl, therefore you start becoming more careful/paranoid. Not to mention, we are friends, so there is a history to work with as well, she isn't just some random gal on the street.