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God does not "need" love. In fact, God does not "need" anything!

God is Love - simple as that. God is love. In Genesis, God created us (man and woman) in His image. God created us to love. To love unconditionally - as He loves us, unconditionally. When we love as God loves, we are living His will. To "love the Lord your God with all your heart, with all your mind and with all your soul" is living as God created us - in love.

Whoever does not love does not know God, because God is love. (John 4:8)
 
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Hi tn, Thanks for your responses.

The bible tells us that being good does not get us into heaven

I am aware that the Bible talks about various kinds of works. It is possible for people to become proud, arrogant or even complacent about their own goodness and there are some very good biblical teachings against such attitudes.

For example, Jesus told us that after we have done all we are commanded to do, we should still say "we are unprofitable servants".

And yet, the command to do good is still there. It is our attitudes that need to change. I believe that "being good" IS enough, but perhaps it's a difference of terminology.

You talk about people relying on their churches or their own actions to save them, but I don't think that's what it means to "be good", at least, not in the context of how I use the phrase.

When I talk about being good, I am referring to the kind of loving spirit Jesus used to describe what God is looking for in the parable of the sheep and goats (matthew 25).

The sheep didn't even know they were being good or working for God. They just showed love, and it was enough to please God. I think it can be (and should be) the same for us, too (including non Christians).

But I also think, along with this kind of sincerity, which can save anyone, including atheists or whoever, should also come a constant kind of self examination where we ask ourselves if there is more which we may be missing out on.

A genuinely sincere atheist will not ignore Jesus' teachings on how to show love to others. Even if that person cannot accept Jesus' divinity, they should be able to accept (and act on) his teachings about showing love to others, just as Christians should be able to accept (and act on) teachings from other religions (or teachers in general) if those teachings are consistent with showing love to others.

According to the Bible, there are people who live what we would consider morally good lives that go to hell Every Day!

There is a lot in this sentence that needs clarification. Where do you find this teaching in the Bible? What do you mean by "what we would consider" and what do you mean by "morally good lives"?
 
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God created us to love. To love unconditionally - as He loves us, unconditionally.

What you are saying sounds nice, but I think there really are some conditions which are quite important for getting the spirit of what God wants.

For example, you follow your comments about unconditional love up with:

To "love the Lord your God with all your heart, with all your mind and with all your soul" is living as God created us - in love.

Do we have a responsibility to love God? And if so, is that really so different from a "condition"? When we (or the Bible or Jesus) talk about love, what does it mean in a practical way? Does it include forgiving others, or showing our love in some way?

What does that "showing" of love include? Does love for God include repentance and if so, what does repentance include? Are any of these expressed as commands or imperatives in the Bible and if so, isn't that basically a condition?

Even as Christians, we talk about "accepting" Jesus or having a "personal relationship" with him in order to be saved. The phrase "in order to" is a condition for salvation, isn't it?

I'm pointing this out, not to be contentious with your post about love, but because I feel it is important not to make the picture sound more rosy than what it really is, for people seeking answers.

Practical love is not unconditional. If we want others to know we love them, then we MUST show it. That is a condition.
 
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Do we have a responsibility to love God?
We are given free will to believe in God, have faith in God, trust God and to love God.. It's our choice to do so, so it is not a "condition"
When we (or the Bible or Jesus) talk about love, what does it mean in a practical way?
It means to treat others as we ourselves would want to be treated. To pray for them, wish them well, and to follow to our best ability the 10 Commandments and observe the Beatitudes written in Mark 5:1-12
Does it include forgiving others, or showing our love in some way?
Yes.. "Love is patient, love is kind. It does not envy, it does not boast, it is not proud. It does not dishonor others, it is not self-seeking, it is not easily angered, it keeps no record of wrongs. Love does not delight in evil but rejoices with the truth. It always protects, always trusts, always hopes, always perseveres." 1 Corinthians 13:4-7
What does that "showing" of love include? See the above answer
Does love for God include repentance and if so, what does repentance include? Are any of these expressed as commands or imperatives in the Bible and if so, isn't that basically a condition?
Yes, love for God can include repentance. If you would knowingly hurt someone you loved deeply, the natural thing to do would be to say you were sorry - and mean it. For me, repentance means going to Sacramental Confession, (or Reconciliation as it is now known) to confess that I did something wrong - and that I am truly sorry. It is not a condition. I don't "have" to go.. You don't have to say you're sorry to your loved one that you may have hurt - but that would be counter productive to the love that you share, there would be that wedge that pulls you and your loved one apart.
Even as Christians, we talk about "accepting" Jesus or having a "personal relationship" with him in order to be saved. The phrase "in order to" is a condition for salvation, isn't it?
I can't speak for "All" Christians, but as a Catholic, we "accept" Jesus through the Sacraments and have a "personal relationship" with Him throughout our lives. Sacraments provide me with Sanctifying Grace - My faith in God and the Grace given in a Sacramental way strengthens me to live out my faith in love and follow the will of the Father for my life.

I hope this helped!

God Bless YOU!


 
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Hi Lisa. Thanks for your response.

Yes, love for God can include repentance. If you would knowingly hurt someone you loved deeply, the natural thing to do would be to say you were sorry - and mean it.

I'm not sure if I am understanding the way you've worded this. You say if we've knowingly hurt someone then we should apologize. Do you mean if we deliberately hurt someone, or if we accidentally hurt someone and then realized it afterwards, or both?

Also, I'm not sure why you say that a love for God "can" include repentance, as it seems to side step the point I'm trying to make about conditions on love. Saying sorry (and meaning it, as you suggested) is a way of showing love. If we do not show love, then can we say that we really have love? It is a condition of love that it must be shown in order to qualify as love.

For me, repentance means going to Sacramental Confession, (or Reconciliation as it is now known) to confess that I did something wrong - and that I am truly sorry. It is not a condition. I don't "have" to go.. You don't have to say you're sorry to your loved one that you may have hurt - but that would be counter productive to the love that you share, there would be that wedge that pulls you and your loved one apart.

I agree that as a result of free will, none of us must do anything. We could just sit around doing nothing for life and that is our right to choose.

But that is quite different to what I am saying about conditions on love. I am not suggesting that people have the right to do or not to do anything. I am saying that IF people want to show love, OR experience love, there are conditions that MUST be met in order to do so.

In order to either remove, or avoid the wedge you mentioned, we must be willing to face up to our mistakes and bad decisions. Sure we have the right not to do so, but the condition for genuine love demands that we repent.

Gotta go now. See you next time. :)
 
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I'm not sure if I am understanding the way you've worded this. You say if we've knowingly hurt someone then we should apologize. Do you mean if we deliberately hurt someone, or if we accidentally hurt someone and then realized it afterwards, or both?

In any case, an apology to a loved one would be the way to make things right. It would close the wedge that would be cause in the relationship if a loved one were hurt by us whether inadvertantly or not...

Also, I'm not sure why you say that a love for God "can" include repentance, as it seems to side step the point I'm trying to make about conditions on love. Saying sorry (and meaning it, as you suggested) is a way of showing love. If we do not show love, then can we say that we really have love? It is a condition of love that it must be shown in order to qualify as love.


I say "can" because just as if you would compare a relationship of love with God to a relationship of love with someone you deeply care for, we have free will - to apologize or not. If we are truly sorry, we will apologize.. If we want to "argue our point" - have at it - God can handle it. But remember, God is a lover who yearns for our love, our attention. It is not that we "must" show our love, but that we WANT and NEED to show our love - in every way we can!

There ARE no conditions, God does not MAKE us love Him. If He did it would be slavery, not free love. As I've said earlier, God is deeply, madly, purely, and fully in love with each and everyone.. He waits, as a lover, for us to come to Him - and when we do, we want - or make that "NEED" - to come to Him in the love that is so purly set out for us in Scripture.
There ARE no conditions, God does not MAKE us love Him. If He did it would be slavery, not free love. As I've said earlier, God is deeply, madly, purely, and fully in love with each and everyone.. He waits, as a lover, for us to come to Him - and when we do, we want - or make that "NEED" - to come to Him in the love that is so purly set out for us in Scripture.


There ARE no conditions, God does not MAKE us love Him. If He did it would be slavery, not free love. As I've said earlier, God is deeply, madly, purely, and fully in love with each and everyone.. He waits, as a lover, for us to come to Him - and when we do, we want - or make that "NEED" - to come to Him in the love that is so purly set out for us in Scripture.

He comes to us with the love of a Father, with the love of a Mother, with the love of a Spouse. Deep and complete. He doesn't "order" us to love Him back just as my husband, children or grandchild "orders" me to love them - it just "is".. no conditions, no rules, no demands, just love...

God Bless You!


 
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It is not that we "must" show our love, but that we WANT and NEED to show our love - in every way we can!

Yes, I agree that we have the freedom NOT to show love. But that is not the point I am addressing.

The point is, what does it mean to show love. If we refuse to recognize that we've hurt others in some way, or have been selfish, greedy, inconsiderate, lazy, arrogant, etc... then we are not showing love to others who are affected by our behavior.

"Unconditional love" says there is no need to recognize these issues, because doing so is a condition.

But I am saying unconditional love does not exist, because love really does have conditions. If we refuse to recognize areas where we've hurt others, then we are not showing love. Recognition of the feelings and needs of others is a condition of showing love. Without meeting that condition, we cannot say we are showing love.

I believe this is significant because Jesus said, "Those who obey me show that they love me and those who love me wlll obey me". Obedience (or, a genuine concern for what Jesus wants) is directly attached to what it means to show love, as a condition for showing love.

"Unconditional love" so often becomes a convenient doctrine to side step dealing with uncomfortable issues or disciplines.
 
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The point is, what does it mean to show love. If we refuse to recognize that we've hurt others in some way, or have been selfish, greedy, inconsiderate, lazy, arrogant, etc... then we are not showing love to others who are affected by our behavior.

To "show" love, is to at least "try" to love as the Father loves us - unconditionally. (Love is patient, love is kind. It does not envy, it does not boast, it is not proud. It does not dishonor others, it is not self-seeking, it is not easily angered, it keeps no record of wrongs. Love does not delight in evil but rejoices with the truth. It always protects, always trusts, always hopes, always perseveres. ) When I think of unconditional love, I think of the love I have for my children.. Nothing, and I mean NOTHING they can or could ever do - whether to me or in ANY area of their lives - could ever prevent me from loving them with ALL my heart. Yes, I would be disappointed and hurt if they were ever to do something wrong, but I would NEVER cease loving them with a mother's love that goes beyond everything. That, and so much more is the Father's love for US!!! Isn't that amazing???

As one who is in love, "refusing" to acknowledge that we have done something to hurt someone is not an option - if I am in love, I am completely honest in ALL areas of my live - in what I may have done. Pure love is complete honesty. I love that honesty between me and God. I love talking to Jesus and "putting it all out there" - and if there is something that I find goes against the will of God, I love having the opportunity to confess my errors in the Sacrament of Reconcilliation. I love the embrace of God when I come before Him and say that "I was wrong and you were right"! Kind of like my marriage!! It is always good to put it all out on the table - keeps the lines of communication open!

So, it is NOT conditional - the love that Trinity has for me - and for YOU is unconditional. We are loved no matter what.. We were thought of at the beginning of creation and brought forth in the love of a lover, of a spouse, of a parent. We are given free will to return that love - it is completely up to us! We are not forced, but waited upon with arms open wide - arms stretched wide upon a cross... It is not as deep as you're trying to make it. It's love... pure, simple, clean, complete, total and forever...

I believe this is significant because Jesus said, "Those who obey me show that they love me and those who love me wlll obey me". Obedience (or, a genuine concern for what Jesus wants) is directly attached to what it means to show love, as a condition for showing love.

"Unconditional love" so often becomes a convenient doctrine to side step dealing with uncomfortable issues or disciplines.

When Jesus said to "obey" him, I believe he was saying to look into His teachings.. Feed the hungry, clothe the poor, comfort the dying, love one another... DO UNTO OTHERS..... in other words, LOVE... "Love one another..." He spoke of love... "Do this in remembrance of me..." The only discipline we have is to love as we are loved.. To me, that is a labor of love - nothing more, nothing less.. love as a lover, a spouse, as a parent, as I want and need to be loved...

I know that sometimes it is hard to love others as God loves us, I am human and do not do this as well as I should. But I am comforted by the fact that I can go to God and say, "You know, I didn't do things today as well as I should have.." (yeah, I talk to God that way) "but hopefully with Your grace, I will do better tomorrow!" And I know that I am loved beyond any human love, and I am embraced more than I could ever imagine..

It is a two way street, God loves us whether we reciprocate or not - and He will wait for us as a lover because He is madly, deeply and completely in love with the creation He thought of before all of human time - You and me!

God Bless you!
 
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To "show" love, is to at least "try" to love as the Father loves us - unconditionally. (Love is patient, love is kind. It does not envy, it does not boast, it is not proud. It does not dishonor others, it is not self-seeking, it is not easily angered, it keeps no record of wrongs. Love does not delight in evil but rejoices with the truth. It always protects, always trusts, always hopes, always perseveres. )

Love is patient (condition), kind (condition), does not envy (condition), does not boast (condition), not proud (condition), etc...

You've just listed a bunch of conditions for what love is. If one does not meet those conditions, one is not showing love. I'm not sure if this is still a communication problem, or just an area where we will have to agree to disagree.

When I think of unconditional love, I think of the love I have for my children.. Nothing, and I mean NOTHING they can or could ever do - whether to me or in ANY area of their lives - could ever prevent me from loving them with ALL my heart.

But the first condition of this supposed unconditional love for your children is that they are YOUR children. If it wasn't so, you would not have made a point about these children being your children; you would have just talked about your love for children in general.

Yes, I would be disappointed and hurt if they were ever to do something wrong, but I would NEVER cease loving them with a mother's love that goes beyond everything. That, and so much more is the Father's love for US!!! Isn't that amazing???

And yet, people WILL suffer eternal consequences (whatever form they may take). Is that unconditional love? It could be that people will suffer actual, physical pain for eternity as a result of their decisions in life, or perhaps their punishment will be to miss out on certain rewards, or maybe they will not experience anything at all, but just be completely destroyed.

Whatever the case, is it unloving for God to hold us accountable for our actions? A condition of avoiding punishment is to learn to make decisions based on what God wants. But unconditional love says we don't even need to try; God will love us regardless...

As one who is in love, "refusing" to acknowledge that we have done something to hurt someone is not an option - if I am in love, I am completely honest in ALL areas of my live - in what I may have done. Pure love is complete honesty. I love that honesty between me and God. I love talking to Jesus and "putting it all out there" - and if there is something that I find goes against the will of God, I love having the opportunity to confess my errors in the Sacrament of Reconcilliation.

A condition of expressing the kind of love you are referring to here is to deal with our problems. If we refuse to deal with our problems, we are not showing love. This is a condition.

I'm not sure how else to express this thought because it seems really simple and straightforward in the way I am expressing it now. Maybe it's just that I am still not understanding what you mean by unconditional love, though I'm fairly sure I DO understand you.

When Jesus said to "obey" him, I believe he was saying to look into His teachings.. Feed the hungry, clothe the poor, comfort the dying, love one another... DO UNTO OTHERS..... in other words, LOVE... "Love one another..." He spoke of love... "Do this in remembrance of me..." The only discipline we have is to love as we are loved.. To me, that is a labor of love - nothing more, nothing less.. love as a lover, a spouse, as a parent, as I want and need to be loved...

What you are saying here sounds kind of nice, but I get the feeling that you end up not really saying much at all. I already made the point that we need to obey Jesus as a way of showing our love for him, but then you rephrase what I said as though I didn't really explain it properly in the way I expressed it.

There are many commands of Jesus in the gospels for HOW to show love towards others. I'm not sure we really do those teachings justice by covering them with a blanket statement about how the only discipline we need is to love.

Perhaps it would be appropriate to discuss the specifics of his commands on HOW to love others?
 
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Love is patient (condition), kind (condition), does not envy (condition), does not boast (condition), not proud (condition), etc...
I'm afraid I do not agree.. These are not "conditions" - when I am patient with my Grandson, it is my love for him - not a "condition of that love", when I am kind to the elderly lady next door, I do it because she needs me - again, not a "condition" - I do not expect anything in return. I am not envious, I thank God for your good fortune, not "conditional", boastful or proud - I try my hardest not to be, but if I am, I know that God loves me anyway.. Again, He poses no "conditions"
You've just listed a bunch of conditions for what love is. If one does not meet those conditions, one is not showing love. I'm not sure if this is still a communication problem, or just an area where we will have to agree to disagree.
Perhaps we should agree to disagree. The only way I can possibly explain the love of God is that of the love of a parent. God is our Father. He loves us. I am a parent, I love my children - no matter WHAT they do, I love them. With all my heart, I love them - I would give my very LIFE for them (as God has done for us).. Without "conditions".. I can not make it any more clear.
But the first condition of this supposed unconditional love for your children is that they are YOUR children. If it wasn't so, you would not have made a point about these children being your children; you would have just talked about your love for children in general.
I mentioned the example of my love for my children - because we are ALL (YOU and I) are children of God - he loves us greater than the love of a parent for their child
And yet, people WILL suffer eternal consequences (whatever form they may take). Is that unconditional love? It could be that people will suffer actual, physical pain for eternity as a result of their decisions in life, or perhaps their punishment will be to miss out on certain rewards, or maybe they will not experience anything at all, but just be completely destroyed.
I do not know what will happen at the end of our days - but I do believe in God's mercy, His everlasting mercy.. I believe, I hope, I trust in His mercy for me - for ALL of us!
Whatever the case, is it unloving for God to hold us accountable for our actions? A condition of avoiding punishment is to learn to make decisions based on what God wants. But unconditional love says we don't even need to try; God will love us regardless...
I believe this thinking is incorrect. When a child is being disrespectful of others, or doing wrong in ways that would hurt themselves - we as parents are expected to correct that child - because we LOVE them, not because we are abusive monsters! We ARE accountable for our actions, just as the unruly child is accountable for breaking the lamp. We must learn to make decisions based on what God wants just as my grandson must learn not to throw the softball in my living room and ultimately breaking my lamp (which he of course did - and received a time out for it, too!) But although I have corrected my own children and put my grandson in time out doesn't mean that I don't love them - it proves my love for them, because they need to learn what is acceptable behaviour and what is not...
A condition of expressing the kind of love you are referring to here is to deal with our problems. If we refuse to deal with our problems, we are not showing love. This is a condition.
I do not agree. We are all human, and we have issues, problems, frailties, and are most un-perfect. The beautiful things is that God loves us anyway! No condition there! He MADE us human - and with free will - we WILL make mistakes.. That does not diminish God's love for us.
I'm not sure how else to express this thought because it seems really simple and straightforward in the way I am expressing it now. Maybe it's just that I am still not understanding what you mean by unconditional love, though I'm fairly sure I DO understand you.
I fully understand what you are expressing, and you're focusing on perceived "conditions" - the beauty is that there are no conditions, and in all this, YOU ultimately have free will. If you feel that there are "conditions" and you're not willing to accept these perceived"conditions" then in your free will you aren't willing to accept the love that God freely gives (and will always give whether you accept it or not!) you have the free will to go your own way. That is not my choice, and my life is richer, fuller and more complete because of it.
What you are saying here sounds kind of nice, but I get the feeling that you end up not really saying much at all. I already made the point that we need to obey Jesus as a way of showing our love for him, but then you rephrase what I said as though I didn't really explain it properly in the way I expressed it.
I am a liturgist, a catechist, and a DRE. What I am trying to convey isn't just something "nice" - it's the reality of my faith. Jesus loves me - period. I don't have to love him back, I don't have to follow him, I don't even have to believe.. But, He loves me just the same - I am not worthy of this love, but it's still there. I have thrown it away, it's still there. I have ignored it, refused it - it is still there. God loves YOU, whether you want it, need it, desire it, think there are "conditions".. It doesn't matter, you ARE loved..
There are many commands of Jesus in the gospels for HOW to show love towards others. I'm not sure we really do those teachings justice by covering them with a blanket statement about how the only discipline we need is to love.
Jesus teaches us HOW to love. It is my joy to at least TRY to love as Jesus has taught me - I receive far more out of living the beatitudes than I give, that I assure you! Feed the hungry - there is nothing more amazing than giving a pint of soup to an elderly woman who hasn't seen her family for over a year and just needs to have some company - she has taught me so much, and I love her for it. Give clothing to the naked - I get great healing to my Rheumatoid Arthritis by knitting shawls for hospice patients. Comfort the mourning - my best friend lost her husband to heart disease at the ripe old age of 38. She and I have grown closer and deeper because of this sad experience. Her ten year old daughter has become MY daughter as well (a daughter I never had)..
Perhaps it would be appropriate to discuss the specifics of his commands on HOW to love others?
All I can say is that as as parent, God (in a way that only God can) has taught the deep love the Trinity has for me. The very moment I held my children for the first time, I knew I would love them - forever. Without conditions.. No matter where their lives go, whatever they choose, whatever they may say or do, I love them - and I believe with all my heart that the love of the Trinity is far deeper than my frail, human heart can hold..

God thought of me, of YOU, before creation - and He loved us! What more is there?? In my tiny humanity, I love trying to "pay it forward" by living Christ's teachings!

Love one another - it's a good thing!!

God Bless YOU!

ps.. hopefully I have figured out that "quote thing"!!
 
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Yes I am fine to agree to disagree with you personally, lisa, but since others may be looking on I feel a bit inclined to expand on my understanding of this issue.

I feel this particularly relates to the topic because it deals with the standards, or values of Christianity.

While, in the strictest, most technical sense of the word, God will always love us as his creations, no matter how bad we get. And yet, this kind of love, just left at that, completely overlooks Jesus' definition and expressions of God's love.

Jesus set standards for the Kingdom of Heaven, and he made it clear that people who do not apply those standards are NOT acting on the values of that Kingdom. One day we will all be held accountable for our actions.

This means that it's very important to get specific about what are good actions and what are bad actions, according to Jesus' teachings as well as his follower's teachings.

It it can be discerned that someone is not only ignoring Jesus' teachings, but deliberately and rebelliously acting against them (including professing Christians) then that needs to be pointed out in a way which makes it clear that those people are acting contrary to the values of Heaven.

However, no one likes to be criticized, especially in areas of morality and/or spirituality. This resistance to facing up to our faults causes people to go to great lengths to come up with reasons for why they don't need to be accountable to the standards and values Jesus placed on the concept of love and what it means to show love. This is most often because applying those standards and values requrres that people look at their wrongs, say sorry, discipline themselves, face up to their greed, laziness, etc...

In an effort to avoid accountability in these areas, people come up with convenient doctrines. These doctrines sound very nice, but are almost always used to hide themselves from their own actions.

One such doctrine is "Jesus knows my heart". When confronted with an uncomfortable truth, many people will use this as a means of avoiding criticism. After all, how can we possibly judge a person's heart? And yet, we CAN judge their actions. When a person uses such an argument to excuse their bad behavior, it becomes clear that they are using "heart judgment" to hide from what may be genuinely valid criticism.

Another such doctrine is "Jesus did it all". While this is technically true, why would he bother to give us commands and instructions on how to love others? These people take the grace of God (Jesus' sacrifice) and use it to shield themselves from accountability for their behavior.

Another doctrine along these lines is the "unconditional love" doctrine. It is almost always used to diminish the significance of standards and obedience in order to either experience or show the love of God. "It would be nice if you repented, but God still loves you unconditionally".

Obviously repentance (otherwise known as facing up to our problems) IS a condition to experience God's love and it's something he commanded from anyone who would follow him. It's not a helpful piece of advice. It is required to be a part of the Kingdom of Heaven.

There are a host of other doctrines like this, too, including "thou shalt not judge me!", "you can't be saved by works", "when you are perfect you can talk to me about my faults", etc...

The bottom line in all of these is to avoid Jesus' standards for what it means to show and receive love.
 
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I've gone through your response, and I am thankful that we at least "agree to disagree" But for the sake of other "readers" who may come to this site, I too have to state where I am coming from.

Since the beginning of creation, God has made covenants (promises) with His creation. From creation itself, to Noah, to Israel, to David, to ultimately Jesus in the new and everlasting covenant, God has made promises to His people that He would be our God and we would be His people - that we would LOVE, because God IS love... That we would love God and each other - it is that simple. Too often (like the Pharisees before us) we look to the technical, we read more of what is in Scripture because we think we're "smart", we make it hard for our brothers and sisters and ultimately for ourselves. Jesus spoke of LOVE - Period. His word is based on LOVE - Period Unless we embrace this love as a child embraces a parent, without fear, without trepidation, without "conditions" - we ultimately fail to"get it". Too often "smart" folk attempt to look more into what the Gospel is teaching - it's not that hard to grasp. God loves us, unconditionally. He desires us to love each other as He loves us. With our whole lives, our heart, our minds - our all. Do we do this? Not usually, but I know that when I fail to love as God loves us, God in his everlasting mercy will forgive me and will help me, through the Spirit, to love where I have failed

From your responses, I am thinking that perhaps you might not be a parent. Having children (and a grandson) of my own has placed within my heart the mere idea of the ultimate love of the Father - the unconditional love that I have for my children is nothing compared to the unconditional love the Father has for me and for YOU! His mercy knows NO bounds, and He loves us whether or not we accept that love or not - just like a parent loves a child whether that child loves us back or not. No conditions, no rules, no boundaries - that love is there for the taking. Period. What happens if we choose not to accept that ultimate love of God is a mystery. We won't know until that one day when we are naked, standing before the Almighty, alone, and face to face.... I for one would love to at least say at that time that "I accepted your love, and I, in my humble human-ness attempted to return that love to those you placed within my life

I also have taken the time to read your web site. Overall, I found that the site is very dark.. And although the words sound "nice" and general on the surface, the message - or perhaps I should say the technicalities of what I have read mask what I believe is the true message of the Gospel - LOVE ONE ANOTHER. I didn't read the beatitudes, the parables, the teaching of Jesus, "do this in remembrance of me", being a servant – In reading further, I saw words that frighten and "entice" the reader like a soap opera entices watchers to read more - like seeing an accident on the side of the road, you don't want to look, but for some reason you do... Example of something on your site that is argumentative and dangerous…

“Churchies are people whose first loyalty is to the institutional church rather than to Jesus. They are defensive about the establishment and critical of anyone who supports the teachings of Jesus. Unfortunately, this includes the vast majority of churchgoers” This is FALSE, and a scare tactic to make readers feel the NEED to read further. A generalization that is argumentative and irresponsible.


Another example: Churchies hate us for the same reason the Pharisees and other religious leaders hated Jesus--He pointed people back to true faith and signalled the end of religion as an institution, with all of its greed, hypocrisy, and self-righteousness.” Again, FALSE – the mere thought that because I attend church (yes, I am a "churchie") makes me “hate” you (strong word) is dangerous and misleading – Where is the teaching of "love, patience, tolerance, and forgiveness.. Shame on whoever wrote this nonsense.


Another Example of what I’ve read on your site that I just don’t get …“Most people are too soft about obeying God. There are many verses in the Bible that teach us to work hard to obey God. But we can be too hard about things too. (Ecclesiastes 7:16 ) God does not want us to be bad; but he does want us to know that he is more important than the rules that he gives to us. We must follow God even more than the rules. (1 Corinthians 10:22-23 ) To do this, we must understand the reason why God makes a rule. The reason is more important than the rule. (2 Corinthians 3:6 ) If you take a good rule and work too hard on that one rule, you can miss the point of the rule. One good rule is: "Do not kill". Some people were thinking, "To be safe we will not kill animals". Today, some people will not even kill plants. The Bible says that these people have weak faith. It can make them hard toward other people. (Romans 14:1-2 ) When their faith is stronger, they will understand the reason behind the rule, and they will be happier people.” I “get” that we shouldn’t kill. What is written, on the surface sounds "nice", but in reality makes no sense.


Two questions, WHO wrote the articles that are written within the site, and on what authority are those opinions offered??

In other words, why should I accept them as truth??

Again, what I have come to in my life is that life is NOT about "me". Being a spouse, a parent. a catechist, a teacher, a liturgist, has taught me that the gospel is NOT about "me" but about the love that God has for me, for those around me - that God loves YOU - period. When we trip on the technicalities and put thoughts and ideas into the Gospel that just aren’t there, we miss God's message, His love, His mercy - please don't miss His message looking for a message that YOU may think is there, but let the Spirit of Him who loves you without boundaries work within you!
What Jesus said is so simple and so clear that we do not even need to elaborate on most of his teachings. We have the confidence to tell you to just open the book, read it, and then do it. (from your site)

Love one another as God loves us!
God Bless YOU!
 
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No conditions, no rules, no boundaries - that love is there for the taking.

This is probably the most significant part of your post, and what I've suspected all along, even though you've not so blatantly stated it this way until now.

This is what I suggested about convenient doctrines. By definition, they sound very appealing. No conditions, no rules, no boundaries. How wonderful. We can do anything we like and Jesus himself cannot say otherwise, or he'll get a lecture from us about unconditional love. How very convenient.

BTW, there is a section on the home page titled "commands of Jesus". About half of them are grammatical commands while the other half are implied commands. There really ARE commands (or rules) which Jesus expected his followers to follow.

Jesus spoke of LOVE - Period. His word is based on LOVE - PeriodUnless we embrace this love as a child embraces a parent, without fear, without trepidation, without "conditions" - we ultimately fail to"get it". Too often "smart" folk attempt to look more into what the Gospel is teaching

Are you suggesting that smart people should not be looking more into what the gospel is teaching or that only stupid people do?

Thanks for taking a look at my website. You quoted this from the site:
“Churchies are people whose first loyalty is to the institutional church rather than to Jesus. They are defensive about the establishment and critical of anyone who supports the teachings of Jesus. Unfortunately, this includes the vast majority of churchgoers”

And responded with:
Overall, I found that the site is very dark.. And although the words sound "nice" and general on the surface, the message - or perhaps I should say the technicalities of what I have read mask what I believe is the true message of the Gospel

Are you suggesting that the "true gospel" does include people with loyalty greater to their church/denomination than to Jesus? Because, look at what you've actually quoted from my site. We have the audacity to suggest that some people have questionable loyalty. Is that really so bad?

You also say: "This is FALSE, and a scare tactic to make readers feel the NEED to read further"

Are you saying that you personally experienced a need to read further because you were frightened of what you read? I don't think I can agree that you being frightened is rational reason for me to stop sharing my beliefs.

You also shared this from my website:
Another example: Churchies hate us for the same reason the Pharisees and other religious leaders hated Jesus--He pointed people back to true faith and signalled the end of religion as an institution, with all of its greed, hypocrisy, and self-righteousness.”

Your response:
the mere thought that because I attend church (yes, I am a "churchie") makes me “hate” you (strong word) is dangerous and misleading – Where is the teaching of "love, patience, tolerance, and forgiveness.. Shame on whoever wrote this nonsense.

I think it is very significant that you refer to yourself as a Chruchie, based on the definitions given in the article. In other words, you said it, not me.

Also, it's not "attending church" that makes one a churchie. That's not what the article described as a churchie, though it is, once again, significant that you chose to create your own definition rather than deal with the definition actually given.

The article suggested that churchies are people who react to having their faults pointed out.

Are you seriously suggesting Jesus was crucified because he went around telling people to "love period"? He said a lot more than that.

I “get” that we shouldn’t kill. What is written, on the surface sounds "nice", but in reality makes no sense.

The point was about people who take a genuinely good rule and miss the spirit (or reason) behind it.

Something similar happened with Jesus and the sabbath. The sabbath was meant to give people a rest, but religious people made it into a rule which ended up making things even harder for people. For example, even today in Israel, religious Jews will not press an elevator button on the sabbath, because the act of pressing the button is work.

Instead, they will walk up 5 flights of stairs in order to obey the rule. Obviously, they are missing the spirit behind the rule. This is partially what Jesus meant when he said religious people bind heavy burdens onto people which God never intended.

Remember your outrage over me suggesting that some people show greater loyalty to their religion than they do to Jesus/God?

Two questions, WHO wrote the articles that are written within the site, and on what authority are those opinions offered??

In other words, why should I accept them as truth??

Why should it matter who wrote the articles? Do they have any truth or not?

Also, I don't understand your question about authority, but there is no obligation for you (or anyone) to accept anything written on my website aside from what your conscience tells you to.

the gospel is NOT about "me" but about the love that God has for me, for those around me - that God loves YOU - period.

Ironically, out of the two of us, you are the one who keeps bringing it back to how it's not about you. I've been talking about exploring the nitty gritty of the teachings of Jesus and applying those teachings.

I've said quite consistently that Jesus' teachings are an expression of his love. It's pointless to talk about "love period" while ignoring his teachings on HOW to love, but each time I bring that up, you fall back on "unconditional love", as though it's UNloving to talk about Jesus' expectations and standards.

That's probably the most dangerous part of the "unconditional love" doctrine; it makes an enemy out of the standards and values of the Kingdom of Heaven and treats them as unreasonable counterfeits of "real" love which has no expectations or standards.

When we trip on the technicalities and put thoughts and ideas into the Gospel that just aren’t there,

What thoughts and ideas have I put into the gospels that "just aren't there"? Can you be specific?
 
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Lisa and Candle Glow,

Interesting discussion you two are having.

I am in agreement with both of you sometimes and in disagreement with you?

Do you both believe God’s Love is unconditional?

Can God’s Love be unconditional, yet still be someway dependent on the potential receiver of that Love?

Look at the Prodigal son (Luke 15) was the father’s Love conditional or unconditional?

What the father did not do was “force” the son to return Home, but if the son has free will how would it be “loving” on the Father’s part to force him to do what he did not want to do?

Did the prodigal son do some great think deserving of praise and worthy of anything?

Has there ever been a monument erected to those that surrendered?

Is God trying to “get” something from humans or is God trying to give something to humans (what would a wonderful Father want from his children and what did the Father of the prodigal son want)?

Yes, there are lots of commands given to followers, but are these the conditions of God’s Love or are they to help the follower or does God get something out of the followers obeying these commands?

Are we to do stuff to get something or because we have been given something? (Which motive would you as a parent like to see your kids do stuff for you?)

If you do not have Godly type Love will doing any of these commands help you (1 Cor 13:1-4)?

If you truly have Godly type Love (the most powerful force in all universes since it compels even God to do all He does) would that not be you motivation for doing good stuff?

Why should a Christian do all these “commands” given him and if he does do them not truly desiring to do them will it help him?

As a Child of a wonderful parent do you want to obey Him and know more about what would please Him and not hurt Him?

Can God go on with you not obeying His command (like the prodigal son in the foreign country) or can you go on rebelling in the foreign country to you starve to death? The Father Loves you either way.
 
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hey bling. Thanks for adding some comments to this thread. I was hoping someone else would take an interest.

Do you both believe God’s Love is unconditional?

I am suggesting that God has a kind of love for his creations that exists even as he punishes or even destroys them completely.

I am suggesting that "unconditional love", as Lisa describes it, is inconsistent with the standards that Jesus set for what it means to show/experience love.

Look at the Prodigal son (Luke 15) was the father’s Love conditional or unconditional?

A very simple way to answer this question is to imagine what the father's response would have been if the son returned claiming that his father still owed him even more than what was already given to him on the basis that they were family.

Would anyone, regardless of religious affiliation, feel the son was correct in such an attitude after what happened in the first part of the story, based on "unconditional love"?

Of course not. All common sense and practical experience tells us that the only way to really fix the problem is for the son to say "sorry, I was wrong". And that's exactly how Jesus told the story.

What the father did not do was “force” the son to return Home, but if the son has free will how would it be “loving” on the Father’s part to force him to do what he did not want to do?

There is a wonderful word called "consequences". It is wonderful because it does not involve force of any kind. It completely depends only on the decisions of the individual. It takes into account the individual's freedom of choice at the same time it takes into account standards set by the boss.

The prodigal son was not forced to do anything. The consequences of his stubborn, greedy, selfish, lazy choices caused him to realize that he'd genuinely wronged his father. As a result of that realization, he WANTED to apologize to his father, because he realized that was the loving thing to do.

How much better than the attitude that "unconditional love" gives us the right NOT to apologize for our wrongs.

Did the prodigal son do some great think deserving of praise and worthy of anything?

Apparently, the angels in Heaven rejoice over one lost sheep that is "found" than over 99 lost.

Has there ever been a monument erected to those that surrendered?

What?

Is God trying to “get” something from humans or is God trying to give something to humans (what would a wonderful Father want from his children and what did the Father of the prodigal son want)?

Why can't it be both at the same time?

Yes, there are lots of commands given to followers, but are these the conditions of God’s Love or are they to help the follower or does God get something out of the followers obeying these commands?

To use Lisa's example, are parents trying to "get something" from their children by making rules out of brushing teeth or going to bed at a certain time? Why should Jesus' rules about how his followers should live be circumspect, as though it's wrong for Jesus to make rules about his own love.

For Christ's sake, it's his love, he can make whatever rules he wants about it!

Are we to do stuff to get something or because we have been given something? (Which motive would you as a parent like to see your kids do stuff for you?)

The law is for the lawless. Children obey their parents because they do not understand the reasons behind the rules. They do no understand tooth decay, cavities, etc. They brush thier teeth because they are ordered to.

But, as they grow older, they come to understand the reasons behind such rules, and the rules cease to be rules, because they will follow the reason behind the rules without being told to.

It's like this with Jesus' teachings. At first, it is a command because we don't understand spiritual things. But as we apply the rules and grow, we come to understand the reasons, and they are no longer commands, but rather, values of the kingdom of Heaven which we apply because we want to be citizens of that kingdom and not because of some law.

But first, as little children, we must respect Jesus' right to tell us what to do and to set standards on his love.

Can God go on with you not obeying His command (like the prodigal son in the foreign country) or can you go on rebelling in the foreign country to you starve to death? The Father Loves you either way.

When you say "the father loves you either way" in the context of someone who refuses to obey, what do you mean?

Are you saying obedience is unnecessary because God will love us anyway? If so, what's the point of even commanding people to obey (Which Jesus clearly does over and over again)?

Do you see any consequences of NOT obeying, and if so, how are these consequences consistent OR INconsistent with God's love?
 
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This is what I suggested about convenient doctrines. By definition, they sound very appealing. No conditions, no rules, no boundaries. How wonderful. We can do anything we like and Jesus himself cannot say otherwise, or he'll get a lecture from us about unconditional love. How very convenient

Not a “convenient” doctrine, but a doctrine of my faith. This is why I believe in the everlasting, unconditional and perfect love of God....

This is an excellent article written by Msgr. Charles Pope from the Archdiocese of Washington on God’s unconditional love, I do hope you take the time to read it.
http://blog.adw.org/2010/02/is-gods-love-really-unconditional/

From the Catechism of the Catholic Church

219God's love for Israel is compared to a father's love for his son. His love for his people is stronger than a mother's for her children. God loves his people more than a bridegroom his beloved; his love will be victorious over even the worst infidelities and will extend to his most precious gift: "God so loved the world that he gave his only Son."40
220 God's love is "everlasting":41 "For the mountains may depart and the hills be removed, but my steadfast love shall not depart from you."42 Through Jeremiah, God declares to his people, "I have loved you with an everlasting love; therefore I have continued my faithfulness to you."43
221 But St. John goes even further when he affirms that "God is love":44 God's very being is love. By sending his only Son and the Spirit of Love in the fullness of time, God has revealed his innermost secret:45 God himself is an eternal exchange of love, Father, Son and Holy Spirit, and he has destined us to share in that exchange.
40 Jn3:16; cf. Hos 11:1; Isa 49:14-15; 62:4-5; Ezek 16, Hos 11
41 Isa 54:8.
42 Isa 54:10; cf. 54:8
43 Jer 31:3
44 l Jn 4:8,16
45 Cf. 1 Cor 2:7-16; Eph 3:9-12
733 "God is Love"124 and love is his first gift, containing all others. "God's love has been poured into our hearts through the Holy Spirit who has been given to us."125
734 Because we are dead or at least wounded through sin, the first effect of the gift of love is the forgiveness of our sins. The communion of the Holy Spirit126 in the Church restores to the baptized the divine likeness lost through sin.
735He, then, gives us the "pledge" or "first fruits" of our inheritance: the very life of the Holy Trinity, which is to love as "God [has] loved us."127 This love (the "charity" of 1 Cor 13) is the source of the new life in Christ, made possible because we have received "power" from the Holy Spirit.128
736 By this power of the Spirit, God's children can bear much fruit. He who has grafted us onto the true vine will make us bear "the fruit of the Spirit: . . . love, joy, peace, patience, kindness, goodness, faithfulness, gentleness, self-control."129 "We live by the Spirit"; the more we renounce ourselves, the more we "walk by the Spirit."130
Through the Holy Spirit we are restored to paradise, led back to the Kingdom of heaven, and adopted as children, given confidence to call God "Father" and to share in Christ's grace, called children of light and given a share in eternal glory.
124 1 Jn 4:8
125 Rom 5:5
126 2 Cor 13:14
127 1 Jn 4: 12; cf. Rom 8:23; 2 Cor 1:21
128 Acts 1:8; cf. 1 Cor 13.
129 Gal 5:22-23
130 Gal 5:25; cf. Mt 16:26

2466 In Jesus Christ, the whole of God's truth has been made manifest. "Full of grace and truth," he came as the "light of the world," he is the Truth.257 "Whoever believes in me may not remain in darkness."258 The disciple of Jesus continues in his word so as to know "the truth [that] will make you free" and that sanctifies.259 To follow Jesus is to live in "the Spirit of truth," whom the Father sends in his name and who leads "into all the truth."260 To his disciples Jesus teaches the unconditional love of truth: "Let what you say be simply 'Yes or No.'"261
257 Jn 1:14; 8:12; cf. 14:6
258 Jn 12:46
259 Jn 8:32; Cf. 17:17
260 Jn 16:13
261 Mt 5:37


From Pope Benedict XIV
Vatican City, 13 February 2012 - The Pope's Message for the forty-ninth World Day of Prayer was made public on 29 April, fourth Sunday of Easter

'The source of every perfect gift is God who is Love – Deus caritas est: 'Whoever remains in love remains in God and God in him'. Sacred Scripture tells the story of this original bond between God and man, which precedes creation itself. ... We are loved by God even 'before' we come into existence! Moved solely by His unconditional love, He created us 'not out of existing things', to bring us into full communion with Him".

"The profound truth of our existence is thus contained in this surprising mystery: every creature, and in particular every human person, is the fruit of God’s thought and an act of His love, a love that is boundless, faithful and everlasting. The discovery of this reality is what truly and profoundly changes our lives".

"It is a love that is limitless and that precedes us, sustains us and calls us along the path of life, a love rooted in an absolutely free gift of God. Speaking particularly of the ministerial priesthood, my predecessor, Blessed John Paul II, stated that 'every ministerial action ... provides an incentive to grow in ever greater love and service of Jesus Christ, ... a love which is always a response to the free and unsolicited love of God in Christ'. Every specific vocation is in fact born of the initiative of God; it is a gift of the Love of God! He is the One Who takes the 'first step', ... because of the presence of His own love 'poured out into our hearts through the Holy Spirit'.
"In every age, the source of the divine call is to be found in the initiative of the infinite love of God, Who reveals Himself fully in Jesus Christ. As I wrote in my first Encyclical, Deus Caritas Est, 'God is indeed visible in a number of ways. In the love-story recounted by the Bible, He comes towards us, He seeks to win our hearts, all the way to the Last Supper, to the piercing of His heart on the Cross, to His appearances after the Resurrection and to the great deeds by which, through the activity of the Apostles, He guided the nascent Church along its path'".
The love of God is everlasting; He is faithful to Himself. ... Yet the appealing beauty of this divine love, which precedes and accompanies us, needs to be proclaimed ever anew, especially to younger generations. This divine love is the hidden impulse, the motivation which never fails, even in the most difficult circumstances. ... We need to open our lives to this love. It is to the perfection of the Father’s love that Jesus Christ calls us every day! The high standard of the Christian life consists in loving 'as' God loves; with a love that is shown in the total, faithful and fruitful gift of self".

"How very convenient." (I pray this comment wasn't as snarky as it "sounded") - not a convenience, but a doctrine of my faith.. My faith is backed by scripture, the magisterium and by tradition - I am confident in my belief, and in what is taught to me. I love that God loves me, unconditionally, without boundaries, without conditions.

"'Belief' is the simple action of believing, 'faith' is knowing that God believes in me...

More to follow...
 
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Churchies are people whose first loyalty is to the institutional church rather than to Jesus. They are defensive about the establishment and critical of anyone who supports the teachings of Jesus. Unfortunately, this includes the vast majority of churchgoers"
Churchies hate us for the same reason the Pharisees and other religious leaders hated Jesus--He pointed people back to true faith and signalled the end of religion as an institution, with all of its greed, hypocrisy, and self-righteousness.”
Why should it matter who wrote the articles? Do they have any truth or not?

Who knows if there is truth?? The articles are unsigned, not quoted with scripture, uncaring, unloving, insulting and written without authority – so, to me, it is all insignificant.

Are you suggesting that smart people should not be looking more into what the gospel is teaching or that only stupid people do?

No, I used quotes (“”) over the word smart to denote sarcasm. There are many who read scripture and believe they are the authority of all that is scriptural. I “hear” that in the articles written in your site. The “un-named” author speaks with an authority that he or she cannot back up. They’re opinion pieces to say the least. Sounding “smart” but in actuality very juvenile and irresponsible.

I am a “Churchie” – and I’m proud of it. I have the deposit of faith, scripture, the magisterium, and tradition to help me to interpret and to teach my Christian faith. You ask, “are you suggesting”, “are you saying”?? What I am explaining is a dogma of belief for me taught to me by the authority of the Catholic Church.

From the Catechism of the Catholic Church

The heritage of faith entrusted to the whole of the Church
84 The apostles entrusted the "Sacred deposit" of the faith (the depositum fidei),45 contained in Sacred Scripture and Tradition, to the whole of the Church. "By adhering to [this heritage] the entire holy people, united to its pastors, remains always faithful to the teaching of the apostles, to the brotherhood, to the breaking of bread and the prayers. So, in maintaining, practicing and professing the faith that has been handed on, there should be a remarkable harmony between the bishops and the faithful."46

The Magisterium of the Church
85 "The task of giving an authentic interpretation of the Word of God, whether in its written form or in the form of Tradition, has been entrusted to the living teaching office of the Church alone. Its authority in this matter is exercised in the name of Jesus Christ."47 This means that the task of interpretation has been entrusted to the bishops in communion with the successor of Peter, the Bishop of Rome.
86 "Yet this Magisterium is not superior to the Word of God, but is its servant. It teaches only what has been handed on to it. At the divine command and with the help of the Holy Spirit, it listens to this devotedly, guards it with dedication and expounds it faithfully. All that it proposes for belief as being divinely revealed is drawn from this single deposit of faith."48
87 Mindful of Christ's words to his apostles: "He who hears you, hears me",49 the faithful receive with docility the teachings and directives that their pastors give them in different forms.
47 DV* 10 § 2.
48 DV* 10 para 2.
49 Lk 10:16; cf. LG 20

*Dei Verbum
"Dogmatic Constitution on Divine Revelation"
(Second Vatican Council - Nov. 18, 1965

On the basis of scripture
“The single most important criteria for a book to be considered divinely inspired is that it had to be written by an apostle. This was mandatory. During the early years of the church the books and letters written by the apostles were thus accepted as Scripture. These were preserved and compiled, and by A.D. 175 the New Testament looked pretty much like it does today, being unanimously accepted by the church and its leaders. At the 3rd Council of Carthage in A.D. 397 the canon was confirmed and officially closed.

“St. Irenaeus is no longer content to safeguard and expound the Old Testament alone; as the first catholic theologian he begins to appeal to the New Testament documents, that is, he explicitly names them, defends their authenticity, and declares them to be normative. …according to St.Irenaeus, Scripture and tradition, as regards their doctrinal content, are in entire agreement, and the purpose of Scripture is to confirm the teaching of the Church against all doubts.”17

Both Sts. Jerome and Augustine, who ‘exerted a decisive influence in settling the Canon for the Latin church’30 felt that the list of books they had received as authoritative should not be questioned and debated, but should be received and defended.31

Hans von Campenhausen, 182.
F.F. Bruce, 229

I believe that you wish to argue for argument’s sake and that you’re not really interested in a serious scriptural and faith discussion. Unless you wish to have a real discussion, this is the last of my posts on this particular discussion. I have made my point, backed it up. and I’m moving on.

May Christ’s peace and love be with you always…
 
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I recently became engaged to a non-denominational christian women. She wants me to try to convert for her but I have too many questions about her beliefs for me to make any kind of commitment to a religion. I was hoping to find some answers from elsewhere.


Psalm 23

New King James Version (NKJV)

The Lord the Shepherd of His People

A Psalm of David.

The Lord is my shepherd;
I shall not want.
2 He makes me to lie down in green pastures;
He leads me beside the still waters.
3 He restores my soul;
He leads me in the paths of righteousness
For His name’s sake.

4 Yea, though I walk through the valley of the shadow of death,
I will fear no evil;
For You are with me;
Your rod and Your staff, they comfort me.

5 You prepare a table before me in the presence of my enemies;
You anoint my head with oil;
My cup runs over.
6 Surely goodness and mercy shall follow me
All the days of my life;
And I will dwell in the house of the Lord
Forever.
 
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I am suggesting that God has a kind of love for his creations that exists even as he punishes or even destroys them completely.

I am suggesting that "unconditional love", as Lisa describes it, is inconsistent with the standards that Jesus set for what it means to show/experience love.
What does your child have to do before you love your child?

A very simple way to answer this question is to imagine what the father's response would have been if the son returned claiming that his father still owed him even more than what was already given to him on the basis that they were family.

Would anyone, regardless of religious affiliation, feel the son was correct in such an attitude after what happened in the first part of the story, based on "unconditional love"?

Of course not. All common sense and practical experience tells us that the only way to really fix the problem is for the son to say "sorry, I was wrong". And that's exactly how Jesus told the story.
So you think the father’s Love was conditional on the son saying: “sorry, I was wrong”, because in the story the father runs to the son hugs him and kissed him, before the son has a chance to say anything?

Under the Old Law (that is what the people are under that are listening to this story) the son deserved death by stoning (what he said to the father really meant “I wish you were dead so I can have my inheritance) and what he did with the family money, was a tremendous shame to the family. To come back thinking he “deserved” anything would not be the result of someone that “came to his senses”.

Saying: “sorry, I was wrong” is because your only other choice is to slowly starve to death under the worst of conditions is not worthy of a person, it is stating the obvious and totally deserving of absolutely nothing.

In human terms, if this young son was truly a “man” he would take his deserved punishment, not bother his family further and die in the pigsty.


There is a wonderful word called "consequences". It is wonderful because it does not involve force of any kind. It completely depends only on the decisions of the individual. It takes into account the individual's freedom of choice at the same time it takes into account standards set by the boss.

The prodigal son was not forced to do anything. The consequences of his stubborn, greedy, selfish, lazy choices caused him to realize that he'd genuinely wronged his father. As a result of that realization, he WANTED to apologize to his father, because he realized that was the loving thing to do.


That is not what Christ stated in the parable. He is returning to continue to have some kind of a life (much better than he was in). He knew he wronged the father when he left (that is not the problem and knowledge is not what he lacks). He is not thinking about “helping the Father out”, this is just further imposition he is going to be putting on the Father, but the son does know of at least a little of the father’s Love. The deserving “consequences” of what the son did was to starve to death in the pigsty and He never suggest otherwise, so he realized that.

What are the “standards set by the boss”? This looks to be the little faith the young son needed; he trusted (believed in the father) the father’s charity.

The young son had moved to the very bottom, before under duress deciding to humbly willingly accept whatever Charity the Father might have for him. He did not what I would say “want to apologies”, but finally swallowed his pride.



How much better than the attitude that "unconditional love" gives us the right NOT to apologize for our wrongs.
You might be equating “apologizing” with repenting, but I do not see that. The problem is not with apologizing, but is with turning from doing what you have been doing to accepting God’s charity. When an enemy “surrenders” he can still be guilty of war crimes and deserving of a torturous death and at the point of surrender is still an “enemy” that gave up (that is what we were). I would not say the enemy that surrenders is at that point apologizing, But surrendering is enough to allow God to finally show His mercy/grace/charity/Love/forgiveness and make that enemy a child. We are taught that our response is not the precursor to His Love but come afterward “…he that is forgiven much Loves much…” that Love we have for God and all His children comes after we accept God’s Love in the form of forgiveness.


Apparently, the angels in Heaven rejoice over one lost sheep that is "found" than over 99 lost.
This young son is mess until after the father gets hold of him. When I read this story the “rejoicing” I feel is not from the actions of the son, but from the actions of the Father, so yes the sons return allowed us to rejoice over the Love of the Father.



Why can't it be both at the same time?
We have nothing to “give” to the creator of the universe, but the opportunity to allow Him to give His Love to us.

To use Lisa's example, are parents trying to "get something" from their children by making rules out of brushing teeth or going to bed at a certain time? Why should Jesus' rules about how his followers should live be circumspect, as though it's wrong for Jesus to make rules about his own love.

For Christ's sake, it's his love, he can make whatever rules he wants about it!
I am seeing everything being do for the sake of those that Love Him (Rm 8:28) willing to accept his Love.

If Jesus did anything for “his sake” that would be for some selfish motive and Godly type Love is totally unselfish.



The law is for the lawless. Children obey their parents because they do not understand the reasons behind the rules. They do no understand tooth decay, cavities, etc. They brush thier teeth because they are ordered to.

But, as they grow older, they come to understand the reasons behind such rules, and the rules cease to be rules, because they will follow the reason behind the rules without being told to.

It's like this with Jesus' teachings. At first, it is a command because we don't understand spiritual things. But as we apply the rules and grow, we come to understand the reasons, and they are no longer commands, but rather, values of the kingdom of Heaven which we apply because we want to be citizens of that kingdom and not because of some law.

But first, as little children, we must respect Jesus' right to tell us what to do and to set standards on his love.
“we want to be citizens of that kingdom” or are we citizens of the kingdom and do it out of appreciation?

Even small children can want to show cooperation and please those that love them. If they do anything without Godly type Love does it have any value (1 Cor. 13: 1-4)? If they have Godly type Love why does it not compel them?


When you say "the father loves you either way" in the context of someone who refuses to obey, what do you mean?
God is not happy about those that go to hell, because they are children He Loves. They, like the prodigal son that left home, have free will and God will not force them to live with Him.

Are you saying obedience is unnecessary because God will love us anyway? If so, what's the point of even commanding people to obey (Which Jesus clearly does over and over again)?
“Obedience” is what we get to do that pleases God while we are here on earth (is that not wonderful)? Do we not want to please God? Do we not want to know what might please God and what does not please God?
Do you see any consequences of NOT obeying, and if so, how are these consequences consistent OR INconsistent with God's love?

Part of our inheritance is in the form of a birthright. Now a birthright cannot be taken away and even God will not take it from us, but like Esau we can sell (give away) our birthright because it is truly “ours” to do with as we please. So while we are here on earth, we want to be doing what we really want to be doing (fellowshipping with the indwelling Holy Spirit) activities that will help us grow spiritually. If we quench the indwelling Holy Spirit and go about doing our own thing we will lose interest in our birth right and might be willing to give it up.
 
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What does your child have to do before you love your child?

Love, or unconditional love?

So you think the father’s Love was conditional on the son saying: “sorry, I was wrong”, because in the story the father runs to the son hugs him and kissed him, before the son has a chance to say anything?

And yet, part of the resolution between the father and son required repentance. Sure, the father still loved the son but the relationship could not be fixed without repentance. In order to make things right (i.e. for either of them to experience genuine love) the son had to repent.

You might be equating “apologizing” with repenting, but I do not see that. The problem is not with apologizing, but is with turning from doing what you have been doing to accepting God’s charity.

Yes, I am presuming that an "apology" from a Christian is the same as a genuine desire to change. They say the sincerest apology is change, but sometimes it helps to express it verbally, too.

I would not say the enemy that surrenders is at that point apologizing, But surrendering is enough to allow God to finally show His mercy/grace/charity/Love/forgiveness and make that enemy a child.

But, it would still be God's right to make demands of that person. The person surrendering could not argue with God about how his love is supposed to be unconditional and so there should be no demands.

Genuine surrender does not argue or haggle with God about what his love is supposed to be or not supposed to be. If God tells a genuinely surrendered person to do something, that person should do it, right?

We have nothing to “give” to the creator of the universe, but the opportunity to allow Him to give His Love to us.

We have our lives to give to him. Free will, remember? We can throw that all away if we want to, or we can willingly give it back to him.

If Jesus did anything for “his sake” that would be for some selfish motive and Godly type Love is totally unselfish.

I don't think this response deals with the point I made about Jesus' right to make demands of his followers, even when they holler and scream that his love should be unconditional.

“we want to be citizens of that kingdom” or are we citizens of the kingdom and do it out of appreciation?

We are only citizens of that kingdom insomuch as we practice the values of that kingdom.

A bit of common sense is all that is needed to understand this point. Even a worldly example could be used. An employer expects results from his employees. If an employee is not doing his job, the employer has every right to fire that employee. The employee could argue "unconditional love" or some other such technicality, but blind freddy could see that an employee who is unwilling to follow the standards set by the boss has no place on the job.

“Obedience” is what we get to do that pleases God while we are here on earth (is that not wonderful)? Do we not want to please God? Do we not want to know what might please God and what does not please God?

Yes, a genuine desire to want to apply the values of the kingdom of heaven, without any rules, is the ideal. In that sense, the kingdom of Heaven is pure anarchy, where the individual is accountable to God alone and there is no need for others to judge that person, because that person judges him/herself.

And yet, obedience IS commanded in the gospels. It is VERY much expected by Jesus. In fact, he calls those who refuse to obey fools, and he says that it is BECAUSE of obedience that he is able to see who loves him and who does not.

I could site scripture for this, but do I really need to quote chapter and verse for this basic concept to be true? Is it wise to disobey Jesus? Is it an expression of real love to argue that we should not have to obey Jesus' commands?

Of course we should want to, but the law is for the lawless. Because Jesus asks us to confront some of the most uncomfortable truths in existence, he knows we will just naturally avoid such confrontations. He asks us to smash our pride, forsake our respectability. challenge our dependency on materialism, and just generally challenge every thing we cling to.

We humans just don't have the natural tendency to understand the reasoning behind such challenges, so we need rules (at least, at first). We obey the rules because the boss tells us to, but after experiencing the fruits of the rules, we come to understand the reasoning behind it, and we no longer need the rule, because we know WHY we do it.

So, when we talk about "conditions" on love, it's not really conditons, so much as learning to appreciate that love is far more complex that simple black and white statements. It involves discipline, sacrifice, and a genuine concern for others. Without these "conditions" being met, love is just not love.
 
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