Age Gap

[Glorianna]

My fiance is only 2 and a half years older than me.

 

[Lizzi4Christ]

My boyfriend is 6 years older then I am. And the difference is more then welcomed.

That's the biggest age gap of someone I liked. He and I connect differently from other guys I've liked in the past. We seem to be on a more equal ground and I can talk to him easily. He's got wisdom and experience that make it just wonderful to talk to.

And he enjoys reminding me that I was 12 when he graduated from highschool.

 

[Pope Gonzo]

It's not a huge gap, but my fiance is two years older than me. I never really went for older girls, and she never really went for younger guys, so I guess that's why it was weird for us

 

[TJMan2050]

she's one year younger, pretty typical, nothing major

 

[Sign Of The Fish Burger]

There is an 8 year age gap between my parents and it has worked out fine.

There is only a 2 year difference between Josh and I, and that is fine for me. I dated someone 5 years older then me once, and he was a jerk. All he cared about was his carreer and how much money he made.

I hit the jackpot with Josh. He is an extremely mature 23 yearold, a great christian man, and someoen who wants a family.
Yeah Im the luckiest girl alive

 

[progressivegal]

the person I've been seeing lately is seven years older than I am.

 

[Soc12]

I have been wondering about this subject. I'm almost 21, and have become considerably interested in a girl who is 5 1/2 years younger but very mature in the Lord. I'm praying about her because I believe she will one day make a good wife. Obviously, I'd wait until she is at least 17 before asking her dad about courting her. But, would 17 and 23/24 be an acceptable difference? I suppose it only matters what God thinks about it, but I'm curious about what others think, too.

That's actually quite disturbing to hear. This girl is 14 or 15 and you are almost 21? People that could have even a slight interest in a 14 year old that is your age should not be let around children.

 

[sculpturegirl]

When my father asked how old my fiance' was when we first started dating (he is 9 years older than me), he about lost his head! I asked him if he had met any guys my age and he laughed- point well taken. Besides, he is 7 years older than my mom!

I don't think it is appropriate for teens to be dating folks considerably older. I'll say it again- people shouldn't be dating (when I say dating I mean bf/gf) or courting unless they are in a position to persue marriage. So, if someone isn't even of LEGAL age to marry then he/she has no business in a "serious" relationship whatsoever.

Heck with 2 cents- here is a dollar! LOL

 

[Sign Of The Fish Burger]

Very good points sculpturegirl. I agree 100%!!

 

[Cherub8]

That's actually quite disturbing to hear. This girl is 14 or 15 and you are almost 21?

She turned 15 awhile back. I'm 20 until May.

People that could have even a slight interest in a 14 year old that is your age should not be let around children.

My interest in her is actually quite innocent.

I've come to greatly admire her love for the Lord, and her ambition to one day be a devoted wife, mother and homemaker. In a few years I'll be looking to be married. I've been praying about her, in particular.

As for your implying that I'm some kind of pedophile, well, let me just say that it's hurtful to be judged so harshly, especially when you know absolutely nothing of the situation. Please be more considerate in the future.

 

[Cherub8]

I don't think it is appropriate for teens to be dating folks considerably older. I'll say it again- people shouldn't be dating (when I say dating I mean bf/gf) or courting unless they are in a position to persue marriage. So, if someone isn't even of LEGAL age to marry then he/she has no business in a "serious" relationship whatsoever.

Heck with 2 cents- here is a dollar! LOL

I agree with what you've said.

 

[Galadriel]

Me and my bf are 18 years apart (Im 21, he is 39) and we get on very well with each other. I believe it all depends upon the situacion and of the 2 people involved. I agree too that the older you get, the less the age gap matters. Before I met him I would have thought 18 years being WAY too big of an age gap for anyone, but then God led me to him, and who am I to say? People with bigger age gaps than that have had very successful loving relationships and marriages.

 

[Cherub8]

I believe it all depends upon the situacion and of the 2 people involved.

Exactly.

 

[Peculiarone]

Anyone in a relationship where there is an age gap? There is 9 years between me and my boyfriend. I'm just curious to see how many other people are in my shoes.

Crystal

Yes, i'm 22 almost he's 35. Wonderful relationship, wonderful man.

 

[AveMaria]

Most of the guys I've dated in the past have been several years older. Interestingly enough, I've had the best and healthiest relationships with guys who are about 10 - 15 years my senior.

I've never dated anyone younger than me - I wouldn't rule it out, it's just never happened.

 

[ardeur]

My boyfriend is 11 months younger than me. I never really thought about dating a younger man, but we became friends and after two years we moved into a relationship. There may as well not be any age difference between us at all.

 

[eyeliv4God]

She turned 15 awhile back. I'm 20 until May.



My interest in her is actually quite innocent.

I've come to greatly admire her love for the Lord, and her ambition to one day be a devoted wife, mother and homemaker. In a few years I'll be looking to be married. I've been praying about her, in particular.

As for your implying that I'm some kind of pedophile, well, let me just say that it's hurtful to be judged so harshly, especially when you know absolutely nothing of the situation. Please be more considerate in the future.

Alright, cut the guy some slack! He's only said his interest in her has been perked; he's not trying to taint her. Obviously, this is a Christian man, and he has seen some very good things in this young woman. He is respecting the fact that she is still young, and has obviously created boundaries because he respects the Lord and the girl. And, on top of that, this young lady is a soldier of Christ, too, and this is what he admires about her.

Kudos to you, Cherub for respecting, waiting, and admiring her from afar while remaining her friend; you seem like a man after God's own heart. What could be more respectable than that? I know that one day, you will make a great husband; I should be so lucky; my fiance isn't even a Christian.

 

[Cherub8]

Thank you for the kind words of encouragement.
I will pray for your fiance, that he will come to know the Lord.

Blessings,
Cherub.

 

[lunalinda]

I appreciate the maturity level of older men, but I don't really like when they're too MUCH older than me, cuz I do like the opportunity to grow and continue to mature together. I don't want to feel too much like a "kid," but at the same time, not too much like an "adult" either, and I feel that if the age gap is too large, then I may be forced to feel one of the two ways.

I've never dated an older guy though lol. Ironic. Both of my exes are younger, one by a few months and the other by just under 3 years. But my point is this: one thing older guys will ALWAYS have that makes them better is just the fact that, well...they just seem to more know what they want in life. The younger a man is, the less he knows. That's just from my own experiences.

As far as my preference? I'm still willing to date younger guys, but no more than 3 years younger. On older guys, the gap is wider, but I generally don't want that gap to go beyond 7 years. But I think I'd still prefer older men, just not TOO much older.

 

[Diane_Windsor]

We women, like it or not, have a time limit, so to say, on having a family. Physically the ideal is 18-27. Plus, women tend to mature more quickly.

Not neccesarily-you can always adopt children rather than biologically have them. My mother, aunt, and uncle were all adopted by my grandparents, and the adoption came through on my grandmother's 40th birthday

DW