There's around 6 year difference between me and the guy I could be dating in the near future. What are your thoughts on that? (he's the older one, by the way) It doesn't bother me and it doesn't seem to bother him.
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Age Diff
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charligirl
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Only 6 years? lol My husband is 13 years older than me and it's great 
Does depend on how old you are though.. If you are 15 and he's 21 you may want to pray about it quite seriously.
Does depend on how old you are though.. If you are 15 and he's 21 you may want to pray about it quite seriously.
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KristianJ
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Yeah...it reallu depends on your age. If you're in your 20's or above then I'd see not much of a problem. But as charligirl said, if you're under 18 I'd be really thinking about whether it's a wise choice. And welcome to CF as well! Enjoy your time here
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Sascha Fitzpatrick
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I'm 23, my SO is 29 - the only time it gets weird is when he talks about a song being on in year 12 and I remember it playing at grade 7 camp! THAT'S when reality hits!
As the other girls said - it all depends on your age - if you're less than 20, it can be an issue.
It also depends on your personality - my ex-fiance was 8 years older (27) than I (19) at the time, and he was a lot stronger psychologically than I was. This was because he knew what he wanted, and that caused issues, cos I hadn't developed who I was at that point, so went along with and agreed with every decision he made for our future, without really going and putting my two cents of opinion in. So long as you aren't a teenager, and have a firm opinion that you can stick to, and know where you as an individual is heading - it shouldn't be too much of an issue for you.
The other thing to remember is - remember his age! I've had problems where my SO's expected me to be like a 29 year old, and times when I've treated him like a 23 year old (ie life plans, etc), so that can crop up. Mind you, my SO is 29 and is still not ready for marriage and has no massive 5 YEAR PLAN, so can often trick me into thinking he's 23 rather than 29. Same with me - I have a firm idea of what the next 5 years holds for me, so he tends to treat me like a 29 year old rather than a 23 year old, so if I have an immature moment, he has to remember my age!!
Sasch
As the other girls said - it all depends on your age - if you're less than 20, it can be an issue.
It also depends on your personality - my ex-fiance was 8 years older (27) than I (19) at the time, and he was a lot stronger psychologically than I was. This was because he knew what he wanted, and that caused issues, cos I hadn't developed who I was at that point, so went along with and agreed with every decision he made for our future, without really going and putting my two cents of opinion in. So long as you aren't a teenager, and have a firm opinion that you can stick to, and know where you as an individual is heading - it shouldn't be too much of an issue for you.
The other thing to remember is - remember his age! I've had problems where my SO's expected me to be like a 29 year old, and times when I've treated him like a 23 year old (ie life plans, etc), so that can crop up. Mind you, my SO is 29 and is still not ready for marriage and has no massive 5 YEAR PLAN, so can often trick me into thinking he's 23 rather than 29. Same with me - I have a firm idea of what the next 5 years holds for me, so he tends to treat me like a 29 year old rather than a 23 year old, so if I have an immature moment, he has to remember my age!!
Sasch
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Pope Gonzo
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It depends on the individuals and their relationships with God. There are a lot of other factors to consider than age.
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mathias1979
Resident Meteorologist
Depends a lot on what your actual age is. A lot of growing and maturing happens between 16 and 20...and that can be a big source of friction if one or more of you fall into that age group. Not saying it can't work...just saying it adds some stress to the relationship.
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My last ex-g/f was 10 years older than I was. If she didn't find her dream job and I didn't start my career, we'd be married. Although, it bothered her at first because she was concerned about my maturity level and my commitment to her, since I was younger than her.
My Sensei is married to a woman who is older than him by 10 years.......Lovely Christian couple.
For the guy to be older than you by 6 yrs is not a problem. His maturity level is what can most people expect. It might even be up to your level.
My Sensei is married to a woman who is older than him by 10 years.......Lovely Christian couple.
For the guy to be older than you by 6 yrs is not a problem. His maturity level is what can most people expect. It might even be up to your level.
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