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I am struggling so much with the feelings of depession and dread. I am doing online counseling, trying to eat right, take supplements for women going through menopause. I just feel like running away. I'm separated from my husband, hating my job, hating things in my life in general. I don't like being such a downer, but I'm being honest. I am so struggling. I don't know if it's my age or what, but I'm just at a point of such struggle.

Please, any suggestions and prayers would be so appreciated.
 

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hello there, i know it can be very difficult at times like this but there will always be light at the end of the tunnel. it is rough and most of the time lonely but you have got to make a CONSCIOUS EFFORT to be happy. do you have any children ? if yu did and they are around you and they need to grow up and be happy . Your duty should be towards your kids they are your crown and would constantly give yu hopes and life in the future. I can bet my life on this as long as you just hang in there yu will be fine. its difficult but yu will come out. do yu have friends yu could visit them have fun with them , have it at the back off yur mind that sometimes yu will feel lonely and sad but yu have got to stay positive and work your way constantly to deal with thise times.Spend time praying, worshipping it helps to release a lot of tension. should yu not have any kids then yu have to spend time doing things around yu. regarding your job if thats the only source of income then you have to work at it. most people today dont like their jobs , they work to pay their bills which is their motivation . its not really a good way of life but eventually things turn out ok. As an example i am an IT support officer i have an interest in IT , i work in an IT company sometimes i feel all funny and stressed going to work but i have to do so first of all because i have no alternative, secondly because i have an interest even though i dont see myself working long in that feild, my long term goal is to be a motivational speaker and preacher.i voluntarily help organisations, speak to people and encourage people a lot of times. I am fulfilling my dream in a way asides working and i know there will be a time God will take care of things. I have set up a ministry www.whatsonyourmind.org.uk to help ppl. i gave a bit of background information so that yu can realise that yu need to stay focussed at work so that yu dont lose it and also do things that yu have a passion for if yu have any. it helps and with time it will all come together.

i copied a script for yu from walking wounded.yu could also read this. The Bible says, “Guard your heart with all wisdom, for it is the wellspring of life” (Proverbs). The Word of God is full of deep and wonderful truth. Many Christian advise us to “guard our hearts” in friendships. It is indeed wise to guard both our emotions and our expectations. We must be wise, and not needlessly expose ourselves to hurt or disappointment.
Even those of us who have had wonderful families, perhaps Christian families, will know that no parent is perfect. We are always going to get let down or hurt at some point. Those of us who have come from more troubled backgrounds will probably have learnt that really you cannot live with your security based on people. Parents and other friends should be an encouragement to us; loving us and being a positive input into our lives. But when this is not the case, we can be devastated. How ever fortunate or not we are with the people we have around is, our security must be in God. He is the one who made us and who loves us like no one else could. Although it is very normal to look for encouragement and approval from those around us, we must not allow disappointment to devastate us if our hopes are not realised.
[FONT=Arial,Helvetica]In this life, we need human companions as well as God for a companion (Genesis 2:18). If there is no one around you at the moment who is providing this friendship, at least in some way, then actively try to find it. Search for people, If necessary, move church or even where you live, researching where you might go. Life can become a constant test of survival, where you have no real choice apart from just to accept suffering and to stick it out.[/FONT]
[FONT=Arial,Helvetica]God - The Rock, is secure[/FONT]
[FONT=Arial,Helvetica]It can take time to know healing from our hurts and disappointments, and with this to trust God and truly place him as our security. Disappointment is a nasty enemy. We may hope for just simple, basic things in life. Maybe good friends, or a partner to share our live with. But our track record registers disappointment. However, we need not loose hope when we know God. We may not get all we want or hope for, and this is hard to accept when other people seem happy and are enjoying themselves.[/FONT]
[FONT=Arial,Helvetica]With God, all good things are possible. If it is confidence you need, he can bring it, and if it is a miracle you need, he can answer your prayer. Don’t give up or loose hope, and do gain encouragement and help form where ever you can. If there is some sort of a spiritual curse over your life, which stifles you living in freedom and enjoying good things, then he can break it by his power (Colossians 2:13-15)[/FONT]
[FONT=Arial,Helvetica]Grasping to hope[/FONT]
[FONT=Arial,Helvetica]You may be in the depths of pain and disappointment. It may be of some hope to think that Jesus has always been through worse than us. Perhaps it is as if you are finding it hard to breath, such is the fear and depression that chokes you. Jesus must have experienced this and more as he suffered for us on the cross. We at least get to catch our breath, though we suffer.[/FONT]
[FONT=Arial,Helvetica]When we feel very low or isolated, even very basic recognition from other Christians can lift us and bring us hope. It allows us a wonderful glimpse of God and of how life can be for us on earth. Sometimes we feel that we are hanging on for dear life. A friend once used an image to encourage himself. It was of seeing himself in deep waters, drowning. That’s how he felt at the time. He saw a helicopter - which represented Jesus, hovering over the water, and someone reached down to rescue him from the seas. This brings to mind Psalm 18:16:[/FONT]
[FONT=Arial,Helvetica]“He reached down from on high and took hold of me, he drew me out of deep waters”.[/FONT]
[FONT=Arial,Helvetica]Selfless Trust in God[/FONT]
[FONT=Arial,Helvetica]Healing really can take time. However, we find moments of relief and hope, and quickly learn to take every bit of encouragement that we can get. There is so much hope and encouragement in the Word of God. Don’t ever loose hope when you know God, as he can restore and heal, and he will never leave you. If you do miss out in life, and do not get all that you hope for on earth, he will make things up to you in Heaven. Provision and healing will be made complete. God is perfect, and he will richly reward us if we are faithful, he will not deprive us of good things.[/FONT]
[FONT=Arial,Helvetica]We are all on our way home to Heaven, and on the journey we can know the healing and power of Jesus in our lives. We can know comfort, peace and provision, as well as the privilege of serving others and sharing God with those who do not know him. Hold on, and hold fast to God’s hand. He will never let go. In a field of wounded soldiers, try to get up off your feet and help those who are in need around you. Follow the example of Jesus, and in so doing, know him more.[/FONT]

i hope this helps should yu require more info visit www.whatsonyourmind.org.uk

God bless
 
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I am struggling so much with the feelings of depession and dread. I am doing online counseling, trying to eat right, take supplements for women going through menopause. I just feel like running away. I'm separated from my husband, hating my job, hating things in my life in general. I don't like being such a downer, but I'm being honest. I am so struggling. I don't know if it's my age or what, but I'm just at a point of such struggle.

Please, any suggestions and prayers would be so appreciated.

I also encourage to continue in daily bible study. bible on walkmen tapes helps me so much, there are also bible movies etc. It is helpful to learn more of God and spend time in His word daily, and be a doer of His teachings and life and getting His rest. also have a thankful heart, even if you don't really want to be thankful, just be thankful anyway, it really will help (christian author Corrie Ten Boom was told by her sister to be thankful for the miserable fleas in her concentration camp barracks, so she thanked God for miserable fleas. She found out they weren't getting even more bullied because of those fleas, so she really saw we can be thankful, I believe we can be).

and try to focus on helping others, you'll feel better about yourself too if you just keep blessing others and serving others too
 
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i hope yur feeling ok and your spirits are lifted. remember God loves you and there people in this forum that are ready to listen anytime.

You take care of yourself and remeber yu have to make yurself happy at all costs cuz yu deserve to be happy. asides that enjoy yourself and keep smiling ok.

God bless you. visit www.whatsonyourmind.org.uk or post any message here and i will be willing to respond to any comments.

Have fun ok.

I hope this helps
 
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Seeking1, please rely on God during this. I've been suffering from depression lately, and so has my mother (who is around your age and going through menopause). My mother has gone through so much recently and has experienced much of what you're experiencing, and I've seen such an improvement in her since she's been consciously letting these feelings go to God. During menopause, hormones can do soo much to your body and mind (I've had to research this for my mom countless times), so please try to remind yourself that it's your body, and that God is in control of it all.
In your diet, make sure you eliminate caffeine, refined (white) carbs, refined sugars- these will tax your adrenal glands which are responsible for stress coping and tons of other hormones. As for supplements, Vitamin C, E, B's, and Zinc are important. Green tea/St. John's Wort tea can be great for stress/depression. Also, If you haven't tried natural progesterone cream for your menopause, I'd recommend it. It's helped my mother out a lot.
Overall, I personally don't think I'd be able to cope at all within the last few months with my own depression/anxiety if it weren't for reading scripture.

Philippians 4:6-7- Be careful for nothing; but in every thing by prayer and supplication with thanksgiving let your requests be made known unto God. And the peace of God, which passeth all understanding, shall keep your hearts and minds through Christ Jesus.

That's always a helpful verse for me. I hope you continue to trust God and feel his love for you through all of this! Don't give into depression and self-pity, even if it's hard to resist.

Please pray for the Lord to take care of your job/marriage situation, He will work it out for you. In the mean time, try to dwell on what you've been blessed with. If you're interested, you should check out a book by Jerry Bridges called Trusting God. I've been reading it recently, and it's great.
 
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