Afraid

[GodsChild74]

Long story short, I got into some financial truouble a few years back, I was engaged at the time. When everything fell apart I went running to the man I was engaged to. I knew from the minute we got married we had made a wrong move, that getting married wasnt going to solve my problems. Yes I loved him, I believe I still do. But the split was horrable. We said and did horrable things to each other. I moved back to my home town and he moved to his new station (he is in the army). We are finally talking like civilised adults and even having fun with each other over the internet, however during the coarse of my life and the last few years I have suffered a lot of hurt and since we seperated I have put up a huggggggggge wall up around my heart. He is being sweet and patient. He isnt pushing me. But how do I tear down that wall and alow someone to get close to me again, expecially someone who hurt me and that I hurt. Please help. Any words of wisdome would be awsome. Also if he can post here he is more than welcome. Maybe yall can help us both.

 

[SearcherKris]

Well, I think the most important thing to do is to continue to seek the Lord and follow His leading in how to acquire the healing you need. Also, any unforgiveness that may be in your heart toward others needs to be dealt with in order for healing to take place.

It takes time, and it's Ok that it does. God knows that time is a good healer. After a while it won't hurt so much, and it will become easier to trust again.

Talk out your frustrations and pain. Vent it all. Don't hold it in. Talk about it openly and frequently. Expressing it will help a lot.

 

[GodsChild74]

I have forgiven the past. However I am still weary of the future. While you try to let go of what hurt you, even if you have forgiven it, it scares you to walk toward something new. I am praying over it every day. I just wish I had the answers now. I know, I know, every thing in Gods time.