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Afraid to be happy?

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I know that might sound weird... but whenever something really good happens to me I'm afraid to enjoy it for the fear of being let down. Anyone relate?

I think I can relate. Sometimes, I feel like I'll never be happy again...or elated...I feel so down that I'm surprised anything good happened. Sometimes I thinks it's too good to be true...:sigh:

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i think it is a feeling that comes from are insecureness (is that a word?) i know i often feel afraid to feel happy...i worry that the ppl that are there for me might decide that they dont wanna be friends with me anymore that their love for me is really just sympathy for how im feeling
 
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NewCreation517 said:
I know that might sound weird... but whenever something really good happens to me I'm afraid to enjoy it for the fear of being let down. Anyone relate?

no, that does not sound weird at all. sounds perfectly normal to me. I can find the cloud in any silver lining!

I'll bet that you don't get your hopes up or allow yourself to get excited, because you don't want to be disappointed? right?

if I expect something to be great and it is awful, it is a real let down. but if I don't expect something to be good, and it isn't, then I am not bothered. and there is always the smug satisfaction of knowing I was right. lol

anyway, "what makes most people feel happy, leads us headlong into harm."
 
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Yes... I am..
In fact, I guess I don't want do be happy...
The reason is simple. My concept of happines is very high, and problaly bad focused. I mean, hapiness for me depends of so many things that any man in this world could be happy, even for 1 only day. Happines for me is unreachable untill I am still in this dirty and stinky body. So I simplily don't want to be happy, because I can't be happy, as nobody cans... If I keep trying I will get frustrated and afraid to try again, then I gave up.

The second point is that I am too much materialist. That's what I mean with "bad focused". For many people, happynes is in Jesus. I don't agree. Hapyness is in Jesus when we die, until there, we can't even get closer of happines. For me, happiness "before heaven" depends of a lot of stupid things (I know they're stupid):beauty, money, intelligence, self control, influence and etc. Is it or not bad focused?

Bad focused or not, I can't be happy, so I don't want to aspirate it. Nobody can help me. Or a miracle happens or just forget it...

Anyway, you have made a nice question. Nobody never asked this to me before
 
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pockleberry said:
i think it is a feeling that comes from are insecureness (is that a word?) i know i often feel afraid to feel happy...i worry that the ppl that are there for me might decide that they dont wanna be friends with me anymore that their love for me is really just sympathy for how im feeling

That's exactly how I feel too. I'm scared that if everything is ok then people will just leave me.
 
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els_bells said:
That's exactly how I feel too. I'm scared that if everything is ok then people will just leave me.

I too am scared that people will leave me, so I just don't get involved in the first place, I keep myself to myself and push people away if they get too close.
 
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