Advice

[All Englands Skies]

First of all, im not an alcoholic, I only drink if i go to pub on weekends, secondly i dont think its unbiblical to drink unless you end up not controlling yourself.

And that is my problem, after a hard days week, i need a drink, only i can never have one, i always get drunk and make a fool of myself, become confrontational and sometimes agressive, i tried to just have one, but one leads to more.

however after a week of work, its the only thing to do it seems.

Is it best to avoid the pub, im thinking alcohol is causing me to sin, by making me aggressive and a fool of myself?

 

[madison1101]

I laughed when I read your post, because you preface it by saying you are not an alcoholic. Then, you describe your drinking behavior, which is exactly like a lot of alcoholics' drinking. I only drank on weekends, every so often, and got drunk.

If you drink to the point of drunkenness, and are unable to control your drinking, you are probably an alcoholic. It does not matter if you drink once a week, or once a day, if you drink to the point of drunknenness, and bad things happen because of your drinking...you qualify for a seat at an AA meeting.

I suggest you go to AA and find out how to stop drinking and start not doing things you regret because of your excessive drinking.

Trish

 

[BarelyBreathing]

I would say that it is probably best for you to avoid going to the pub.

Do you really need a drink at the end of the week? I'd suggest looking for an alternate outlet to burn off your stress such as joining a health club.

(I agree with Trish's post as well. )

 

[Aaliyah]

I don't think you're an alcoholic just because you can't just have one as the above poster implies. I think that you could just have one, but the problem is that you don't want to have just one because where is the fun in that, right? I think you should find healthier ways to blow off steam. However, I can't help you with that because I just quit smoking so I'm trying to figure that out for myself also Maybe avoiding going to the pub will be the right thing to do for now. HIH.

 

[hotsauce5000]

im in the same boat, i dont think im an alcoholic, but going to aa meetings, it seems that i am. if you find a car or more when you mow your yard, you may be a redneck.
if you dont have an off switch when you drink alcohol, you may be an alcoholic.
it dont matter if its once a year. being an alchoholic doesnt mean living on a street corner drinking cheap stuff wrapped in a paper sack.
i joined a gym and ride my bike a lot. hanging around aa meetings helps me remember why i dont need to be at the bars, or spending money on beer, or legal fees, or hangovers.
maybe try going to an aa meeting instead of the pub next week?
its a lot cheaper and you wont get a hangover from it.

 

[madison1101]

AA is more than just going to meetings. It is a 12 Step program for recovery from alcoholism. It involves getting honest, getting a Higher Power in your life, and cleaning up the wreckage of your life, and learning to live life on life's terms, so you don't need to go to the pub.

 

[TheMainException]

Not everyone is an alcoholic who has problems with drinking is an alcoholic, but its best to be honest with yourself and open to the possibility that you could be an alcoholic. Only you can decide whether or not you are an alcoholic and whether you are or not, no matter what anyone says you are, you have to know for yourself. Only your decision matters. It is recommendable that you talk to someone about this issue and sort of flesh it out with their help. Someone like a counselor or of that sort.

Make alternatives for yourself. Do other things after work at the end of the week, do different things with different people. I'm not saying avoid the pub, but mix it up so that you aren't going to the pub every week. You sound like there's just too much stress that is coming out in your anger while drinking...could that be dealt with in some other way on a more daily basis?

 

[BobW188]

Skip the pub. More precisely, find out if you can skip the pub (and not take something home instead.)
Even if you find you can, though, that you cannot control your drinking once you have started strongly indicates you have a problem. Go to www.aa.org and you'll find a self - test that will help you. Answer honestly. While you're at it, give the organization a look. There will likely be a link to its UK branch.

 

[Jeffz]

There is an old saying "If I go to a barbarshop long enough I will eventually get a hair cut" If I go to a pub/bar long enough I certainly have a drink, and one is never enough.
Why take the chance to improve your chances of progressing into an alcoholic if you do not have to? AA is all over the world and so is NA either can be used to recover. I have gone to both and still do. Oh by the way I don't go to pubs/bars any more.
Just from your post it is evedent that you may think there is a possiblilty of a problem, you do not have to be 'alcholic' to go to meetings as the only requirement is a desire to stop drinking/using.
one man set free,
jeffrey

 

[UnitynLove]

Why don't you spend that same time after work instead of going to the pub go to your bible

 

[All Englands Skies]

This might be stating the obvious, but ive specifically asked God to help me on this problem and its actually like i can feel myself lose interest in the drink! as crazy as it sounds!

 

[BobW188]

Then keep asking!

 

[I'ddie4him2]

Well,
A person is an alcoholic when they can't control their drinking, Need more than one, and make excuses for why they drink.

Go to AA, start going to regular weekly meetings as well as find a non drinking friend to be a sponsor.

First of all, im not an alcoholic, I only drink if i go to pub on weekends, secondly i dont think its unbiblical to drink unless you end up not controlling yourself.

And that is my problem, after a hard days week, i need a drink, only i can never have one, i always get drunk and make a fool of myself, become confrontational and sometimes agressive, i tried to just have one, but one leads to more.

however after a week of work, its the only thing to do it seems.

Is it best to avoid the pub, im thinking alcohol is causing me to sin, by making me aggressive and a fool of myself?