Advice Please

[Godsgurl4ever2006]

hey,
you may remember me coming in about a month ago asking for help because i was talking to a 27 year old guy and didn't know what to do well my parents found out i had been talking to guys and said they don't want me in chat rooms anymore and i have gotten quiet attached to a christian chat room and i want to obey my parents but i want to go to that chat room to because i have been able to get very good advice from the people in there so what do you think i should do??

 

[solo66 man]

This is a hard pill to swallow for me. I have to say, do what your parents say short of not worshipping God. They are your authority right now and it is biblical you do as they say, up to the point of turning you back on God.
Personally, I would say go to the Christian chat room, but it is not my call, it is your parents. They are concerned about who you may meet, and I fully understand their views.
You need to find a Christian counselor at church. Online counseling is only meant to subsidize live counseling. Live counseling is better. I know counseling is available at every church I have ever been to. Use it.
God Bless you greatly and guide you.

 

[Christi]

Sweetie, You may not want to hear this, but you need to do what your parents say. If they see you are respecting them, they will be more inclined to think you are mature and may possibly understand if you explain to them about it being a Christian chat room. They just love you, and there are predators on Christian chatrooms as well as any other kind. But biblically, you have to honor them. I am a woman and I have to submit to my husband. I don't always like to, but that's the way it is. It's for MY best. It's for YOUR best, in the long run to honor your parents. I've done it both ways. My way and God's way. Trust me, God loves us more than we love ourselves, and His rules work. They just do. If you follow them, you may not know (this side of heaven) the protection He is giving you. It sometimes seems like a hard pill to swallow, I know. I will pray for you and your parents, but in the meantime ya gotta do what they say. Love, Christi

 

[Blynn]

I also agree that you should obey your parents.

I have two boys 10 and 13 and they are not allowed in any chat rooms.

I have visited chat rooms to see what they were about. Sometimes even in christian ones there are people there that are not christian. Some go with questionable intent.

I will continue to pray for you.



God bless you
Roberta

 

[Mandy]

I agree that you should obey your parents. There are many dangers out there on the net and just because it is Christian doesn't mean that everyone there are Christians.
Your parents telling you that they don't want you going to chat rooms may be God's way of keeping you safe.

I will continue to keep you in my prayers.

 

[amie]

Hi Kiddo!
Yes...I am afraid the consensus here is to obey your parents...they gave you life, they are your authority figures, and they love you more than you'll ever know...so gotta listen to them...I know it is difficult, the struggles you have been through and so on an so forth...If you ever need to talk, I am just a click away! I will continue to pray for and with you! much love to you and many blessings too!
Amie

 

[supermagdalena]

I agree. Though sometimes it's hard and it really doesn't seem to be fun, something I'm still finding out is that your parents rule unless they say you can't be a Christian or something like that. You're parents are very, very wise, and sometimes, even though it doesn't seem that way, they know best.

If you need Christian fellowship online, remember, we're here. Many of us have our AIM screennames right here(or did your parents forbid AIM too?), and some will probably give it to you, and there's always e-mail and Private messages. Be careful about talking to people online, remember the safety guidelines. You're parents love you very much and are only thinking of your safety.

God Bless, I will be praying for you still.

--Emily

 

[Godsgurl4ever2006]

by following yalls advice i will be unable to come here cause i don't know you in person i can only talk to people i know in person according to my parents

 

[Blynn]

Maybe you could show your parents this forum? Let them look around. Show them that it is not a chat room but a Christian forum.


I think they just want to keep you safe.


My 13 year old son is a member here.



God bless you
Roberta

 

[Godsgurl4ever2006]

i seriously doubt that they would go for it because like i said earlier if i don't know you in person i am not supposed to talk to you

 

[Mandy]

I think it's a good idea to let your parents see this forum. Perhaps they will let you continue to post here.

 

[Godsgurl4ever2006]

i could try

 

[solo66 man]

Really, at worst, you will be where you are at now and at best they will say ok. You have nothing to lose.

 

[supermagdalena]

Try to talk to them. Show them what this place is about, and they'll at least listen. But you have to act overly mature about it...have a discussion about the limits you'll have on the internet. Communicating with them will help a lot.

 

[Godsgurl4ever2006]

thanks for the help yall i am going to quit going to the chat room but i will continue coming here

 

[amie]

Hi Godsgurl!
I am happy that you will be staying here! love and peace to you always!
Amie

 

[solo66 man]

Yes, beloved. Don't go away if you don't have to. We want you here.

 

[Blynn]

I am glad that you are staying too!!


God bless you
Roberta

 

[RayNay714]

I'm glad you chose to obey your parents. Its a hard thing to do, but it pays in the end.

Until All Have Heard,
RayNay

 

[supermagdalena]

Amen! Yay! We're so happy you can stay! Here's what I had to do: find something constructive with the time you used to use to chat...play a sport on your own, go jog, do something musical if that's your thing. And a little Bible study and prayer can't hurt This could be a good thing for you, remember that! Look sunny-side up!

God Bless,

-Emily