Advice on moving out

[.jc.]

Hey all,

I need advice on moving out. I have an education and a good job, but I've been having a lot of anxiety moving out of my parents house. I'm 26 years old and have never lived away from home, that's what makes this so scary. I recently bought a house for a really good price and am fixing it up for a few months while I still live at home. At this point there is only room for one person so I'll be living alone. I am introverted so really being alone should be no problem. My mind is currently trying to think what I'll be feeling when I finally move in. Will I be board, will I feel so lonely I slip into depression? I'm trying my best not to have negative thoughts but the normal stress of this move makes it hard. Some people have suggested getting cats or something. I would look forward to any encouragement and/or suggestions you guys have on moving out. Does this type of move really put you into full adulthood?

 

[explodingboy]

Does this type of move really put you into full adulthood?

Nope.

As to living on your own, it's easier if you have friends around to hang out with otherwise you can turn your abode into a small prison.

 

[Mrs. Luther073082]

Get a dog.

 

[.jc.]

Get a dog.

I was thinking 2 cats, just because they are more independent. Dogs want a lot of attention. I don't want to feel guilty every time I want to go out.

 

[Mrs. Luther073082]

Cats work, too

 

[Luther073082]

As long as you have some sort of social outlet even if its minor and you know how to cook a few things, clean, do laundry, get yourself up in the morning for work, etc then you should be ok.

I'm fairly introverted but I would make sure that I had some sort of social outlet with people. I've known a few introverted people in my life, but I've never known one that never got loney spending an extended amount of time alone.

 

[Ceta_cea]

Concratulation for your house purchase, I hope that the fixing up will work out fine.

Will you live near your family and friends? If yes, than I think you will be fine. The only thing that changes is the place you live. You will still have your friends, your church activities and your family. They can visit you, you can visit them. It should be okay.

 

[who93]

Congratulations on the purchase of your house! As you move into your new place and become more independent, I think it will boost your confidence. Of course it can be a bit scary or overwhelming moving into a new phase in life, but it is also an exciting new adventure. It will be an adjustment living on your own, but you will be fine. God bless!

 

[Lord Herdsetk]

I know what its like man. I'm moving into another house this fall. Long story short, I'm gonna be there by myself with no one I know. I'm introverted as well, so its going to be rough the first month or two. I'll make it through, and I believe you will too.

 

[ImperialPhantom]

I would recommend waiting until a second bedroom is usable, and then trying to find and move in with a roommate. If that's not an option or you don't want to do roommates, then as someone who likes cats, I'd second that recommendation.

 

[rokcndy]

You sound like you're in a much better position than me! You're financially stable, at a good age, and it sounds like you're ready to live on your own Congrats on the new house! Instead of worrying about it, try to focus on all of the possibilities that'll open up to you: you can put whatever you want into it, decorate it however you want, have your own space, and have over any person you want! I'm sure you won't get lonely The only thing is make sure you motivate yourself (to sleep well, eat well, get out of the house, bills, all that fun stuff) because that can be hard. I stayed in a homestay for 3 months when I studied abroad and the one lady who lived with me and took care of me was always gone, so I was pretty much on my own. I know that isn't a ton of experience though, haha xD I'm thinking of moving out into my own little apartment, but I'm only 18 and I'm in community college. Also, my family and I are moving to another state (I could've chosen to stay here but I would never want to be that far from my family) so I'm not really going to know anyone for a while except my family... the reason I'm possibly moving is that the house we're buying is too small and my mom home-school's four kids, so it's going to be a big challenge trying to concentrate on my education. But we'll see Anyway... good luck! Make sure to get out and visit with people often and don't fall into the habit of hiding away in your house xP Enjoy your house