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I thought about posting this in the women's section. But I'd like male input too, especially if there are any guys here who are like my husband.
This has been an ongoing struggle for me since we got married two and half years ago. But lately it's gotten to a point that I just don't know what to do.
My husband is a finicky eater and doesn't like to eat very often. Once a day (very late dinner) is what he considers to be plenty. Even that is a challenge sometimes. I've managed to get him into the habit of eating lunch at work and found a few things he'll actually eat. It also helps that others are eating and he can smell their food. So that makes him want something. But when he's home, it's impossible to get him to eat lunch (and forget breakfast!). Even when I cook for myself the smell doesn't entice him.
But now, dinner is becoming a problem too. In the beginning he was very happy with basic things like roast beef and potatoes or chicken with lots of seasoning (and strangely enough, he actually does like veggies! lol)or a few dishes that he showed me from his childhood (that are not super healthy, but better than nothing). But these days even when I make those, half of the leftovers go to waste because he decides he'd just rather have toast or popcorn or whatever instead. I freeze what I can, but not everything freezes that well. We're on a budget and I'm very concerned about all the food that gets thrown out. I try to make food that I can eat too, but I'm on a restricted diet, so much of the food I make for him has to be eaten by him.
Then every now and then he magically gets really hungry (around 9 or 10pm) and wants some grand meal. I have no way of preparing for it! In fact some days I just don't cook because I don't know whether he'll be hungry and I don't want to waste more food. We've even come to a point where we made a list of recipes that he's always loved. But he rarely wants any of even those anymore.
So, basically I feel like a bad wife when it comes to cooking. When I do cook, he doesn't want it and it goes to waste. When I don't cook he is suddenly hungry and I haven't properly taken care of him. I can't win! I've talked to him about it and he knows it's a problem. But he has no idea what to do. Even the dishes that used to be "surefire" no longer do it for him.
I'm extra frustrated right now because I'm really sick, and exhausted, and just don't have the energy to fight this battle. Can anyone suggest anything that might help?
This has been an ongoing struggle for me since we got married two and half years ago. But lately it's gotten to a point that I just don't know what to do.
My husband is a finicky eater and doesn't like to eat very often. Once a day (very late dinner) is what he considers to be plenty. Even that is a challenge sometimes. I've managed to get him into the habit of eating lunch at work and found a few things he'll actually eat. It also helps that others are eating and he can smell their food. So that makes him want something. But when he's home, it's impossible to get him to eat lunch (and forget breakfast!). Even when I cook for myself the smell doesn't entice him.
But now, dinner is becoming a problem too. In the beginning he was very happy with basic things like roast beef and potatoes or chicken with lots of seasoning (and strangely enough, he actually does like veggies! lol)or a few dishes that he showed me from his childhood (that are not super healthy, but better than nothing). But these days even when I make those, half of the leftovers go to waste because he decides he'd just rather have toast or popcorn or whatever instead. I freeze what I can, but not everything freezes that well. We're on a budget and I'm very concerned about all the food that gets thrown out. I try to make food that I can eat too, but I'm on a restricted diet, so much of the food I make for him has to be eaten by him.
Then every now and then he magically gets really hungry (around 9 or 10pm) and wants some grand meal. I have no way of preparing for it! In fact some days I just don't cook because I don't know whether he'll be hungry and I don't want to waste more food. We've even come to a point where we made a list of recipes that he's always loved. But he rarely wants any of even those anymore.
So, basically I feel like a bad wife when it comes to cooking. When I do cook, he doesn't want it and it goes to waste. When I don't cook he is suddenly hungry and I haven't properly taken care of him. I can't win! I've talked to him about it and he knows it's a problem. But he has no idea what to do. Even the dishes that used to be "surefire" no longer do it for him.
I'm extra frustrated right now because I'm really sick, and exhausted, and just don't have the energy to fight this battle. Can anyone suggest anything that might help?