Advice from the guys

[Hackett]

My husband was out of work for 3 years when in March he got a job that was not in his actual profession but which he was glad for. After 6 months he was laid off again. He had an interview yesterday (the first since being laid off in Aug) He is thinking about not taking the job because it is not actually in his field. He is waiting for me to tell him to take the job. I don't know if he has lost his confidence and is fearful of being laid off again. Any advice would be appreciated. Thanks

 

[Autumnleaf]

Tell him to take the job or find a better one before his opportunity for this one passes.

 

[4jacks]

I was unemployeed an turned down job offers..

I guess it depends on whether or not you are trusting in the lord for your finiancial security or not.

Could go either way, depends on whether or not he feels lead to take the job or not.

 

[Hackett]

Thanks. I sense that he is afraid of failure but won't say that. I don't want to tell him to take the job and then have him resent me for having encouraged him to if it does not work out.

 

[revjayman]

You have to take a look are your finances are pray as a couple for what would be the best as a family.
If the job takes time away from your family, I would wait for something to come along.

Finding the right job that you really enjoy is not a easier task. I have been fortunate enough that I have waiting on the Lord and prayed and I doing a job I really enjoy, which makes a difference for my kids and my wife. For every $10,000 of income it will take a month, so if he is looking for a $90,000 a year job, it will take about 9 months.
He needs to pick out his target market, and area of exerptise and start sending resumes out. That way he can get feel what what he enjoys.

Good is God and will always come through on the 11th hour.

 

[InTheFlame]

Hackett... if he gets laid off again, he's got another 6 months (or however long) of work on his resume and the same length of time's worth of pay in the bank. Good things, right? Can't he take the job and keep looking for work IN his field? Isn't having a job, no matter how short-lived, going to be better for his self-esteem than not having one at all?

Don't TELL him to do anything. Give him your opinion, let him make the decision, and (if necessary) let him know that he'll need to stand by his decision - ie no whingeing that you 'forced' him into it by giving your opinion.

 

[NiteClerk]

I agree with InTheFlame. Also it seems that HR likes to hire people who are already employed. The attitude is that if they are unemployed, there must be something wrong with them.

Best of luck.

Pax;

BoB

 

[Svt4Him]

Personally I think someone may be being presumptuous to wait for the perfect job while smaller windows are opening. If you 're not faithful in the little, why would you get a lot?

I would encourage him to take it but make him know that whatever happens with the new job you believe in him and respect him, and will stand behind him as he waits for the perfect job.

 

[TheMilkman]

I just got laid off today. Well not actually laid of, but I got moved to a position that I couldn't do so I had no choice but to quit. Anyway, he very well could have lost his confidence. I am unbarably depressed over the situation and I have lost all self esteem.

Please try your best to be encouraging. Maybe he has a support network, but I don't and it's a crushing blow to me that I can't seem to get back up from.

 

[NiteClerk]

Sorry to hear that MilkMan. It sounds like they wanted to fire you without paying unemployment. But I do believe that when God closes a door he opens a window. And maybe this will turn out to be your window of opportunity.

Best of luck & our prayers are with you.

Pax;

BoB

I just got laid today. Well not actually laid of, but I got moved to a position that I couldn't do so I had no choice but to quit.

 

[HeyHomie]

Remember that a man's sense of well-being and accomplishment, nay his very sense of manhood, comes from his accomplishments at work. If he's not happy at work, and/or not being able to provide for his family, then he's probably being eaten away by conflict.

 

[TheMilkman]

Sorry to hear that MilkMan. It sounds like they wanted to fire you without paying unemployment. But I do believe that when God closes a door he opens a window. And maybe this will turn out to be your window of opportunity.

Best of luck & our prayers are with you.

Pax;

BoB

Nah it wasn't that. It was because the lady who had the position quit due to all the stress and abuse. Then there was only me and one other day that could slightly handle the job.