Advice for New Ministry Wives

[Valerita]

Hello all.

I was wondering if any of you had advice for new Ministry Wives. I'll be marrying a worship pastor, and I would love to hear what you all have to say about it.

 

[piano mom]

I have been the wife of a music pastor for 14 years now. You posted this is May, so are you married now? The fact that you are seeking advice shows that you have a teachable spirit.(a very admirable quality in a wife of a music minister.) What kind of advice are you seeking. Advice really is broad unless you know the responsibilities your husband has, and if you have musical talent as well. Do you minister to your church through this area as well? If you have specific questions, I would be happy to share what has helped me.

 

[drjean]

I'm not longer a minister's wife... but was 26 years. There is so much to share... but I think for the wife just starting out... make sure your husband sets the rules with the church as to how much they should (or should not) expect from you. Depending upon the size of the church, they may expect to get your help "free" like a packaged deal when they only pay him. It will be tough enough "just" being a minister's wife...don't take on any additional roles, please, for a while. Once you both fully agree with and understand how the church respects you, then you might wish to... there are many reasons behind limiting what you do in the church...but you don't need to hear the downsides at such a happy time!