I don't even know where to post this really..reading replies it seems you all may have some advice.
How do you deal with someone who isn't being sincere in their apologies and even forgiveness?
(A Christian)..
It is a long thing I won't get too into.
Me and my sister were very close.
Something happened that was not in my control and she has blamed me for it and made even weirder excuses to hold onto anger and be mad at me for.
I have apologized.
When she needed my help..she seemed able to let it go though...but now she is back tracking...
It only came to light when I asked confronted her about the way she treated me on an outing because it was downright rude. I knew something had been off....
We didn't have the best relationship in the past but had made a good effort and I thought it was different now.
I really just dont know how to explain it all. I'm just hurt. I guess. I really thought she respected and cared about me enough to not do this.
I don't trust easily. I'm very much a introvert so I don't really have friends.
I'm trying to go about it without being too mad myself...and I'm trying to behave like a Christian. But all I can think now is "she's fake, she's fake. She's lieing.".....
I thought I could be ok with hanging out with her and her behaving this way..but it just hurts. I feel like I mean nothing to her.
I should add.. in the past shed go through these phases where her and our mom would get into fights/arguments. Shed then bring me into it.. and we wouldn't talk for a good while.. then shed apologize to me.
The last time she did this to me though was like 4 years ago.
So this issue now is just a bit surprising to me.
(And no fight is going on between her and our mom currently)..
How do you deal with someone who isn't being sincere in their apologies and even forgiveness?
(A Christian)..
It is a long thing I won't get too into.
Me and my sister were very close.
Something happened that was not in my control and she has blamed me for it and made even weirder excuses to hold onto anger and be mad at me for.
I have apologized.
When she needed my help..she seemed able to let it go though...but now she is back tracking...
It only came to light when I asked confronted her about the way she treated me on an outing because it was downright rude. I knew something had been off....
We didn't have the best relationship in the past but had made a good effort and I thought it was different now.
I really just dont know how to explain it all. I'm just hurt. I guess. I really thought she respected and cared about me enough to not do this.
I don't trust easily. I'm very much a introvert so I don't really have friends.
I'm trying to go about it without being too mad myself...and I'm trying to behave like a Christian. But all I can think now is "she's fake, she's fake. She's lieing.".....
I thought I could be ok with hanging out with her and her behaving this way..but it just hurts. I feel like I mean nothing to her.
I should add.. in the past shed go through these phases where her and our mom would get into fights/arguments. Shed then bring me into it.. and we wouldn't talk for a good while.. then shed apologize to me.
The last time she did this to me though was like 4 years ago.
So this issue now is just a bit surprising to me.
(And no fight is going on between her and our mom currently)..