Advice? And maybe some encouragement?

[jenptcfan]

Is there any other way you can contact her besides going to her church and hunting her down? I just feel that that's not what church is supposed to be about. It would be different if you just happened to meet someone at your current church and start up a relationship, but going to a church specifically to stage a "chance" encounter with a member of the opposite sex would bother me. You mentioned that your grandmother has a picture of the girl up. Why? Is she a family friend? If she's is a family friend, why can't you have Grandma invite her over while you're going to be at Grandma's house or something? It seems like that might be more natural. I don't know.

Another thing that raised a red flag for me was that you've said you want to just start seeing about being friends with her and not jump into a relationship, but you said you're planning on taking her to a Japanese food place where the chef can make a flaming heart. Friends don't plan flaming hearts for eachother . You really might want to plan on something neutral or have a couple of different choices in mind and ask her which she would prefer.

Again, I'm not trying to discourage you or anything like that. I just wanted to bring my perspective in. I don't want you to have this girl say yes to you and then inadvertantly scare her off by something you don't even realize you're doing.

Wishing you the best,
J

 

[looksgood]

LOL, I always believed in prayer. That is why I pray so much over it. It is not realy an obsetion because I had at one time already thought nothing would come of it. And I got used to that. It isn't like I am tring to think of her all the time. To tell the truth I am really just going about my life. But I do have moments where my mind drifts and I think of her. Not all the live long day, just every now and then. Kinda like a default screen saver. When ya got nothing to think about or do it pops on lol.

It just so happens that this is something that has come up and I feel I should do something about it. The reason I set a time for myself to do it is because I know if I didn't I would let too much time go by.

Going to the church is not only to meet her.

Oh and if you have any other thoughts on where to go please tell me. Cause in all truth I just want to get to know her as a friend before I even deside if I would like more. And I redone the quote you posted. It did seem a bit pushy didn't it lol. It was not really like that. Cause to tell the truth my timing is not set. May not even be this month.

 

[jenptcfan]

I think that just going out to have coffee or dessert is a cool idea. That way your initial time together will be brief enough so that if you can tell that you two are on totally different wave lengths, it won't last as long. But if both of you see you have common interests, you can look forward to getting together again.

Those are my ideas. Let us know how it turns out.

 

[looksgood]

Another thing that raised a red flag for me was that you've said you want to just start seeing about being friends with her and not jump into a relationship, but you said you're planning on taking her to a Japanese food place where the chef can make a flaming heart. Friends don't plan flaming hearts for eachother .

Oh and she was a friend back then. But like I said, I want to get to know her again. I wanted to ask her out back then but I was far too shy. But that flaming heart thing was just a nice touch I thought. Cause it is his way of doing it. Though I believe it is a common thing in japanes resturaunts cause I seen it in other places.

I am just a very romantic guy. But given that we were already friends and I wanted to ask her out before I don't know exactly if this is a "simple get to know you as a friend" or a "get to know you as a friend and maybe more" kinda thing.

 

[looksgood]

I think that just going out to have coffee or dessert is a cool idea. That way your initial time together will be brief enough so that if you can tell that you two are on totally different wave lengths, it won't last as long. But if both of you see you have common interests, you can look forward to getting together again.

Those are my ideas. Let us know how it turns out.

Hmmm...thats not a bad idea. I am just so totaly new at all this that I don't have a clue what to do lol. I don't want to go to a movie cause that would leave no room for talk.

LOL, actualy I think I just had a nice idea. LOL yes I think I will do that.
*plots secretly* lol.

 

[Mr.Cheese]

Pushed her out of your mind. Looks like she's still there to me.
That's ok. Same thing happened to me.

 

[looksgood]

Pushed her out of your mind. Looks like she's still there to me.
That's ok. Same thing happened to me.

LOL, yeah it's like an old tune you think you got out of your head, then you hear it again and again and again lol.

I am still open to the possability God may have another woman planed for me. But till I know for sure I will follow what is in front of me.

 

[looksgood]

I know it may seem like I am obsesing about this, but that is cause this is a forum and this thread is devoted to this anyway. If ya look into the deeper fellowship you will see other topics than this lol. Just to show that this isn't all that is on my mind.

But I wanted to make a comment about this girl. She did something one day that really stuck out in my mind and I never forgot it. They say you get a real feel for who someone is by watching them interact with others and service.

Well one time she did something. She got on her hands and knees with no anger, or even hesitation and cleaned a mess that had been made beside me. I offered to clean it (it was my fault after all and she knew it), but she said no it was alright, she would get it. And she went about it with joy. It showed me she was willing to serve in love. It really impressed me. I stood there looking at this amazing display of service. I have never forgoten that.

Oh and just so you know I got down and helped anyway lol. I was willing to serve in the same way. But I will never forget that.