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Do you love your child? cause you don't sound like you do. I encourage you to think long and hard about that child, she's part of you and your responsibility is to love and provide for her regardless of what is going on between your ex and you. I'm sure your child's mother will not cut off all communication with you if you offered some financial help, you can't force her to marry you if she doesn't want to, God bless

im unable to feel natural affections, I have a brain injury which means i cant feel emotions and I have numbness of skin, so when people touch me it feels unpleasant, so I cant bond physically
 
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im unable to feel natural affections, I have a brain injury which means i cant feel emotions and I have numbness of skin, so when people touch me it feels unpleasant, so I cant bond physically
How were you able to create a child if physical touch is unpleasant?
 
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I agree in the sense that if she renews her mind via the word and has a forgiving spirit, and recognises the work im doing to change my patterns, and see's that God is a God of restoration then some kind of reconciliation is inevitable
I am a little stunned that you are pointing out where you feel she needs to get right with God, while you fathered a child with her, and are now considering abandoning your kid.

Could you write to her? You do have an obligation to take care of and be there for this child, Ben. She's your daughter, your kid. If the mother has cut off communication, would you be able to get a letter to her? Would you be willing to be a dad, and try to be a better man? If the mother sees you be a better man, step up to the plate, and make an effort to be a good dad, what ever she needs to work on may come to fruition, too. Maybe you guys could even marry, and be husband and wife. That would be ideal, and the best outcome, but you are going to have to work on this, pray for her, pray for yourself, and give this time.
 
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How were you able to create a child if physical touch is unpleasant?

our child was concieved september 2020, this brain injury was incurred in october 2020 and became progressively worse
 
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I am so sorry to hear of your difficulties Ben. Are you under medical care for your condition? Brain injuries are usually permanent and incurable. Is that your case?
 
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I am so sorry to hear of your difficulties Ben. Are you under medical care for your condition? Brain injuries are usually permanent and incurable. Is that your case?

yes it is incurable, my only hope is the healing oil of the holy spirit
 
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Amen on healing by power of the Holy Spirit. Ben, it sounds like you should be considering what is called social security disability in the United States, so that you can meet your needs for food and shelter, and help care for this child at least financially. You are in a truly tough spot - a rock and a hard place. We need to be understanding that you can only do so much with brain damage, and believers need to pray for you. I will certainly do so, and if you want more help out of the limelight, visit our Ask A Chaplain forum where Dr. Steve or I can help you further and you will be anonymous. I know you have made many mistakes, but I support you for confessing your sins, asking for Christian guidance, and trying to do the right thing when the deck seems totally stacked against you. But you need to get yourself right or at least in a better place first, so you can then hopefully with the help of the Lord, take care of your child.

Please seek government assistance for your situation - medically, mentally, financially, and to meet the responsibilities of being a parent as best you can. I will continue to pray for you to receive the Lord's assistance and guidance in all these matters. May the Lord be with you.
 
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It sounds like it has been an overwhelming situation for you. I am glad you are working through your 'abuse' issues.
Ask the Father to help you to go love and see your baby. Ask the Father to help you become the family he desires you to be. Pray for your partner to receive salvation.
Remember how much the Father loves you, rescued you an adopted you as a son, a child into the Kingdom.
I'm gonna pray for you. I don't think you need a lecture or judgement.
God can change this situation around!!
 
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Amen on healing by power of the Holy Spirit. Ben, it sounds like you should be considering what is called social security disability in the United States, so that you can meet your needs for food and shelter, and help care for this child at least financially. You are in a truly tough spot - a rock and a hard place. We need to be understanding that you can only do so much with brain damage, and believers need to pray for you. I will certainly do so, and if you want more help out of the limelight, visit our Ask A Chaplain forum where Dr. Steve or I can help you further and you will be anonymous. I know you have made many mistakes, but I support you for confessing your sins, asking for Christian guidance, and trying to do the right thing when the deck seems totally stacked against you. But you need to get yourself right or at least in a better place first, so you can then hopefully with the help of the Lord, take care of your child.

Please seek government assistance for your situation - medically, mentally, financially, and to meet the responsibilities of being a parent as best you can. I will continue to pray for you to receive the Lord's assistance and guidance in all these matters. May the Lord be with you.

how can I go about recieving more help from you?
 
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