How can you say this, and then say what you say when it is completely out of context?
Predestination is always spoken of in the scriptures after the point of salvation, and tells us what the "goal" is. Period!
"As the English verb suggests, this word (
proorizo) simply means to direct a person to a particular goal.
Paul spells out the goal: “to be conformed to the likeness of his Son.”
The last stage of Christian existence is to be “conformed” to Christ’s own glorious body (see Phil. 3:21). God enters into relationship with us so that we may attain that goal."
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See also: "The NIV Application Commentary, Romans, Douglas Moo, Romans 8:18-30, God's Provision for Our Time of Waiting
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(6) Verse 29 indicates God’s immediate purpose for us. God’s purpose for choosing us
and the goal of the program He has predestined is our conformity to the image of Jesus Christ: “to be conformed to the image of His Son.” This goal is also stated in Paul’s Epistle to the Ephesians:
And He gave some as apostles, and some as prophets, and some as evangelists, and some as pastors and teachers, for the equipping of the saints for the work of service, to the building up of the body of Christ; until we all attain to the unity of the faith, and of the knowledge of the Son of God, to a mature man, to the measure of the stature of which belongs to the fulness of Christ (Ephesians 4:11-13).
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Shall I go on?
Context/events?
You want to take the word completely out of context, and use it to justify your beliefs.
I admit, Paul uses the word 3x in the New Testament, but it is always, always used "in context" to a certain group of people who were
already saved!
It's never used in the future tense. Given its used here, 3rd person, singular, aor. act, indic. the rule of Greek is:
"Mark it down, as its name suggests, the kind of action indicated by the aorist tense is
undefined. Inasmuch as there is no definition of the kind of action,
the emphasis is upon the fact of the action rather than the duration of the action. In the indicative mood, the significance is that it happened. Whether it happened over a period of time or in an instant is not indicated."
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In Romans 8:29 all it signifies is that a certain point in time, you will be "conformed to the image of the Son".
In Eph. 1:5, the usage in the past tense saying that after the point of salvation you were "adopted".
In Eph. 1:11, the usage is in the past tense, as a group, they were granted an "inheritance" after the point of salvation.
John Gill comments:
"The
predestination of these persons to
be conformed to the image of Christ, is not a fore-appointment of them to be like him in sufferings: for though the saints are appointed unto sufferings, and sufferings or afflictions are appointed them; and though there is some likeness between Christ the head and the members of his body in suffering; yet this cannot be intended here: since the image of Christ, to which they are predestinated to be conformed, always designs something great and glorious, and not mean and abject; it is
the image of the heavenly, in opposition to the
image of the earthly; and is no other than
the glory of the Lord, into which the saints are changed from glory to glory, even as by the Spirit of the Lord (1 Cor. 15:47; 2 Cor. 3:18). Besides, Christ is never said to be
the first-born with respect to afflictions, but with respect to preeminence, honor, and glory (see Ps. 89:28; Col. 1:18; Rev. 1:5). This conformity to the image of Christ, to which they are predestinated who are loved by God, seems rather to be a spiritual likeness to Christ, which is begun in this world upon believers, and will be finished in the other; when they
shall he like him both in soul and body, as perfectly as they will be capable of; when the great ends of predestinating grace will be fully answered upon them; or rather, particularly, this conformity is to be understood of a likeness to the filiation of Christ, or a likeness to the image of Christ as the Son of God; for though the saints are not in the same class of sonship with Christ, yet their, sonship bears some resemblance to his; as he is the Son of God by nature, they are the sons of God by grace; as he is the dear Son of God, they are the dear children of God; as he is the first-born among many brethren, they are the first-born with respect to the angels; and as he has an inheritance, being heir of all things, so have they, being heirs of God,. And joint-heirs with Christ;. which likeness of sonship will more fully appear hereafter; for though now are we the sons of God, it doth not yet appear what we shall be: but we know that when he shall appear, we shall be like him; for we shall see him as he is (1 John 3:2). This sense of the words is strengthened by a parallel place (Eph. 1:5),
Having predestinated us to the adoption of children by Jesus Christ to himself,
according to the good pleasure of his will. Besides, it is owned,
[4] that "according to the received interpretation of the
ancient Fathers, the import of these words is this; that whom God foreknew, he predetermined to render conformable to the image of his Son, that is, to be like him in glory:" or as in another place
[5] "he predestinated, or fore-appointed them to be conformed to the image of his Son, their elder brother; that is, to be
sons of God and joint-heirs with Christ; and the
[6] author I am concerned with, after he had considered the text in every light: "conceives the sense of it to be this; those whom he hath so foreknown as to make them
his elect, and
peculiar people; for them he hath designed the choicest blessings, even the adoption of sons, and their being co-heirs with Christ."
[4] Whitby, p. 63; ed. 2.62.
[5] Ibid. p. 448; ed. 2.436.
[6] Ibid. p. 449; ed. 2.437."
The Cause of God and Truth, John Gill, Part 2, Chapter 2, Of Election, Section 8, Romans 8:29,30
Looking at the usage, the context, and to whom Paul was addressing, your theology falls apart.
Sorry.
Now if you want to talk "election", that is a whole different matter. That is spoken of throughout scripture. But as far as "predestinate" is concerned, context demands that you address the only scriptures that use the word and there, your limited to only 3 instances.
Sorry.
God Bless
Till all are one.