So I have this friend who has problems not thinking before she opens her mouth...like ALL the time. I will sometimes on a rare basis confront her when she's said something snarky to me but lately Ive been really annoyed with the way she talks to people when we go somewhere. Like her tone of voice and just stuff she says or doesn't say like "thank you" really gets to me because its flat out rude. Even the lofty way she looks at people who work at places. Like when we were at lunch the wator was asking her what thing she wanted on the side and her reply of "I don't care whatever!" made me want to (sorry not Christlike but ) smack her. Its the WAY she looks at them and her tone that makes it really rude. I usually keep quiet and try to be polite to cashiers, waitors, and even strangers in the store when Im with her almost like Im making up for her rudeness. I cant take it anymore though. My friend professes to be a Christian but she definitely doesn't ask like it when we go out. Anyways how do you guys think I should confront her about this? Its really embarrassing and working at my job I know how it feels to have people act like your trash for trying to help them.
So I have this friend who has problems not thinking before she opens her mouth...like ALL the time. I will sometimes on a rare basis confront her when she's said something snarky to me but lately Ive been really annoyed with the way she talks to people when we go somewhere. Like her tone of voice and just stuff she says or doesn't say like "thank you" really gets to me because its flat out rude. Even the lofty way she looks at people who work at places. Like when we were at lunch the wator was asking her what thing she wanted on the side and her reply of "I don't care whatever!" made me want to (sorry not Christlike but ) smack her. Its the WAY she looks at them and her tone that makes it really rude. I usually keep quiet and try to be polite to cashiers, waitors, and even strangers in the store when Im with her almost like Im making up for her rudeness. I cant take it anymore though. My friend professes to be a Christian but she definitely doesn't ask like it when we go out. Anyways how do you guys think I should confront her about this? Its really embarrassing and working at my job I know how it feels to have people act like your trash for trying to help them.
Rude people ARE socially disabled. Being kind is something they can learn.
It sounds like she might be a little more narcissistic than average, and sometimes that is a physical brain phenomenon that people didn't cause by themselves. That doesn't mean you should play into the behavior, but look at it more from a distance, less personally.