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A Real Man Is...

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Actually :), this is not all that terribly different from my own moral philosophy. On my view, moral goodness, which is that goodness attributable to ourselves as rational agents, consists in the degree to which we actualize our potential to be true persons. This true personhood is the ideally virtuous human nature. So we are true persons to the degree that we possess (or actualize) the ideally virtuous human nature.

Yep.

Perhaps where we would diverge (correct me if I'm wrong) is that I would say that this (ideal) human nature, to what degree it is manifested, is an objective part of our ontological constitution. It objectively makes us to be what we are insofar as we are actual persons, regardless of whether or not we happen to recognize it or like it.

We do not diverge here. The only reason I talk about cultural relativism is that our objective potentials have to have some cultural expression. An analogy might be that skill in language (which is to say, communicating skillfully with others) is something we have potentially, but it must actualize as a skill in some particular language or languages. Similarly, the "language" of morality is not fixed, but the natural standard that justifies any morality is the same.

Thus, assuming our cognitive faculties are functioning properly, we can analyze however it is we happen to be and determine, from a rational perspective, whether or not that is how we ought to be, regardless of whether or not we happen to like our present condition.

Yes, we are on the same page.

I should try to cultivate the virtue of courage, not in order to accomplish some other (self-serving) goal, but in order to be an objectively better (more actualized) person.

I'm not sure what you mean by "self-serving" here. I would argue that self-actualization is self-serving, but in an entirely noble sense. Ethical action isn't the pursuit of just any desire, but of right desire -- those desires that are in one's best interests because they actualize one's potentialities in an integrated and harmonious way.


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Mark. Drawing an analogy between human and plant flourishing. Different plants need different conditions to thrive. Is there such a thing as a 'rational cactus' and if so is it (and the ecological conditions promoting it) a second rate option in some sense? *smiles*

It's not a second rate option for its own species, if such a species were to exist and rationality were an essential aspect of its ability to thrive.

If, OTOH, the cactus was rationally aware, but couldn't do anything other than just sit there, it might ask you to end its existence. (Cue Twilight Zone music...)


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Can you at least justify it? It seems to be a colloquialism, not grounded in philosophical rhetoric.

It's certainly a colloquialism.

I'm taking "real" to mean something like "authentic". Perhaps a "real man" is something like gold as compared to fool's gold.


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It's certainly a colloquialism.

I'm taking "real" to mean something like "authentic". Perhaps a "real man" is something like gold as compared to fool's gold.


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Yes, the phrase "real man" 100% colloquial. It is also still philosophical in that it is studying fundamental problems with the associated "reality," values and virtues of the man.

I like your analogies, and Crandaddy's analysis. I wouldn't say (at least in my own analogy) that it is real gold vs. fools gold, since they are not the same thing. I would compare it to something like graphite vs. diamond, since both are elemental carbon. Just to be on the safe side, since there has been so much focus on "real vs fake," which is not the point of the thread.

A "real"/good/actualized man can IMO be considered something like diamond (with all of its connotations - hard[est], shiniest, precious, dense, actualization of elemental carbon, etc.) A non-actualized/non-good/"little boy of a man" (in mentality especially) can be compared to the brittle and dull graphite (with all of its connotations.)

Both are elemental carbon (as both real man and boy/non-actualized man are actual anatomical male.) However, you cannot say a "real" man is the same quality as a boy in a man's body (even though both are males,) just as you cannot say a diamond is the same quality as pencil lead. You wouldn't call an immature, incredulous and [insert unsavory attribute here] male a "real" man (with its connotations,) the same way you wouldn't call pencil lead a diamond, even though both examples are the same respective species.


I do think a good point is that I never said a "real" man is a perfect man. I think the example Crandaddy gave of a male redeeming himself, or a male that recognizes his faults and actively tries to work on them is just as much of a "real" man as the proverbial saint.
 
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I don't mean that.

You actualize your humanity, but success at that happens to be good and beautiful, not Orclike.

You really do mean that. You have no bearing for the word "actualization" without talking about "good", the two are so entwined you can't even seem to talk about one without mentioning the other in support.

Goodness is not incidental to "actualization", they are synonymous.

You are being pedantically literal. Terms don't have to be coined with philosophical completeness. For instance, the term "necessary evil" does not mean that evil is necessary, but that an evil is tied to a necessary good.

Yes, it actually means that the evil is necessary, when tied to a good that you want. That second part is implied.

This discussion we are having about "real" men is just a discussion about "good" men with a lot of extravagant and unnecessary wording that doesn't add to our understanding.

I am not going to argue over word choice in the term "real man".

And yet you already are!

Saying you don't have to be careful with your word choice in a philosophical discussion is a bit like arguing that number choice is unimportant to how math works out. ;)

I am not saying I do not understand what you mean by "real man" I am saying that to use such a term and enforcing it's colloquial meaning automatically clouds the discussion, and we should at least talk about why we say such things that are not really what we are talking about as such (which I have already accomplished).

This entire discussion is BASED around the problem of weeding out that extra layer of what people mean when people SAY "real man".

I simply skipped to the end of the discussion by bringing this up and suggesting that we talk about goodness instead of realness.
 
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I'm not sure what you mean by "self-serving" here. I would argue that self-actualization is self-serving, but in an entirely noble sense. Ethical action isn't the pursuit of just any desire, but of right desire -- those desires that are in one's best interests because they actualize one's potentialities in an integrated and harmonious way.


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By "self-serving," I mean volitional action undertaken in order to satisfy one's own desires however they happen to be, whether noble or ignoble--hedonistic pursuit of pleasure and avoidance of pain, basically.

But yes, I can see how pursuit of moral virtue might be thought of as self-serving in a broader sense, viz. in the sense that it is good for us. So if we're conducting ourselves virtuously, I suppose we might be serving our own interests insofar as we're choosing to be objectively better persons than we would have been had we chosen to pursue vicious desires instead.

Of course, this might come at a terrible cost. A soldier in battle might fall on top of a grenade in order to save the lives of his comrades, and in so doing, he might be serving his own interest insofar as he's choosing the more virtuous course of action than running away and perhaps saving his own life. But ironically, it would be by placing himself in a position that will almost certainly result in his own death that he would be serving his own interests. I don't deny that he would be choosing the more virtuous course of action by falling on the grenade, but it seems to me rather odd to call this choice of action "self-serving."

Anyway, this is a minor quibble. It seems we're basically in agreement.

variant,

Pardon my curiosity, but what do you think moral goodness is? Do you think it ultimately boils down to our subjective likes and dislikes, or do you think it's grounded in something more objective, something outside our subjective selves, perhaps something that imposes a normative standard upon our moral dispositions?

I don't mean to be prodding, but since Mark and I seem to be more or less in agreement and since you seem to be adamant that goodness has no bearing at all upon the reality or actuality of manhood or personhood, I'd just like to get a more constructive sense of where you're coming from.

For my own part (I'll let Mark speak for himself), I would say, first of all, that manhood (or humanity more generally) and personhood are distinct. While it might be the case that every human being exhibits some degree of personhood, it needn't be the case that every person be human (perhaps there might be non-human extraterrestrial persons, for example).

But more to the point, I would say that neither of these properties need be exhibited in an all-or-nothing, fully present or fully absent manner. Rather, they may be exhibited in degrees of perfection.

Say, for example, that you have two men: one a fine physical specimen of a man, physically fit, in excellent physical health, extremely intelligent, but a ruthless tyrant who delights in the suffering of others; the other in poor physical health, suffering from a crippling congenital birth defect, not especially bright, but extremely kind-hearted and compassionate and always putting the needs of others before his own.

I would say that each of these individuals exhibits the properties of manhood and personhood, but each exhibits them very differently from the other. The former, the tyrant, exhibits the biological and physiological attributes of manhood more excellently (i.e. to a greater degree of perfection) than the latter, the kind-hearted cripple. However, the kind-hearted cripple exhibits the greater perfection of personhood (manhood and personhood are both perfective attributes, but not all perfective attributes are on a par) more excellently than the tyrant. So, while both of these men exhibit personhood, we call the kind-hearted cripple the better person because he exhibits the perfection of personhood more excellently than the tyrant.
 
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By "self-serving," I mean volitional action undertaken in order to satisfy one's own desires however they happen to be, whether noble or ignoble--hedonistic pursuit of pleasure and avoidance of pain, basically.

Thanks for the clarification.

But yes, I can see how pursuit of moral virtue might be thought of as self-serving in a broader sense, viz. in the sense that it is good for us.

Yes, precisely my point.

Of course, this might come at a terrible cost. A soldier in battle might fall on top of a grenade in order to save the lives of his comrades, and in so doing, he might be serving his own interest insofar as he's choosing the more virtuous course of action than running away and perhaps saving his own life.

Indeed, and I see this as potentially serving his interests. As I see it, it is the quality, not the quantity, of life that matters most to a person's flourishing.

I don't deny that he would be choosing the more virtuous course of action by falling on the grenade, but it seems to me rather odd to call this choice of action "self-serving."

It seemed odd to me at first, but no longer.

Anyway, this is a minor quibble. It seems we're basically in agreement.

Yes, indeed we are.


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You have no bearing for the word "actualization" without talking about "good", the two are so entwined you can't even seem to talk about one without mentioning the other in support.

They are philosophically related concepts, but not identical with each other. I'll grant that in my meta-ethics they are deeply "entwined" when discussing living entities.

Goodness is not incidental to "actualization", they are synonymous.

If you like, we can treat them that way for now.

Yes, it actually means that the evil is necessary, when tied to a good that you want. That second part is implied.

Note the bold above. I was saying that the term could be misunderstood to mean that an evil can be necessary even when not tied to a good. That's the problem of being overly literal about such terms.

This discussion we are having about "real" men is just a discussion about "good" men with a lot of extravagant and unnecessary wording that doesn't add to our understanding.

You are very picky about words!

Saying you don't have to be careful with your word choice in a philosophical discussion is a bit like arguing that number choice is unimportant to how math works out. ;)

We're discussing colloquialisms.

I am not saying I do not understand what you mean by "real man" I am saying that to use such a term and enforcing it's colloquial meaning automatically clouds the discussion, and we should at least talk about why we say such things that are not really what we are talking about as such (which I have already accomplished).

Do you have something against a colloquialism as long as one recognizes that it is a colloqualism? I'm not trying to cloud the issue, but rather to raise needed distinctions and contexts.


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variant,

Pardon my curiosity, but what do you think moral goodness is? Do you think it ultimately boils down to our subjective likes and dislikes, or do you think it's grounded in something more objective, something outside our subjective selves, perhaps something that imposes a normative standard upon our moral dispositions?

I don't mean to be prodding, but since Mark and I seem to be more or less in agreement and since you seem to be adamant that goodness has no bearing at all upon the reality or actuality of manhood or personhood, I'd just like to get a more constructive sense of where you're coming from.
It seems to me that this question (as interesting as it may be) is completely besides variant´s point.
He merely takes issue with a terminology that deliberately accepts and invites an unneccessary risk of false equivocation. We have plenty of terms to signify positivity (good, actualized, self-actualized, virtuous, excellent, fine, perfect - just to pick some of those that have been used in recent posts) - there is absolutely no need to introduce a doubtful colloquialism into the philosophical discussion. Poorly performing men, men short of excellence, men who are not virtuous (no matter by which standards the person speaking judges, and no matter whether the standard is supposedly objective or subjective) do exist: they are real. You are free to judge persons, but imo you are not free to define them out of existence. ;)

On a side note: There has always been a similar problem with the term "natural" whenever it is not used as "occuring in nature" but as a colloquialism chosen mainly for its positive connotation.

As for your actual question: I´m always a little baffled when the only alternative to objective morality someone can think of is hedonism or instant gratification ("likes and dislikes"). I find it a little odd that to someone like yourself - who apparently is well versed in philosophy - it needs to be explained that a person can strive for ideals, goals, virtues in a way that are in conflict with his immediate "likes" - even though he may not believe that these virtues, goals, ideals are "objective".





But more to the point, I would say that neither of these properties need be exhibited in an all-or-nothing, fully present or fully absent manner. Rather, they may be exhibited in degrees of perfection.
...and that would be another good reason to let go of the term "real" in this context: "Real" doesn´t allow for degrees (just like "perfect" doesn´t, btw.).

Say, for example, that you have two men: one a fine physical specimen of a man, physically fit, in excellent physical health, extremely intelligent, but a ruthless tyrant who delights in the suffering of others; the other in poor physical health, suffering from a crippling congenital birth defect, not especially bright, but extremely kind-hearted and compassionate and always putting the needs of others before his own.

I would say that each of these individuals exhibits the properties of manhood and personhood, but each exhibits them very differently from the other. The former, the tyrant, exhibits the biological and physiological attributes of manhood more excellently (i.e. to a greater degree of perfection) than the latter, the kind-hearted cripple. However, the kind-hearted cripple exhibits the greater perfection of personhood (manhood and personhood are both perfective attributes, but not all perfective attributes are on a par) more excellently than the tyrant. So, while both of these men exhibit personhood, we call the kind-hearted cripple the better person because he exhibits the perfection of personhood more excellently than the tyrant.
So which of these men is real and which isn´t? ;)
(On a light-hearted sidenote: Geeze, you really have a way with words: "exhibits the perfection of personhood more excellently". While I suspect that "he´s a better man/he´s more excellent" would have said just the same, this monster of a sentence - if dissected carefully - runs you in all sorts of semantics trouble.)

Finally, and only slightly related, I am not sure I find it helpful or useful for any given purpose to judge an entire person. Ymmv.
 
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We're discussing colloquialisms.

We are discussing a specific colloquialism in philosophical context.

It's good to disambiguate why they are used and what the inherent problems in using them are. What they accidentally imply beyond what they attempt to mean, what they represent in the society ect.

Treating them as inherently valid seems a bit off in such a setting.

Do you have something against a colloquialism as long as one recognizes that it is a colloqualism? I'm not trying to cloud the issue, but rather to raise needed distinctions and contexts.

I have a problem with the assumption that ideas behind them are worthwhile and work together simply because they are commonly used without some much needed examination.

Note the bold above. I was saying that the term could be misunderstood to mean that an evil can be necessary even when not tied to a good. That's the problem of being overly literal about such terms.

Right but the terms we were speaking of have problematic meanings that they do intend to mean in my opinion.
 
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We are discussing a specific colloquialism in philosophical context.

It's good to disambiguate why they are used and what the inherent problems in using them are. What they accidentally imply beyond what they attempt to mean, what they represent in the society ect.

I have no objections to this. Carry on.

Treating them as inherently valid seems a bit off in such a setting.

What leads you to think that I treat them as inherently valid?

I have a problem with the assumption that ideas behind them are worthwhile and work together simply because they are commonly used without some much needed examination.

I'm not assuming this. I simply find the term "real man", at least as I understand the intent behind this term, compatible with an Aristotelian perspective, which is influential in the West.


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A real man is one who takes the role of Jesus Christ in a marriage and sacrifices his life to his wife, the Church.

Yea, Christ is the archetypal fully actualized, perfectly real man - in both physical and spiritual way of life.

Of course, many people on this site do not believe He existed, or that He was the [Son of] God, or that He was more than a prophet. So while I 100% agree with you, the majority of those posting on this thread will be deaf to your interpretation of a real man.
 
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Yea, Christ is the archetypal fully actualized, perfectly real man - in both physical and spiritual way of life.

Of course, many people on this site do not believe He existed, or that He was the [Son of] God, or that He was more than a prophet. So while I 100% agree with you, the majority of those posting on this thread will be deaf to your interpretation of a real man.

If these folks are non-Christian, then what a real man is...is the least of their worries.
 
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If these folks are non-Christian, then what a real man is...is the least of their worries.

I agree...

I put this in the open forum instead of a Christian-only forum because I was interested in seeing what non-Christians thought was a real man, in terms of their own morality, virtues, judge of character, and ethics. It has been interesting to see the responses so far. And, it provides insight on the nature of why the world may be the way it is - since this forum is a concentrated microcosm of the world, and people can state their full and uninhibited opinions through the avenue of facelessness.
 
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