Hey guys!
I'm just curious as to what you guys think about my situation and if you could possibly offer any helpful advice.
A really, really close friend of mine has recently decided that he is gay. While this doesnt change my opinion of him at all, I am a little sceptical of his reasonings for deciding to be this way. It's a really long story, but basically, it feels to me that he's basing this very major decision on what other people think. He's often been the brunt of gay jokes and been called such in some form or another. From my view, the reason he gets called thus is simply because he is a nice guy. He cares about people, he's quiet, he's soft spoken and isn't all rough n tumble as all of the other guys in our group of friends. He's a true gentleman in my opinion- he opens doors, if he drives you home, he'll wait til you get inside before driving off, he notices if you're upset about something and the list just goes on and on. To be honest, he does seem a lot happier and more content with life now that he's made this choice. But there are things which make me believe that he is still sitting on the fence. Firstly, the fact that before he made this decision he and I and another mate had been searching for a church to attend and he was really getting into the whole God thing. Now that he's saying he's gay, he's still actually interested in going to church. Which is suprising, but still awesome to me, and he's very eager to try out a new church I've discovered during the week.
I'm confused as well- I don't know how to encourage him in the right direction.
If you guys can think of anything, please let me know!
I'm just curious as to what you guys think about my situation and if you could possibly offer any helpful advice.
A really, really close friend of mine has recently decided that he is gay. While this doesnt change my opinion of him at all, I am a little sceptical of his reasonings for deciding to be this way. It's a really long story, but basically, it feels to me that he's basing this very major decision on what other people think. He's often been the brunt of gay jokes and been called such in some form or another. From my view, the reason he gets called thus is simply because he is a nice guy. He cares about people, he's quiet, he's soft spoken and isn't all rough n tumble as all of the other guys in our group of friends. He's a true gentleman in my opinion- he opens doors, if he drives you home, he'll wait til you get inside before driving off, he notices if you're upset about something and the list just goes on and on. To be honest, he does seem a lot happier and more content with life now that he's made this choice. But there are things which make me believe that he is still sitting on the fence. Firstly, the fact that before he made this decision he and I and another mate had been searching for a church to attend and he was really getting into the whole God thing. Now that he's saying he's gay, he's still actually interested in going to church. Which is suprising, but still awesome to me, and he's very eager to try out a new church I've discovered during the week.
I'm confused as well- I don't know how to encourage him in the right direction.
If you guys can think of anything, please let me know!