I remember how I lost a long time member, mother was one of the charter members of the church, because I taught a short Sunday school class I called Methodism 101. And about half-way through I taught on the subject of sanctification and Christian perfection. His wife had been born and raised a Baptist. She couldn't believe that I was serious about some of the things I mentioned. But, it was at the end of the Sunday school class and we didn't really have time to go into it in detail. So, she asked if I could cover it in more depth the next week. I did, and she found it even more upsetting. She wanted to know if she could come back the next week to share why everything I had said was wrong, and she was going to do so from the Bible. I agree to allow that. Since this was a former EUB congregation and I was former Methodist (for the unitiated the UMC is a merger of two pre-existing denominations the Evangelical United Brethren Church and the Methodist Church) it was suggested that I must be bringing in some heresy from outside the true (EUB) faith to the congregation. So, the following week I simply read from the "Confession of Faith of the Evangelical United Brethern Church" and that is when I was told I had gone too far. For the point that she objected to was stated even more strongly in the EUB documents than in my Methodist language. And they left the church to become active in a Baptist congregation.
Now, to show how it doesn't pay to be the messenger of truth. I understand that now that I am gone they have returned to the church. I wonder if their present pastor knows that it is OK if he preaches on sin, but he isn't supposed to preach or teach on sanctification and Christian perfection, at least not in a United Methodist church?
I could totally see this happening if someone were to start teaching actual UMC doctrine in front of my dad.
In his case, it's a critical lack of discernment over who to listen to. He was raised Catholic and his side of the family are Democrats. My mom's side of the family was Methodist and for all intents and purposes, moderate Republican (the sort that think highly of both Eisenhower and FDR). After marrying my mom, he converted to both, but in a lot of cases like this, you're also dealing with the zealousness of the convert, and the lack of discernment meant that he wasn't careful about who to listen to. The end result: the words of televangelists and AM radio preachers were more important than what was taught at the physical church we actually attended, and the hysterical rantings of pundits took precedence over reasoned viewpoints (over the past 6 years this has gotten even worse, with buying into all sorts of cranks shilling fad diets and snake oil, and parroting back things about survivalism gleaned from doomsday preppers* - normally, none of us ever brought this up, but my sisters have said they get concerned).
*quite literally that we all should be taking archery lessons because we'll need to 'know how to hunt' (the implication, spoken or unspoken, being 'when the impending economic collapse happens'). And he's entertained fantasies about moving into the Appalachians since we were kids. It's all pure romanticism, but the worrying thing is that it's been getting more and more intense lately.
An example of this is precisely why I'm so rabidly opposed to dispensationalism: when we were kids (this was probably around 1995, judging from some of the history I've read on eschatological paranoia), I distinctly remember him telling us one time that the European Union was the Beast of Revelation - since at the time, it had or was very soon to have 7 members - and the Euro was going to be the Mark. I was 10. Of course, that came and went, and now whenever talk about the US Dollar being the
de facto trade currency comes up, it's probably not even half a second before he goes 'well, they say the Mark...', which also - probably not coincidentally - plays into the anti-government/authoritarian tirades he starts on anymore whenever any sort of talk about social responsibility or public backlash over celebrity controversies come up.
My parents also explicitly told me as a kid that they 'were afraid I'd become an atheist because I was smart'. I regularly was put in advanced groups at my elementary school, was admitted to the Gifted program at the end of 2nd grade, followed by passing the tests to get into the advanced math and science Magnet program in middle school, and the International Baccalaureate program in high school.
All of this crazy was only at home, of course, all the while we were ostensibly members of the UMC when we went to church. There were times growing up that I asked what the difference between Methodists and Baptists/Pentecostals/Lutherans/Presbyterians were (as well as Catholics, which my parents regularly deny as even being Christian, or Eastern Orthodox, whose only tadbit of info I ever got was that they were like Catholics, but rejected the Pope - enough of a reason for a small bit of praise, apparently, but nothing else), but I never got real answers (about the only thing was a 'Methodists don't believe in predestination', but that's more of a common rejection of Calvinism than anything). More recently, the fact that they really don't know what they believe aside from the nebulous 'anything that calls itself Christian is good' Fundagelical talking points is becoming clearer and clearer, wanting to church shop at nearby non-denoms and such because denominations apparently don't matter, and how dare you call yourself a Methodist or a Catholic or a Lutheran instead of a Christian (because the two are obviously mutually-exclusive). But they still humored me in my interest in theology post-high school and actually did get me
objectively-written reference books about denominational differences.
I came very close to asking for a copy of
The Sickness Unto Death for Christmas (I ultimately didn't), but I suspect that would do one of three things: A) spark uncomfortable discussions about 'where I'm going with my faith', B) refusing to get it because of the title alone (oh, the irony), or C) refusing to get it because
they read from one of the Moral Majority/Religious Right mouthpieces (Francis Schaeffer or not) that Kierkegaard is some sort of Evangelical public enemy #1. It'd be somewhat of a salient counterpoint to the 'Christian capitalist' books my dad has been inhaling recently, though. I won't outright call them 'Prosperity Gospel', since I'm not certain that's what they teach; instead, these things are basically saying 'God wants you to be rich so you can give to the poor, and the way you do that is by buying into our 'financial advice' wholesale, with diatribes about how you should be reading Mises, Rothbard, and Rand, voting for the Tea Party, and basically being a greedy, selfish [expletive], and that the parable of the Good Samaritan wasn't about loving your neighbor, it was about the fact that the Samaritan was rich'. Absolutely disgusting, to say the least. But my reason for wanting to read Kierkegaard has nothing to do with that; I've had strong existentialist leanings since high school, I simply want to finally get to reading the source texts.
It took me years to purge that negative, paranoid garbage from my system, and what was left actually was that core of Methodist values. Of course, I'm sure that if what I actually believe, religiously or politically, comes to light, my dad will immediately jump to the conclusion that it's me 'rebelling against' or 'trying to hurt' him.
Wow, this post was...not what I initially intended it to be (it turned more into a personal testimony). I still think it sheds some light on this thread's topic or meandering subtopics, though, so I'll leave it as-is.