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A message for all drivers:

Puptart

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In North Edmonton, Alberta, on May 30, a woman was struck and devastatingly injured. Her husband, Aaron Paquette (a First Nations artist), shared this piece through his Facebook page, and I wanted to post it here in hopes that it might be viewed by someone who needs reminding.

The funny thing is that every single one of us has probably had at least one little moment where we were perhaps hasty on the road.. perhaps distracted.. and even though at that time we carried on and nothing happened, it could have very easily gone the other way and turned into a tragedy.

Drive safe. Be aware. Don't take risks. Drive the speed limit. Stop when the light turns yellow. Make every shoulder-check. Give the right-of-way. Leave early to be on time. Don't rush. Don't be stupid.

Because the human body is no match for your 1500-pound piece of metal.



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On Wednesday May 30, 9:10pm a body was shattered.

The body was that of my dear wife. She was just finishing up an evening jog with a friend when she was struck by a vehicle. It hit her and then ran over her, pinning her body beneath one of the tires.

Her friend was screaming at the driver but he was unaware there was anybody beneath the car.

Police and Emergency Medical personnel lifted the car from off her.

I was not yet aware of any of this as I was at home. Our 1 year old baby asleep in his crib.

Backtracking events leads us to the road snaking through our neighbourhood (she was only a few blocks from home), and a yield sign that was mostly ignored.

A car and an SUV had a contest of who could be more impatient, or who could text best while driving. Exactly what was going on in the two drivers’ minds I doubt we’ll ever know. But lack of concern, lack of precaution led to the accident. That we do know.

When I arrived on the scene there were dozens of people who had poured from their houses to see what was the matter. Emergency vehicles were on scene and my wife was in an ambulance.

She was alive. I asked her if she knew me and where she was. She looked into my eyes and blinked twice. Her whole body was shaking from the shock.

That’s when I noticed her wrist was snapped in half.

Her face was bloody and beginning to swell.

A couple of hours ago, after a long night of tears and waiting, we found out the rest. And there will be more to come.

Deep cuts, contusions and road rash all over her body and across her stomach.

All her ribs are broken.

There are tubes draining the blood that is gathering between her ribcage and her lungs.

Her liver and pancreas are lacerated.

Along with her wrist are broken fingers. This is her left arm. She is left handed.

She has fractured vertebrae. The worst is the T11. It’s obliterated. They will fuse the vertebrae around it with metal plates. There will metal plates holding her wrist together.

She will live.

She has many surgeries ahead and a long road to recovery. It’s uncertain yet if there will be any loss of limb function or if there will be any long term effects from concussion.

She will not be snuggling with our baby for a very long time. She won’t be doing any of the things she loves.

She loves to teach. She has a grade 3/4 split class. She was so excited to get back to them after her maternity leave and now she won’t be back for a very long time.

She loves to run. She was going to run a half marathon in two weeks.

She loves yoga.

She loves dancing.

She loves playing with the baby.

Right now she has tubes all over her, keeping her still, sedated, and alive.

Because someone couldn’t wait three seconds at a yield sign.

Because someone wasn’t paying attention as they drove a 1500 pound weapon.

I’m writing this to let everyone who is going to ask know what happened.

But I am also writing it to ask everyone who reads this to realize that as you scan these words someone is performing surgery on my beautiful darling.

Please slow down.

Please don’t text.

Please be patient.

And please remember that every time you sit in that car you take responsibility for lives you will never know except in passing. Literally.

Pass by. Pass by. Be aware and pass by.

And please, pray for my wife and especially for our little one who already misses his mommy.

We are blessed.

She is alive.

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Please share this. Please let this horrific night make difference and save lives.

Please slow down and drive safe.
 
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So sad, hope she continues to heal and can someday get as much back of her life as possible.

Yesterday in Knoxville, a woman and her unborn child an a good Samaritan that had stopped to help them with their vehicle were all 3 struck and killed by a hit and run driver. The woman also leaves behind a 19 month old child, and the man who tried to help her leaves behind 5 children. Scary out there sometimes.
 
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If I hadn't been driving carefully in a 40 MPH zone, downhill on a curve, the man who was trying to kill himself in traffic that night would have had worse than a broken arm.

If you've never hit someone in your life be glad that you haven't.

It takes years to recover and though it could easily be an inattentive walker or tired cyclist moving into your lane you are still the one going fast in a heavy object.

Always drive aware.
 
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This is the kind of thing that makes me afraid to go out walking sometimes. I've been hit by a car once because the woman was not paying attention and was shocked to see someone going through the crosswalk when the light was green and the walking sign was lit. I just have a funny knee from it, thankfully. But so many areas (including where I live) don't have sidewalks and it's scary to just trust drivers when they may be too busy to notice or too arrogant to care about pedestrians.
 
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Always a good reminder. SO GLAD this poor woman is still alive and her brain wasn't injured. Hopefully with therapy, good care, love, patience, and God's blessing, she will persist and endure and be home soon with her family. I remember feeling similarly after my son was born. You suddenly realize that you've got a tiny, fragile, helpless baby in your car, and all the other drivers around you don't know that. Then I realized that OTHER cars might have babies in them... or children... or pregnant women... or sick people... or an elderly person. We tend to view other drivers as cars instead of human beings; let's try and change that way of thinking. Highways aren't a battle arena, they're just avenues for getting from one place to another. Get to your destination safely, and try to make sure others do, too.
 
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