This is something that hasn't bothered me until now. It isn't really that bad of a feeling. It is just one of those naging things. My gf and I have talked about kissing. She wants to wait till marriage. I agreed...but there is something that is naging me today. In her past she has kissed someone. But with me she isn't willing to. I guess it is just foolish thinking. I know she loves me. I just feel a bit like she isn't sure if I am the one she should kiss. Meh...I am gona have to talk with her on that. I just wanted to vent a little.
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Pope Gonzo
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I know it sounds silly, but you might want to do a practice kiss before the wedding... I won't get into waited-till-the-altar horror stories, but at least discuss what you both plan on doing 
Peck, more than a peck, throw your arms around her and run out of the church, etc?
Peck, more than a peck, throw your arms around her and run out of the church, etc?
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Ok just to make sure everyone knows...I am NOT trying to find an excuse to preassure her to kiss me! I am still willing to wait on it. The only thing I wanted to vent on was that it feels like she is holding back with me.
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I'm sure you know that she might have kissed someon in the past, but that's not where her beliefs are now. But I'm like you, I have a hard time forgetting the past. I don't really know what to tell you except to talk it out with her and at least make sure you're both on the same page about the whole issue. Let her know how you feel.
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Actualy neither of these are relavent lol. Because I am not talking about kissing her NOW. I am talking about later. I have been seeing her for over a month as more than friends, but friends before that.Bluelighted said:
But I talked with her tonight and came to an understanding.
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i'm guessing she kissed someone, realised that wether it seemes intimate or not, once you're away from the person, it becomes a lot easier to miss them in a physical way, and you find yourself wanting more then just cuddling. Plus, I think sometimes you only realise how special waiting to kiss someone is after you've had the experience of kissing someone.
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Actualy she was saving it because it IS speacial. And I respect that. She just wants me to know it means a lot to her when it is with me.
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invisiblebabe
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Interesting I am waiting til engagement (perhaps longer, as I've had a pre-engagement ring before.... we shall see). Everyone I know who is waiting has never kissed, though. If I may ask, what made her decide to wait after she's kissed before?
Oh, BTW, it's very awesome she is waiting, and that you respect her decision. Props to you
I am waiting til engagement (perhaps longer, as I've had a pre-engagement ring before.... we shall see). Everyone I know who is waiting has never kissed, though. If I may ask, what made her decide to wait after she's kissed before?Oh, BTW, it's very awesome she is waiting, and that you respect her decision. Props to you
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The reason she wanted to wait AFTER the last, was because of repentance. She knew a kiss was worth too much to just give for no reason. So she repented and desided she would not kiss anymore till then. Although she said the rule can be bent in engagmentinvisiblebabe said:Interesting
Oh, BTW, it's very awesome she is waiting, and that you respect her decision. Props to you
. I am more than willing to wait. She is amazing!
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I don't know Breetai. It smells fishy.Breetai said:
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Breetai
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Not yet it doesn't. First has to come the kiss!
I've always thought that people who wait to kiss until marriage are just too shy to try it. Is there any truth to this? Or maybe they are just scared that once they start, they won't know when to stop...
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I think that is part of it. Some people are weaker than others in differing areas. For some a Kiss would arouse too much.Breetai said:
I am waiting because it is not time yet. I have wanted to kiss her even on our first date. But as of yet I cannot be sure it would be serving her. I do not wish to kiss until we are more committed to each other. I do not wish to kiss her just because it would feel good. I want it to be right. She is so good and deserves that much consideration.
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Absolutely! Just because she has slipped and sinned in the past, giving something precious away lightly, doesn't mean she feels less about you.. but actually that she feels MORE. ( I went through this with my husband before we were married!)looksgood said:
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charligirl said:
Thanks for telling me that. I don't worry anymore that she is holding back. I know that she really isn't. I understand that she is just waiting on the action of a kiss for the best time. But she isn't holding it back in her heart, and thats what matters to me.
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