A HIGHLY sensitive person with struggles club

AnointedPoetess said:

Hey all, i will be having surgery tomm and will not be online for 6 to 8 wks.. i ask that you all keep me in prayer! i will miss this club and cf.. i am really nervous and a lil scared.. so plz show me the love and support i need.. ty

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Missing said:

Hi everyone, I would say that I definitely fit into the Highly Sensitive category. It is often a blessing but sometimes it is also a stumbling block. I feel things very deeply and am very emphathetic, I pick up on emotions and am pretty good at reading people. All of these things are very good. On the flip side though, I get my feelings hurt easily and take things very personally. A comment that most people would be able to shrug off will weigh on my spirit heavily and possibly for days and days.

Because I am so empathetic, I often want to give people the benefit of the doubt. I am very open and very considerate of other people's feelings and when I don't get that in return I am very hurt. I went through a really bad experience with people who I trusted and thought were my friends about a year and a half ago and now I wonder if I will ever trust anyone again. I feel I have to guard my heart so closely now and in doing that I can't be myself anymore. It saddens me because I love having friends and feel that I have so much that I love to do for my friends and right now I have no one to do that stuff for.

My heart breaks when I see people in pain and I want to help people that I see hurting in any way that I can. My husband thinks I am the most special person in the world for how I treat other people and that I am truly a one of a kind. I have a really hard time accepting this as I don't understand why everyone doesn't want to do things for other people. To admit that I am special in this way would mean that most people are not and that makes me very sad. I can grasp the concept of why someone would be mean to someone else intellectually of course, but my spirit can't comprehend why people treat one another the way they do.

Anyway, I just wanted to say that I am right there with all of you. I think someone mentioned a book earlier, "The Highly Sensitive Person". I read it a few years ago and I am thinking of reading it again. It's a pretty good book and can help give you some insight on how to deal with being highly sensitive.

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craftygal said:

This described me better than I could have described myself. Hope you guys have room for one more.

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Orchard said:

That book (the Highly Sensitive Person by Elaine Aron) changed my life. It made me realize why I was different, and that being this way is normal! I re-read it every year or so, just to remind me. It has been a wonderful blessing to me.

I am wondering, how does your sensitivity manifest itself? Are you all just emotionally sensitive, or is your nervous system sensitive to all kinds of stimulus like loud noises, bright lights, etc.?

Has anyone taken Elaine Aron's self-test? http://www.hsperson.com/pages/test.htm

I am not as emotionally sensitive as I used to be (meaning I don't get my feelings hurt as often I used to, but I used to be extremely sensitive in that way when I was a kid), but I am very sensitive to stimulus, such as loud noises, bad smells, general chaos, etc. I am also very empathetic and feel others' pain to the point where it's overwhelming. I am also socially awkward at times, getting nervous in crowds and not being being to articulate things very well in social situations. I also need a lot of sleep and a lot of alone time to recharge.

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leigh01 said:

i was wondering if i cud be in ya club plz
love leigh

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AnointedPoetess said:

Hi Groupies.. im finally home from having surgery but its been a hard recovery so far, but plz keep praying 4 me.. i am casted and may not b able to get on much until the pain and fevers are taken care of.. but ty all for praying 4 me.. the surgery went well.

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AnointedPoetess said:

You guys, my recovery has been so hard on me emotionally bc my folks are treating me not so nice and it hurts so much.. i was crying yest because the rage, hurt, was building up and i just couldnt take it no more.. my mom told me not to take it so seriously but she doesnt understand how sensitive i am.. her comments hurt my feelings and she thinks im just supposed to wear tough skin but i can't.. i dont know.. i talked to my aunt yest and she totally understood me bc shes sensitive too.. but i dont know how much more i can take now.. deep anger, hurt, pain, and everything else is like boiling inside me.. i just wanna explode.. Help!!!.. it has always felt like i could never tell my folks how i was, or am feeling bc it gets torn down or not listened too.. am i makin' sense? i hope so.. btw ty all for your prayers, they are much needed..

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AnointedPoetess said:

You guys, my recovery has been so hard on me emotionally bc my folks are treating me not so nice and it hurts so much.. i was crying yest because the rage, hurt, was building up and i just couldnt take it no more.. my mom told me not to take it so seriously but she doesnt understand how sensitive i am.. her comments hurt my feelings and she thinks im just supposed to wear tough skin but i can't.. i dont know.. i talked to my aunt yest and she totally understood me bc shes sensitive too.. but i dont know how much more i can take now.. deep anger, hurt, pain, and everything else is like boiling inside me.. i just wanna explode.. Help!!!.. it has always felt like i could never tell my folks how i was, or am feeling bc it gets torn down or not listened too.. am i makin' sense? i hope so.. btw ty all for your prayers, they are much needed..

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