A Haunting Problem

[John938]

Hello,

I am having a rather big problem, a friend of mine who is an atheist and I am rather concerned over his choices. He is into marijuana and is into rock music, he often goes out to concerts and sleeps with girls and doesn't marry them or even date them first! Should I try and save his soul before it's to late? And if so how do you think I should go about it, thank you fellow Christians!

 

[ladybuelah]

Should I try and save his soul before it's to late? And if so how do you think I should go about it, thank you fellow Christians!

Hey there its great you care about your friend but please understand you can not save your friend, that is Jesus's job not yours. He may choose to use you to reach your friend but in the end its up to Jesus to save your friend. Don't let it burden you. Sometimes the best thing you can do with a friend who isn't intrested in God is just love them for who they are and be different yourself. Focus on keeping your walk with God right, pray for your friend but don't try and force your faith on him it oftan does more harm then good.

Hope that helps!

 

[Tehchad]

There's a saying about leading a camel to the fountain but you can't make him drink. Jesus saves, you don't. You can encourage though! Have you prayed for him or invited him to church?

 

[John938]

Hello,

Yep I pray for him all the time, I invited him to church but he said he couldn't stand it.

 

[explodingboy]

Hello,

Yep I pray for him all the time, I invited him to church but he said he couldn't stand it.

As in he didn't go, or he did go and didn't like it?

also what sort of church, because there are a few even I find grim going to, Lutherans especially >_>

 

[DCHSKNIGHT]

Hey brother...

first off... there is nothing you can do to save this man. So give up trying...

If we could save our selves or each other, there would be no need for Christ. But as you look at this world with all its hates and evil, we need Jesus. The bible says there is no one who does Good, no not one. It also says that before Christ every waking moment of the heart is evil and the heart is Deceitful above all else. Your friend is a decitful liar, if he has ever hated then he is a murderer and you have already listed off a bunch of things already...

we are all that way. we are all broken and because of our brokenness we can do nothing. Jesus is that only that can and ever will save whether this atheist likes it or not.

Jesus will remain to be the only thing that saves whether we want him or not. He will never cease to be God and never cease to be that only name under heaven in which man can be saved...

That all be said... this man does not hate you or truthfully what Christians say or do, even in our own hypocrisy...

In my experince with people that reject Christ, they all claim it is one thing or another, from Hypocrisy or things not making sense, or what ever... what ever excuse they choose to use...

The truth is, they are using any excuse to hide the true issue... they are unwilling to submit to God because they are scared of him....

They might be scared because they had a father that beat them so the attribute that harsh abuse to God and run from him. Maybe some Girl was raped by a man and thus she lays that on God because in the bible is listed as male and to her all males will hurt her. Maybe he saw something bad and it did not stop and he prayed and prayed and it did not stop so he thinks God is cruel and thus that cruelty leads to him hating God.

The ultimate thing is, he is scared. all Atheists are... They are Scared of God. Scared that he might acutely be what he says he is. Scared that he is the perfect lover, scared that he is the perfect father and scared that God does not simply allow evil to happen. But evil happens because humanity fell and sin entered the world and the world is broken because of it.

They fail to realize that the fix to the problem is Jesus and that they have nothing to fear from him.

Dont pray from him to see the light or anything like that... pray that God will soften his heart, quite the fear and speak love into his life and That he will see the great mighty Master as a perfect lover, Father, friend and savior. Not as a condemner, or slave master, but as true loving father who loves to the deepest degree...

 

[John938]

Well he went to Church before but he said he couldn't stand the beliefs. He said he enjoyed the building of the church and the design but not the beliefs. He said he finds it fine to believe in a god as long as you do not worship that god because it is not normal to worship someone other than yourself. By which he said he means make your own life better and love yourself, you can only then love before you love yourself. It's kinda of confusing but thats what he said.

 

[NiobiumTragedy]

So stop trying to save him and let him find his own way. The best witness is sometimes the one where you keep your mouth shut i.e.: 'Please Lord, Save Me From Your Followers!'

 

[Clémentine]

It sounds like your friend is looking for things that make him feel good. That's pretty normal. Nothing you've described is really unusual, they are just enjoyable things. If you're concerned you could try to give him alternative ways to enjoy himself that don't involve anything you consider a sin. Also, talk to him about your beliefs and why you think he would be better off to accept them. Otherwise, just be a good friend and model your lifestyle for him. It might rub off on him.

 

[Sketcher]

Nothing's wrong with rock music. Gotta set some right mental boundaries before you can go in with the truth.

Also, he's not going to listen to you. Pray for him, but that's it. Remember Matthew 7:6 and John 6:44.

 

[singpeace]

ALWAYS use the examples set by Christ when He walked this earth:
And remember, eventually, your friend will come to know Christ and will greatly love Christ. He/she who is forgiven much, loves much.

John 8:4, 5, 7, 10 and 11
4. They say unto him, Master, this woman was taken in adultery, in the very act. 5. Now Moses in the law commanded us, that such should be stoned: but what sayest thou? 7. So when they continued asking him, he lifted up himself, and said unto them, He that is without sin among you, let him first cast a stone at her. 10. When Jesus had lifted up himself, and saw none but the woman, he said unto her, Woman, where are those thine accusers? hath no man condemned thee? 11. She said, No man, Lord. And Jesus said unto her, Neither do I condemn thee: go, and sin no more.

Luke 7:44-48
44. Then he turned to the woman and said to Simon, “Look at this woman kneeling here. When I entered your home, you didn’t offer me water to wash the dust from my feet, but she has washed them with her tears and wiped them with her hair. 45. You didn’t greet me with a kiss, but from the time I first came in, she has not stopped kissing my feet. 46. You neglected the courtesy of olive oil to anoint my head, but she has anointed my feet with rare perfume. 47. “I tell you, her sins—and they are many—have been forgiven, so she has shown me much love. But a person who is forgiven little shows only little love.” 48. Then Jesus said to the woman, “Your sins are forgiven.”

John 15:17
This is my command: Love each other.