a few questions

[Terax]

Hi.

I have recently began injuring myself and I haven't told anyone except a few people on here. It started out of curiosity and later developed into a form of punishment for myself and a way to release emotion.

I just had a few questions relating to this:

Do people tend to freak out when they find out that someone is a cutter?

Is it a good idea for someone to know? I kinda have the feeling that I am going to get a yes to this one... but I don't really want anyone to know at the moment. Especially my parents.

Sorry if I broke any rules. I have only posted in this area once.

 

[Bamboo_Chicken]

Hi Xistence - welcome to this part of CF . To answer your questions, a lot of people tend to freak out when they find out that someone self-harms, but it's what they do from there that counts. Some people will freak out and back off because they don't understand in and it scares them, while others will try to understand it because they don't want you to hurt. Some people won't care when you tell them, while others will ask you to stop. Some advice I would try to give would be that people tend to freak a lot less if you explain what's going on so they understand. We're a lot less afraid of the things we understand.

As to if it's a good idea to let someone know, I'd say yes . The problem with any addiction is that we're lead to believe it is a way for us to have some sort of control over the world, when in actuality it takes control away from us. But not wanting to share that with people is understandable...but it's also something you need to fight. As long as you keep it secret, it holds more power over you. By telling someone, you take the chance that they may reject you because they don't understand, but if you don't tell them, it is a whole lot harder to keep yourself accountable and to ever break free from this.

 

[ChristInAction]

Hey,
Welcome.
I'm sorry you've found your self here coz it aint good, but the earliers u try yo stop, the easier it tends to be.
the only person that have 'freaked out' on me was my mother & that was 3years ago, she ignored it & thought if she told me 2 stop, it would.
If you have a close friend or youth leader, i would really like to advise you to tell them. Its so much help to have a friend that you can turn to for help.

Hang in there, you can get threw this & we're always here with open arms when you need us.
Ally xox

 

[flying_kiwifruit]

I agree with what steffi said, a few friends of mine know and they all had different reactions from not caring to slapping me in the face and dragging me to the school coucellor like my best friend did. It's best I find to tell someone who you are close to and also if you can has a caring personalitly because these are the people who I find tend to react best.

It is good to tell someone it can take a lot of the pressure of having this huge secret of your shoulders and it also give you a person to be acountabil to if you want and if they are willing to.

 

[Terax]

My "friends" would never understand if I told them. Nor would they care. I have given up on telling anyone about my problems because it doesn't seem to do anything. I would tell my youth leader but: a.) I don't trust him. and b.) He doesn't know that I am no longer a Christian.
I would tell my parents, but they would go crazy and probably be extremely mad at me. I never told them that I have been suicidal for the past 4 weeks. Every conversation my mom and dad has ends in screaming.

 

[Bamboo_Chicken]

Is there anyone you could think of who you would feel ok telling? It doesn't even have to be your closest of friends, but someone who you think would be able to listen.

 

[Richard]

Hi.

I have recently began injuring myself and I haven't told anyone except a few people on here. It started out of curiosity and later developed into a form of punishment for myself and a way to release emotion.

I just had a few questions relating to this:

Do people tend to freak out when they find out that someone is a cutter?

Is it a good idea for someone to know? I kinda have the feeling that I am going to get a yes to this one... but I don't really want anyone to know at the moment. Especially my parents.

Sorry if I broke any rules. I have only posted in this area once.

Hi Xistence!

I've known people in my life that have cut themselves. I didn't freak out. I think its more of a sense of wanting to help. You are not alone in this struggle there are many teens out there that do this. However, posting here is a sign of you wanting to get help! And I pray that you do.

It is a good idea for someone to know because they can keep you accountable for not doing it. I know it can be hard telling someone, but once you tell someone [ such as close friends, or family members ] you will have a sense of freedom because now you will be able to get the help that you need.

I'm praying for you man!

If you have any questions you can PM me directly or post back.

Richard

 

[Terax]

Is there anyone you could think of who you would feel ok telling? It doesn't even have to be your closest of friends, but someone who you think would be able to listen.

I don't feel comfortable telling anyone right now... I am not extremely close to anyone.

 

[Leechness]

Hi.

I have recently began injuring myself and I haven't told anyone except a few people on here. It started out of curiosity and later developed into a form of punishment for myself and a way to release emotion.

I just had a few questions relating to this:

Do people tend to freak out when they find out that someone is a cutter?

Is it a good idea for someone to know? I kinda have the feeling that I am going to get a yes to this one... but I don't really want anyone to know at the moment. Especially my parents.

Sorry if I broke any rules. I have only posted in this area once.

hey Xistence,

funny you should mentioned how you started, coz its fairly similar.

bear in mind the act doesnt define you. dont get in to the habit of calling yourself a "cutter"

most times (sound minded) i believe when God is shaping us he will expose our impurities, not under condemnation but to bring conviction. conviction brings about change, for his greater good, which by grace includes his followers. --from personal experience, the day my friend discovered i self harm - that knowledge my friend gained was undoubtably given by God. in my circumstance i was and still am not prepared to tell others. it differs from person to person. if you have a slight feeling youd like to get help then i encourage you to tell someone you can trust and pray with.

 

[berry2000]

Hi! I find telling is the first step towards healing and recovery. One good safe person is enough at first. I've found the more light is shown on this dark secret the less power it has over us. The more i talk about it the weaker the secret becomes.

 

[livingforGod135]

My "friends" would never understand if I told them. Nor would they care. I have given up on telling anyone about my problems because it doesn't seem to do anything. I would tell my youth leader but: a.) I don't trust him. and b.) He doesn't know that I am no longer a Christian.
I would tell my parents, but they would go crazy and probably be extremely mad at me. I never told them that I have been suicidal for the past 4 weeks. Every conversation my mom and dad has ends in screaming.

u dont have 2 be a christian 4 ur youth leader to care, has he done something 2 break ur trust? if not then why not give him a chance? hes probs ur best bet 2 not tell any1 else and like every1 else said, its a good idea to tell some1 coz otherwise ur alone in the fight n it has more power ova u

 

[GradualMetamorphosis]

How about a school counselor?

 

[Terax]

I refuse to tell anyone who could possibly tell my parents. It isn't that big of a deal anyway.

 

[Celtic Camel]

Xistence, please understand that an SI is a big deal... what you are dealing with is important, and don't let anyone tell you otherwise.
unfortunately, I don't have much advise to offer, but please know that you are important and valuable and never alone.

praying for you
xoxox

 

[livingforGod135]

I refuse to tell anyone who could possibly tell my parents. It isn't that big of a deal anyway.

actually, yeah it is a big deal, u said yourself that you think u shud tell sum1, so u do have some idea of how much of a big deal it is... whoever you chose, start off by saying 'can i trust you... cant i tell you a secret... will you promise not to tell anyone'

 

[Terax]

I told my doctor and he is sending me to a counselor tomorrow morning.

 

[bubblefish]

Wes, I only just saw this.. how did it go?

 

[Terax]

My mom is getting me an appointment with a counselor or psychiatrist or something I went to the other guy for an evaluation and he told my mom that I needed to get help

 

[bubblefish]

Counselling may not be such a bad thing - they might be able to help you get through this. And really, well done with telling someone what is going on - it is a very big step in getting through.

 

[Jesusfreak4life8629]

Hey Wesley.

Well, welcome to the self-injury support. I've been a member here for a while, and all these people are great and only want to help. I've been in the SI place for almost a year now, and it really helps to tell people about how you feel. I know the words always pop in your head "And how does that make you feeeel?" It's not like that here, we just want to help you in any way possible.

That's good that you are getting help, admitting you have a problem is the first step to recovery!

If you ever need anything, you know my PM box is always open. If you want an adult to help you I would suggest Steffi, goldenviolet, or RichardMac. They are all AMAZING people.

Take care,

~*Sqiz*~