A decision

[Kristen]

I have heard of stories like this and thought I would never be put in a place where I had to make such a hard decision.

A couple months ago I found out I had cervical cancer. My doctor said whatever you do don't get pregnant. We'll here I am pregnant. Almost 7 weeks. I saw my doctor yesterday and he did an ultrasound and we saw our babies heartbeat. It looked like a little light flashing. It was so special.

I was supposed to have surgery the day after I found out I was pregnant (that was a few weeks ago) they need to do a cone biopsy to see just how bad the cancer is.

Here is the decision I have to make. Have the cone biopsy and take the chance of miscarriage or take a chance that the cancer will not spread. They want to do the surgery when I am 12 weeks pregnant. There is a danger for me as well as the baby during surgery because of where the cancer is located, bleeding could be a problem.

I have made a decision, I made it in about a half a second. I will wait until after delivery. I am scared and need prayers. My doctor said I am already a mother and he wants me around to be a mom to the 2 kids I already have. But I believe this baby is a gift from God. As well as my 3 year old and my 16 year old.

What would you do? Please pray and give any advice you can.

 

[ZiSunka]

Oh Kristen!!!! Congradulations on your baby!!!! I'm extremely happy for you!!!!

I will put you on all the prayer lists I know, that God will halt the cancer until your baby is born healthy!!!!!!

I am on my knees for you right now!!!

 

[StogusMaximus]

I will pray for you.

Being male and never having had to deal with what you are going through, my advice may or may not be at all helpful or wanted.

I would have to agree with your doctor. Your health and your ability to care for your children is what is most important.

Please forgive me if my following thoughts sound cold or harsh. I really do feel for you and I sympathize with you. If you were to have the operation and God forbid something were to happen to the baby, there is a chance that later on down the road you could have another, where as if something were to happen to you, your children will never have another mother. Please don't think my advice is unfeeling, I can't imagine what it would be like to lose a child, but I know what it is like to lose a parent.

One other thing you might think about is if you decide to wait till after you give birth to have the operation. Once again, God forbid, but what if the cancer turns bad before you have the baby? Both you and your child would be at risk.

I will pray that God comforts you and guides you in your decision. I will also pray for God's healing to overcome you.

 

[Kristen]

Thank you so very much Lambslove!

 

[Kristen]

Stogus, your opinions are completely valid and I do agree with you. I have been married for 13 years and have lost 4 pregnancies. We have one child together that was a mircle from God. That's all I needed. I have 2 beautiful girls and I can't ask for more. I do have a living life inside of me and it would be hard to put this baby at risk. Especially at 12 weeks gestation. I lost my Mom at seven and have NEVER recovered. As a matter of fact I cried for my Mommy the other day. I wouldn't want my kids to be without me. It's a tough one, I appreciate your thoughts I really do.

 

[MizDoulos]

Oh, my, Kristen, what a most difficult predicament to be in! What does Sean think? I agree with your doctor that your children need you, especially your 3 year old daughter. This is such a tough decision whether to go through with the biopsy and take a chance of miscarrying.

This is where I would listen to God's guidance. Since the biopsy may cause a miscarriage, that's one thing. If it definitely would cause it, that's another. I'm not saying one way or another, but this is something to consider. It isn't as though the procedure would definitely cause a miscarriage, know what I mean? If I were in your situation, I would talk it over with my hubby and pray for guidance and see what the Lord's will would be.

I'm so sorry you lost your mom at such a tender age. God's peace and blessings be with you!

My continued prayers are with you, Kristen.

 

[Dave Ulchers]

You;ve made a very courageous decision. Yer in my prayers too!

 

[SenseiPiccolo]

Youll be in my prayers

 

[eldermike]

Kristen,

I will add you to my small groups prayer list. We have some real prayer warriors in this group.

I am a 52 year old male, 3 grown children and 3 grand children and still married to their mother (for life). So my perspective is that of a father one more generation down the line.

you said "doctor" as in singular. You need more than one doctor in this decision. I have also discovered that there are many good Christian doctors.

I have had two battles with cancer in my life (so far), both caught early and both cured totally with surgery. I do know how the very word "cancer" affects us, I have been there.

I could not imagine what you must be going though, but seeking advise from Christians is the right thing to do. I pray that something someone says will give you peace with whatever decision you make. And I will pray that you seek additional professional advise.

In His service

 

[Kristen]

First Thank you all for your prayers.

Pat, Sean wants this baby. He is concerned both ways. He will back me up whatever my decision is.

eldermike, I have consulted with two doctors and my gynocologist talked to some doctors in Salt Lake City. They all want to go ahead with the cone biopsy. After my ultrasound my doctor told me he had a meeting with some other physicians that morning about me and they all agree that we should do the cone biopsy. They say the decision is mine of course. I am going to pray about it like Pat suggested and see. It is a very hard thing. Thank you for your prayers!

One more thing. One doctor told me that pregnancy would make the cancer spread, and another told me that it would make no difference.

 

[Blynn]

I am also praying Kristen. I have put you on a prayer list at my church.

This is a very difficult thing. I pray that God will guide you in making the right decision.

God bless you and your family,
Roberta

 

[amie]

Hi Kristen,
I am praying for you with everything I have...I want you to remeber this...if this baby is meant to be here, they will biopsy or no biopsy...God will find away...and this baby has already taught you so much about yourself for this child lives not only in your womb, but grows in your heart as well...I know this is so difficult and I know that your children all need you, I pray that you make the right decision and I say once again, if the child is meant to be born, it will find a way to get here...no matter what...with all my love and blessings, I am praying...
Amie

 

[amie]

Sean ,
how are you doing through all of this? you are in my prayers as well...with love and blessings...
Amie

 

[Kristen]

I was so sure I wanted to wait until this baby was born to do anything. I am now thinking of doing the biospy. Thank you amie and blynn for your prayers. I will pray hard about this. It's all I can do.

 

[solo66 man]

Kristen, what are the chances of this being cancer? Is there a reason you face a more that you face extensive chances of it being cancer?
I will pray for you as always, but even more so now.
God Bless You and Sean. I pray all is good for you.

 

[amie]

Kristen ,
If I could take this from you and put it in me, in order to give your baby the best chance, I would...and I wish there was a way I could do that! you have all my prayers though! God Bless you, Sean and your 3 children...with all my love,
Amie

 

[Kristen]

Solo, You know that is a good question. I already had 3 biopsys. That is when I was told that I had carcinoma (basically cancer). They need to do a cone biopsy to see if has inbedded into the tissue and spread I believe. And also to remove the existing cancer. It usually is a safe procedure but where it is located it is in a bad place. I was told it is near membranes that tend to bleed and that is a danger. I tell myself what I was told, that this is a slow growing cancer and what would another 7 months do? Anyway I thank you as always for your prayers Solo. I am going to see if I can educate myself on this subject on the internet. If you run across anything let me know.

Amie you are so sweet. You sound like an angel. Thank you for your kind words!

 

[Mandy]

I'm praying for you too Kristen.

 

[solo66 man]

Just so you know, Kristen, I was at my pastors house tonight and we had prayer for you and your baby.

 

[Nick_Loves_Abba]

Kirsten, God's will be done. Whever happens, God will be with you all the way. I feel whatever advice I could give, would be insignificant at most. So here's my encouraging thought.

God's will is unstoppable. If it is Gods will that you have your baby, there is nothign in earth or heaven or anywhere else that oculd stop it. God is a God of Love. He is with you 100%, he is your best friend, you listener, your counselor, and your savior. All I can do is encourage you to pray to GOD for the answers you seek, which I already belioeve you are doing. I'll be praying for you.

The poem "footsteps" is brought to mind. I'm sure you know it. When we are in our toughest times, Jesus will be there 100% helping you out, even carrying you through the tough times.

I truely feel sympatheitc towards you. May GOD BLESS YOU ABUNDANDLTY in all that you do.

Jesus guide and comfort Kristen in her time of need. -Amen-