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[bèlla]

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You're waiting for someone who can handle you? How will she know without having a gander? Maybe she'll temper the extremes without diminishing your ministry. A balance of sorts.

~Bella

I see what you're saying. A little yin to the yang is always good. But not many women would willingly enter into marriage with a man knowing beforehand that one day he's going to be brutally murdered. If odds you do, pass 'em my name. I'd be happy to meet her. Lol

 

[ReesePiece23]

Now, nothing. Years ago I was very tunnel visioned and couldn't juggle life. So to tick off my bucket lists and fulfil goals I needed to be left alone to work at a frenetic pace.

Now that I'm older, I'm more methodical and deliberate with what I'm doing. I slowly cross items off the list and work at mellow pace. I can't see a reason for being single anymore, in fact the right personality could be a massive asset to me.

I enjoy the moment more too. In my early 20's all I could think about was getting to the finish line. I think art taught me to enjoy building, designing and crafting NOT finishing. I like being a little older as well, I like me more now lol.

 

[GospelS]

If odds you do, pass 'em my name.

And I'm still learning to vocalize your username ( ͡° ͜ʖ ͡°).

 

[( ͡° ͜ʖ ͡°)]

And I'm still learning to vocalize your username ( ͡° ͜ʖ ͡°).

If it helps to be any easier on you, my name is Bart.

 

[bèlla]

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[VMaeLove]

My Being Single is not because I try and fail. There is no trying. I hold myself back and excuse it as being, busy, with life and work and family. But when I think of it that is only excusing the honest fear of intimacy and restraint and disappointment.
being single feels better for me.
Maybe it is or is not but that is my personal li(f)e.

 

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[Sketcher]

So, why are you single? What's holding you back? Don't focus on a person or situation in your answer. Consider your contribution to the dilemma.

In a sea of singles, why are you free?

- I don't want to get my heart broken for nothing again.
- People I know who are like myself have a high rate of divorce and cohabitative relationships that break up.
- If I avoid that, I do not see myself as being able to provide a better childhood for any children I would have than I received. And any children I would have would deserve better.

I would like to have solid reasons to not believe that starting a relationship would end up at one or more of those bad endings, but I have not found them yet.

 

[.Mikha'el.]

The fact I keep attracting women a heck of a lot better on here than real life does not help.

 

[bèlla]

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[Sketcher]

I think you're selling yourself short. You present a level-headed self-awareness in your responses and that's half the battle. Understanding your strengths and weaknesses and their impact on the partnership.

Thank you.

Statistically, you may be the underdog. That's what the numbers say. But they don't have God in their corner. Or the insight He's given. You do. Exceptions exist. Are you certain you aren't the next?

I would need more than simple optimism to believe that. God helps us when it suits him to, and he doesn't help us when it suits him to let us have nothing but our own strength, even when what we want and need from him is good. I therefore cannot rely on God to actually help me with the pain points I vaguely mentioned, unless he gives me a word that he will.

 

[Rigatoni]

I think the main reason for me is nonstop bad experiences with dating. I've never gotten overly close to anyone. However, there were many times when it seemed like the stars were aligning and like God was finally unveiling the right person and situation. Somehow or another, the situation always seemed to self destruct.

I'm very trusting and like seeing the best in people. Although after a while, when you deal with situations like that so often, you just stop trying and stop trusting people. I wasn't fully aware of it, but I was approaching dating in a very sheepish way and wasn't sure what I really wanted, or if it was even possible to open the door of my heart to anyone else again. Nor do I want to take out those frustrations on someone I care about.

Although, lately God has lit a fire under me, and I'm trying to break free of that mindset. I don't want to be restrained by those experiences, nor do I want to hold back when the right gal crosses my path. She deserves better than that, and I want to strive to be the man she needs me to be - the person God sees inside of me. The real Rigatoni.

 

[ReesePiece23]

I don't like that pace. I enjoyed it years ago but I've grown accustomed to a different cadence. The past two months were ridiculous and I didn't have a break until last week. I'm still recovering.



Same here. My schedule's full and I love the grind. But it isn't brutal in the measure I've known before. I need time for myself and interests outside of work.

There was definitely a period when I didn't want to settle down. But I'm at a point in my pursuits where the absence is affecting me. I'm growing too fast. I need to pour out in a manner that isn't possible outside of companionship. The service and intention has a leveling effect that humbles me. That's the point.



I'm playing the long game now. The thrill of accomplishment still exists. But I'm competing with myself. Not others. The satisfaction I receive from achieving my goals (both large and small) is more pronounced than it was in the past. I was a workaholic. That life has no appeal. I prefer the current one.

~Bella

I hear you.

I feel as if you're transitioning into a sort of renaissance (for want of a better word), and the pressure has now passed its peak. The diamonds are close for you, very close.

Real talk, I'm not 'squiffy' or anything. I'm being dead genuine.

 

[Olmhinlu]

Who knows

 

[Niels]

Why am I single?

I haven't met the right one.

Cliché, perhaps, but true.

It's tempting to blame one's flaws, but each of us is flawed regardless of relationship status. I can't think of any flaws of mine that I haven't also seen in dating couples or married folks. We should strive to improve ourselves, but that isn't unique to singles either.

It's possible that something I'm doing or not doing is holding me back, but her absence isn't helping.

 

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